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Anonymous Coward User ID: 76919073 Germany 06/04/2020 11:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are instable. That is why she is too. Find out what you really want. Go hiking or something. STOP talking to her every day. And MEET her instead of calling. Sometimes with instable people (aka narcs) they just want what they can't have & throw away what they had. FORGET about her for a while. Concntrate on yourself. Are you a narc? Find out! Good luck. And vote for Trump in November :-) I can't :-) |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78978101 United States 06/04/2020 11:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hello, I'm wondering if anybody might have some advice for me. I know a conspiracy forum isn't the right place to ask but I don't really go on any other forums. Quoting: Ra 74493934 Im just looking for some opinions. This post will probably bore most people, so just skip unless you're interested in giving suggestions. So I've been dating this girl for about 2 years and she lived in another country and recently moved to the states. I was planning on seeing your but this whole coronavirus thing happened when she moved here. We have had a really good relationship but after being laid off i started to drink quite a bit. I acted pretty stupid a couple times when i was drunk and she broke up with me. I wasn't mean, but i just acted like an idiot. She then broke up with me and eventually she told me that she likes me alot but doesn't like the person i have acted like. She said she still needs time to decide if we are to get back together. She needs to see that i changed. I stopped drinking and am trying to get my life together. Not just for her, but im 28 and should be getting sh!t together anyway. It's been a couple weeks since she broke up with me and we still talk everyday but it's definitely not the close relationship we had. I lost alot of her trust and can tell she is very hesitant about being Romantic. Conversation is good but she addresses me almost like a friend. Im not too sure how to get her back , other than to keep improving my life and hope she notices im not a loser. I can't help but say i love you or stuff like that to her because we used to say that all the time. I text her alot and i can't tell if im being to pushy and starting to come off as desperate. I don't want to be annoying, but i also do not want to lose the connection we still have. Any advice? The country is on fire and this dumb ass thinks we care about their shitty little life. Fuck off no one cares! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 63701625 United States 06/04/2020 11:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You say she moved to "the states". Does this mean to your neighborhood, or more like she moved to some place 4 states away from you? If this relationship is nothing but online and/or cell phone stuff, aim to meet a real woman in the physical. This is what humans are designed to do. Regardless of what you do with this relationship, continue your self-improvement mission. Good job on that. |
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User ID: 78529321 United States 06/04/2020 12:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OK OP YOU ASK, NOW TAKE YOUR MEDICINE. I have been in a long distance relationship for ten years with a woman who is IN LOVE with me. In the beginning of the relationship i was a drunken FOOL FOOL..crazy vodka induced psycho rants. She never said A FUCKING WORD TO ME ABOUT IT. I eventually quit drinking a few years ago (DUI) holy shit nightmare. "I get it God" So i put it down COMPLETELY. now we moved forward. She and i have what is THE MOST SURREAL ethereal love ever imaginable. So having said that let me share my immediate FEELINGS when reading your post. "SHE DOESNT LOVE HIM, BEST HE ACCEPT THAT AND MOVE ON OR HE WILL CONTINUE IN MISERY" SIR SHE IS JOCKEYING FOR THE UPPER HAND IN THE RELATIONSHIP. you never ever ever ever want to let a WOMAN think she has the upper hand in a relationship or she will NEVER respect you as her CAVE MAN...TRUST ME OR NOT SIR. GOOD LUCK..LOTS OUT THERE MY FRIEND... P.S. the most powerful thing you could do right now is ghost, ignore her.NOT A FOOKING WORD. If she comes back you get her and her respect which is the foundation of any powerful relationship. IF NOT ...you exposed that she DOES NOT LOVE YOU. ACCEPT IT AND MOVE ON. DONT BE A FUCKING PUSSY. YEAH IT HURTS... Last Edited by Ghetto Guy on 06/04/2020 12:04 PM ALL IS WELL" |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78074827 United States 06/04/2020 12:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It’s not a lost cause bro but let me be real with u If she broke up with you, stop saying I love u. No excuses. Respect the boundary because if u don’t you’re probably not making a better impression You’re out of sync with each other but it’s just waves, how things go. The waves can come back together and it can rekindle things but it will require this 1. U get ur shit together for real, demonstrating stability 2. Some time for her to process the relationship 3. U decide if u wanna be friends or lovers, one or the other, and act accordingly (meaning that you bide ur time and make a move again at the right moment instead of letting the flavor of the relationship change the taste in her mouth) If u give her space there’s the risk she moves on, finds someone else, or that u never resync with each other So maybe u might want to go for the friendship. It is also a way forward but it is much more difficult to get it romantic and will take even more time than backing off and giving her space if it ever leads to romance at all. On the other hand if you are able to develop a lasting friendship maybe in time and various relationships and with maturity u may take the practical route of getting more intimate with each other. So many different routes possible but it comes down to how u wanna be, man. Putting myself in ur shoes bro it’s a painful spot, but if she put up a wall , well. U know her better than any of us do, so u know if she means business. |
