how hard is a death of direct family member

My son died last year. I am dead as I type this...that's how it feels. May you never go through it. But you will.

They say no parents should experience death of their son or daughter. May I ask why? If you don't mind me asking.

It's Life, as difficult as it can be.

You will experience it. It is a fact.

Love them, honor them, appreciate them now.

Death of a child is unimaginable to me, so sorry. OP- youre very lucky to have never lost a close family member, you will, and it will be excruciatingly hard. Enjoy every moment youve got with them.

I Love you... and then I hate you... this makes me cry..

It destroys your family.

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... lost my dad when I was 17 years old ... he died in an auto accident so we only saw his dead body ...
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... my mom lived to 95 years old when she passed after living with nasty health issues ...
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... hardness of death probably depends on age - health conditions - interface with person - and many where you believe the passed go? ...
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Its probably the hardest thing you face.

Its true that time heals.

for me it is compartmentalizing it...lost my grandparent in jr high, my mom when I was 27 and my hubs 3 years ago. Everyone deals differently (VERY) I have learned to give it a short time, deal and move on. Grief is fine, it's healthy, but you can't live there

it depends, if they treated you like a nobody then you'll have no problem.

Super fucking traumatic...and you will never be the same after...

Life changing event. Speak from experience, it will show you what life is about and may help you make better decisions about your life. Since when faced with death, it becomes so clear what matters in life and 99% of things become irrelevant.

It's a great growth opportunity for your soul, but it hurts, quite deeply. You need to find ways to cope, learn/grow from such experiences and not be dragged down by sorrow.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

I have lost my Mom, Dad, and one sister so far. I was heartbroken and sad but did't cry. Why? I know where they will be.

You will never know the true definition of love until you have a child. When you do, then you will know why.