ADVICE NEEDED: My girlfriend refusing to work for 30 days, should I be upset?

You're not going to lose your house or car from not working during a pandemic.

Get real.

There are 100 million other Americans in the same boat. TPTB are not going to evict all of you and take all of your cars, they're most likely going to issue a moratorium on mortgages/rent/etc and reimburse the landlords/banks.

Don't do stupid shit (like working dangerous jobs during a fucking bioweapon pandemic).

And don't do stupid shit for stupid reasons (like idiotically claiming you'll lose your house and car if you or your girlfriend don't work right now).

Both of your asses should be planted at home.

Are you working?

Remind her of all the abortions she had.

She should quit for 3 weeks, and go back then.

Here's some advice ... for your girlfriend ... tell he to go find a real man, she sure as hell does not have one now

1) Massage therapist ... one needs at least 6 feet of separation, how does she keep herself safe and do her job?

2) Have you no concern for HER health?

3) Are you stupid? If she gets infected, so do you!

Finally, why the FUCK did you bring this conversation HERE of all places? Have you no real friends? No one you can talk to?

You are a sad example of a man ... or a lousy troll

either way, she has already lost

Thanks for the advise WHITE KNIGHT.... should he wipe her asshole too until she resents him?..

OP.... Put your foot down and make a decision or she will not respect you, no matter her REACTIONS. Let her stay home if she doesn't feel safe. Do not be wishy-washy. Figure out what YOU want as a man and do it. Respect her option of course because you love her but don't wipe her ass. It's like a man who constantly tries to be too nice, women resent you and lose attraction in the long run. I don't know her personality but this is a general rule of thumb. Reactions are opposite with women. This is why you don't listen to women's advice. I know at this time it's not all about attraction but being safe although this does comes into play.

If you need to, and you can, take out a small loan of like 2k if that will suffice but no more than you can handle until she can work later or what you can pay monthly. This will help to pay it back when she can work. We will get through this.. don't play into the doom. Let her know that getting rid of non-essentials will need to happen. If she truly cares for you and her own health, she will agree. But do it anyway. Let her know you are there for her.

Remember, as you stated, she starts crying. So don't get pissed, lay things out and tell her to look at you and listen and reassure her. If she starts arguing too much tell her to you will talk to her when she is calm. Coerce her and keep it light hearted so she is comfortable.

You aren't being "unsympathetic".. this is not the goal anyway. It's about logic and reason.. Women function on an emotional level and explaining logic at times does not work. So don't try to explain everything too much.

Remember.. do whatever the fuck you can as a man. You are smart and you can figure out a way.

Last Edited by OptimusPrimeX on 03/24/2020 12:23 AM

He's just said the car bills are in her name.

You should be, if she doesn't work You might have to and that's not fun.

Our universities are closed and I asked my daughters to stay home for their own safety until things blow over. My wife has only left the house twice in the last two weeks because I told her the same thing. I guess it's a matter of priorities, there's nothing we have that's more important to me than they are.

To the wife, dump the guy, he seems to be useless.

Go your own way. Stay home and wait this out. You seem to have the finances.

If she doesn't work, you don't get her $$ for bills. If you break up with her, you don't get her $$ for bills. Same result either way. This would be true no matter the circumstances.

Wow tough crowd.

You write with a passion. Tell more. "On air" as on the tv or in air? is that prophecy or what q said? Wherd do u think q is from? Archangel or ascended master?

Wake the fuck up. Live within your means and either get married or live single. I'm hoping you're smarter than your actions indicate.

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Leave the bitch

This is legit good advice...
Told husband a week ago "stay home or stay at your boss' place" (boss refused even a discussion on how to plan ahead)

Yeahk now my state has 48 hr before lock and is about to be a ratfuck show..m

if you be a dick now, you may be an unemployed dick in the future

tell your boss to pay you more money so you can support her because she doesn't want to work.

Sending or allowing anyone that you live with out there during a pandemic is sheer madness and/or borderland retardation.

I don't understand why he doesn't just pimp her out.

