My niece was in a terrible car accident. I'm drinking til I get word that she's out of surgery. Talk to me glp. *Update pg 10

Thank you God!!!

Now for the hard part. Do not expect the boyfriend to stay around. He's not going to deal with the scar on her face very well. Vanity is in all the youth and vanity does not like ugly scars or marks where everyone can see them. And as she is going to be laid up for months and no sex... Yeah, don't expect him to stay around. As far as his control over her goes.... LOL That is also over. She is not going to be worried about much but herself for a while as she might even find out she doesn't want him around since he is NOT going to be able to relate to her anymore. Her old life is gone and she's left him behind physically and soon emotionally too. He is going to go on with his little life and she is not going to be able to go on with him. It's a natural progression that will happen. He will get tired of having a "sick" girlfriend that can not do anything with him and his friends. He will not be able to show her off and he will have problems coping with it all. I might think different if she was married but she's not. He will go on soon enough.

The problem is that once she is brought home, she will have to have someone stay with her, in the same house, all the time. Until she gets back up out of that bed, she will need 24 hour, not really care but you don't want her there all by herself. She is basically going to be helpless and that's a very horrible feeling..... And she's not going to be mobile enough for a little while to go into an adult day care so you will have to hire someone or get some family to help you out. You didn't mention the father of this girl but if he's there, he is going to help out. If not... she is going to need some help. Even grocery shopping for a couple hours a week will become harder because you worry. What if something happens and the kid is helpless and can not move? She will get worn down fast if she doesn't have help.

If you can go visit for a month after she gets home for a short while, it would really help. At least until she gets to where she can sit up and is in rehab. Those wheelchairs are not that light. They can be pretty heavy depending on the chair. And she will use one. Also a walker. And have your sister get a bedside toilet. Like this one. Tell her to be looking around at flea markets and such for stuff like this. Hopefully insurance will cover it... [link to www.walmart.com (secure)]
This thing is wonderful, just wonderful. Nasty for Mom but wonderful for the injured. Of course, she will not need it for a little while but she is going to want out of those diapers as soon as she can get out of them. They might have her hooked up to a cath which is a pain to deal with too. When the cath comes out, tell her to squeeze those muscles because she is going to pee herself. Damn caths. Tell her those little thin period pantie pads are great and carry extras because she will leak until her muscles get back in shape. Sucks really bad as it takes a while to get those muscles back and I still cough and pee sometimes dang it. These days, I take a shower and change. LOL BTW, wheelchairs do not fit in the bathroom doors, that's why you want the bedside toilet. Wheelchairs will fit every door in the house but the dang bathroom door. Stupid door is the smallest in the house. I have no idea why that is either. Dumb, dumb, dumb.

Unfortunately, your niece is now an infant again. She is going to be upset that someone has to help her pee and such. It's embarrassing, even if it's your own Mom. At first they will keep her drugged up to keep her still. But after that, she is going to be awake and feeling.... well nasty. She is not going to be able to take a bath or shower for a while. Sponge baths only and they don't seem to get you really clean. Her first shower will be lovely for her. Reminds me. Shower chair is in her future.

So equipment you are looking for is... wheelchair, walker, cane (maybe), shower chair, bedside toilet chair. See about renting a wheelchair or borrowing one because she's not going to be in it that long hopefully until she graduates to the walker. But she will need it a few months more than likely. And maybe more. The docs will know somewhat how long as they will go on averages. Your niece is not average. She is going to BEAT the odds. She is strong like you and her Mom. Have faith. Pray. God hears all prayers even if we don't like the answers.

Eventually, like me, she will come to see that accident as a good thing. A life changing event she needed although she didn't want it. She will learn and grow from this and so will the ones surrounding her. It will be an adventure. A painful one but a journey she must take now as she's committed.

10 hours surgery? Nice!!! She's not that bad off if they only took 10 hours. I was 20 hours in surgery for just a crushed leg. LOL As far as babies go... don't worry about that. God takes care of that too. Where there is a will, there is a way. I'm happy for ya OP!!! Now if your niece doesn't crash, plan on taking a vacation. Don't you need a vacation? LOL Take that Trump cash and go see your sister. She will love you for any and all help you can give her. She is going to be worn down soon enough. Prayer is a powerful thing. Prayer make miracles happen.