Why does what she do affect you? Unless...you were stupid enough to be degenerate and shack up with her. Put a ring on it or kick it out. If you put a ring on it then she'll stay at home where she belongs once you knock her up.

No fricken way I'd give massages during this outbreak.
She's smart ditching it until or if this crap blows over.

Be thankful you have a woman with some common sense.
I hear Amazon is hiring phone customer service.
She needs a work at home job for awhile.

Lot's of people are hurting, in most states you can get behind on an auto payment 60-90 days before they repo it.
You could always stash her car somewhere until you could make up the payments.

There's going to be thousands of people behind on cars and mortgages so I would guess banks might give some kind of lifeline so they don't have to repo thousands of cars.

But, I'd just be safe and take it to a friend that can garage it, maybe out of city limits just to be safe.


Lots of cars have hidden trackers so be sure to put it inside a locked garage or inside a backyard under a tarp and padlock the gates.

Have you never been to a chiropractor?? A massage therapist at a chiropractor doesn't use their hands to massage dudes. They're mostly massaging females, and its NOT with their hands. They use machines to "massage". Or at least back in the day when my mom dragged me to her chiropractor's office. There's no hand massage, it's not a strip club! Its all completely sterile.

So, you are saying her name is NOT on the house or mortgage?

You could just terminate her residence there with you at anytime, but you want her to pay her "share"?

Share of what? Your house payment?

You know, I have actually been thinking of opening up my heart to another relationship... but hearing this same old use-me, use-you bullshit here sure cured that idea.

She is not your lady-love, she sounds like more of a tenant.

I was married to a man like that, and almost forgot what assholes you can be!

Thanks so much for the quick refresher, OP!
Many thanks!

I’m fortunate to be able to stay home during the pandemic, but I’ll tell ya, I’m terrified. I am NOT one to live in fear every day, and with this, I AM. My youngest and I are vulnerable to the point that if we get this, we could die.

He and I have not left the house in a week, other than to drive in my car to get a change of scenery, but we’re not letting anybody come in...I let the fiancé have his dad, my dad, and some buddies over on the front porch for beer...but, did NOT let them in my home.

My fiancé is considered “essential” so he’s still working, doing all the grocery runs, etc. Poor man is doing it all because of my fear. And, I gotta say, I love him more now than I did before this because, even if he thinks I’m crazy, he’s doing what I need to feel safe...to me that’s loving and selfless...

Women process fear and stress differently than men, anyhow, but this has put real fear into me. Try to be patient, loving, understanding with her through this.

don't listen to the home wreckers that say ditch her

regardless of your "legal status"

the state / government has no business in the "regulation" of marriage

marriage is the union of a man and his wife

and the moment you engaged in

you consummated a marriage union

you are joined together

the traditional vows should still be part of the stability of your union

...
for better or worse
in sickness and in health
for richer or poorer
until death do us part
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stick it out, work it out,
don't be so fn shallow as to turn tail and run because
you don't think you're gonna make it on single income
for starters it's time to reduce unnecessary expenses

this thread suffers from a surfeit of judgemental cunts.

OP, I didn't read all the responses so, my apologies, if this is a repeat.

I believe times like this are times we have to step back and reflect on what is really important in life. I understand you are concerned about the financial hit, BUT, with a bit of creativity, you and your gf could find alternatives that work for both of you.

For examples...

* Can she talk to the doctor about having online interaction with her clients to teach them how to care for themselves at home?

* Does she have any other skills that can make telecommuting possible? (ie medical bookkeeping, tutoring, etc.).

* Maybe she could talk to the supervising doctor about cleaning the office after hours - no direct exposure to others, but some money coming in.

* Do you two have any items that can be sold to bring in some cash so the hole isn't as deep?

* What type of work do you do and can any of these ideas work for your skill set?

Get creative and think outside the box.

All the best to you.

Were all in this together, if were going to default on our vehicles, then we all do it, if we cant pay back the credit card, we all do it, trust her judgment and don't worry about your bills, don't pay your car payment if its due save that money for supplies, and compromise with your landlord, tell them what your willing to pay don't chase your tail around on this just stay focused