Has she woken up yet?

Yes, she's awake now. Apparently she thinks that she was walking down the street with friends and got hit by a car.

*Update*- she's alert now, and talking. It seems that the only reason she survived is because they just happened to crash in front of a nurse's house. The nurse said she was almost dead when she got out there. So there was luck number 1. They spun out and hit 4 parked cars, and she was ejected on the 3rd hit. She skidded and landed under a parked truck, thus missing the 4th spin of the car. Luck number 2. She cut her head open down to the skull, and managed to not have any brain swelling. Luck number 3. And, they needed to mercy flight her but couldn't, yet she survived the ambulance ride.

Someone was watching over her.

OP, go get an aloe plant or 3.

Here is a scar remover that really works (it takes 2 years but it works).

After her skin is completely healed...not even a scrape (NO BROKEN SKIN) you apply aloe (from the plant) to the scars...it dries in about 10 minutes then you apply vitamin E oil on the scars (stick a pin in a vitamin E capsule).

I've had some amazing results using that old home remedy!

Thank you. She's very lucky to be alive. Whether it was God or my mother, someone was watching over her. The other three people walked away with barely a scratch. And they're all trying to get sympathy though she's the one in ICU and they provided the alcohol.

Yes, she's awake now. Apparently she thinks that she was walking down the street with friends and got hit by a car.

*Update*- she's alert now, and talking. It seems that the only reason she survived is because they just happened to crash in front of a nurse's house. The nurse said she was almost dead when she got out there. So there was luck number 1. They spun out and hit 4 parked cars, and she was ejected on the 3rd hit. She skidded and landed under a parked truck, thus missing the 4th spin of the car. Luck number 2. She cut her head open down to the skull, and managed to not have any brain swelling. Luck number 3. And, they needed to mercy flight her but couldn't, yet she survived the ambulance ride.

Someone was watching over her.

Surviving that is a miracle!. God bless her.

Yes, she's awake now. Apparently she thinks that she was walking down the street with friends and got hit by a car.

*Update*- she's alert now, and talking. It seems that the only reason she survived is because they just happened to crash in front of a nurse's house. The nurse said she was almost dead when she got out there. So there was luck number 1. They spun out and hit 4 parked cars, and she was ejected on the 3rd hit. She skidded and landed under a parked truck, thus missing the 4th spin of the car. Luck number 2. She cut her head open down to the skull, and managed to not have any brain swelling. Luck number 3. And, they needed to mercy flight her but couldn't, yet she survived the ambulance ride.

Someone was watching over her.

Yes, she's awake now. Apparently she thinks that she was walking down the street with friends and got hit by a car.

*Update*- she's alert now, and talking. It seems that the only reason she survived is because they just happened to crash in front of a nurse's house. The nurse said she was almost dead when she got out there. So there was luck number 1. They spun out and hit 4 parked cars, and she was ejected on the 3rd hit. She skidded and landed under a parked truck, thus missing the 4th spin of the car. Luck number 2. She cut her head open down to the skull, and managed to not have any brain swelling. Luck number 3. And, they needed to mercy flight her but couldn't, yet she survived the ambulance ride.

Someone was watching over her.

Yes, she's awake now. Apparently she thinks that she was walking down the street with friends and got hit by a car.

*Update*- she's alert now, and talking. It seems that the only reason she survived is because they just happened to crash in front of a nurse's house. The nurse said she was almost dead when she got out there. So there was luck number 1. They spun out and hit 4 parked cars, and she was ejected on the 3rd hit. She skidded and landed under a parked truck, thus missing the 4th spin of the car. Luck number 2. She cut her head open down to the skull, and managed to not have any brain swelling. Luck number 3. And, they needed to mercy flight her but couldn't, yet she survived the ambulance ride.

Someone was watching over her.