Ra (OP) User ID: 74493934 United States 06/04/2020 12:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OK OP YOU ASK, NOW TAKE YOUR MEDICINE. I have been in a long distance relationship for ten years with a woman who is IN LOVE with me. In the beginning of the relationship i was a drunken FOOL FOOL..crazy vodka induced psycho rants. She never said A FUCKING WORD TO ME ABOUT IT. Quoting: Ghetto Guy I eventually quit drinking a few years ago (DUI) holy shit nightmare. "I get it God" So i put it down COMPLETELY. now we moved forward. She and i have what is THE MOST SURREAL ethereal love ever imaginable. So having said that let me share my immediate FEELINGS when reading your post. "SHE DOESNT LOVE HIM, BEST HE ACCEPT THAT AND MOVE ON OR HE WILL CONTINUE IN MISERY" SIR SHE IS JOCKEYING FOR THE UPPER HAND IN THE RELATIONSHIP. you never ever ever ever want to let a WOMAN think she has the upper hand in a relationship or she will NEVER respect you as her CAVE MAN...TRUST ME OR NOT SIR. GOOD LUCK..LOTS OUT THERE MY FRIEND... P.S. the most powerful thing you could do right now is ghost, ignore her.NOT A FOOKING WORD. If she comes back you get her and her respect which is the foundation of any powerful relationship. IF NOT ...you exposed that she DOES NOT LOVE YOU. ACCEPT IT AND MOVE ON. DONT BE A FUCKING PUSSY. YEAH IT HURTS... Hmm.. i don't know about ghosting. She's a strong person and will probably take that as a sign that we're not right for each other. I Maybe ill just limit how much i say to her. So as not to seem so dependent on her responding. We talk on the phone every other day so it would come off badly to completely ghost her. Too risky. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 40546062 United States 06/04/2020 12:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How do you break up and still talk everyday? Have you ever actually seen this girl in person or is she some prison Pen Pal or something? So if she decides you are "getting back together" is she actually going to be at your house or just more long distance phone calls with a I love you? Is she Nigerian royalty OP? |
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User ID: 78529321 United States 06/04/2020 12:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OK OP YOU ASK, NOW TAKE YOUR MEDICINE. I have been in a long distance relationship for ten years with a woman who is IN LOVE with me. In the beginning of the relationship i was a drunken FOOL FOOL..crazy vodka induced psycho rants. She never said A FUCKING WORD TO ME ABOUT IT. Quoting: Ghetto Guy I eventually quit drinking a few years ago (DUI) holy shit nightmare. "I get it God" So i put it down COMPLETELY. now we moved forward. She and i have what is THE MOST SURREAL ethereal love ever imaginable. So having said that let me share my immediate FEELINGS when reading your post. "SHE DOESNT LOVE HIM, BEST HE ACCEPT THAT AND MOVE ON OR HE WILL CONTINUE IN MISERY" SIR SHE IS JOCKEYING FOR THE UPPER HAND IN THE RELATIONSHIP. you never ever ever ever want to let a WOMAN think she has the upper hand in a relationship or she will NEVER respect you as her CAVE MAN...TRUST ME OR NOT SIR. GOOD LUCK..LOTS OUT THERE MY FRIEND... P.S. the most powerful thing you could do right now is ghost, ignore her.NOT A FOOKING WORD. If she comes back you get her and her respect which is the foundation of any powerful relationship. IF NOT ...you exposed that she DOES NOT LOVE YOU. ACCEPT IT AND MOVE ON. DONT BE A FUCKING PUSSY. YEAH IT HURTS... Hmm.. i don't know about ghosting. She's a strong person and will probably take that as a sign that we're not right for each other. I Maybe ill just limit how much i say to her. So as not to seem so dependent on her responding. We talk on the phone every other day so it would come off badly to completely ghost her. Too risky. NO SIR...YOU must understand Sir over the ten years i have been through every possible scenario..let me explain. She happens to be a ARROGANT INTELLECTUAL PSYCHOPATHIC LIAR AND loves but does NOT respect me so after manY tortuous threats i finally GRABBED MY NUT SACK AND TOTALLY IGNORED HER FOR LYING. YOU HAVE TO HAVE RESPECT ALONG WITH LOVE SIR..READ THAT AGAIN..A WOMAN CAN LOVE A MAN, BUT NOT RESPECT HIM..YOUR GIRL DOES NOT RESPECT YOU I CAN ASSURE YOU 100% NO QUESTION..YOUR HALF MEASURES WONT WORK..FUCKING BE A FUCKING MAN IF YOU WANT THIS CUNT, STOP FUCKING AROUND WITH YOURSELF CAUSE IT HURTS TO BE WITHOUT HER.. Last Edited by Ghetto Guy on 06/04/2020 12:29 PM ALL IS WELL" |
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User ID: 76832232 United States 06/04/2020 12:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, this isn't a catfishing thing. Ive video chatted and she has money. Since you have never met her in person or kissed her or had sex with her, just move on and find someone to date who lives in your area. Then you will have a real relationship. Also, can you do a verification of her employment, like look up the name of where she said she works on Google, get the phone number off the company website, call it, and ask to speak to her. Google her street address and city and see what you find on Zillow or other websites that come up. If the house is listed for sale, then she doesn’t really live there. Last Edited by 936432979 on 06/04/2020 12:31 PM |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 46432626 United States 06/04/2020 12:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hello, I'm wondering if anybody might have some advice for me. I know a conspiracy forum isn't the right place to ask but I don't really go on any other forums. Quoting: Ra 74493934 Im just looking for some opinions. This post will probably bore most people, so just skip unless you're interested in giving suggestions. So I've been dating this girl for about 2 years and she lived in another country and recently moved to the states. I was planning on seeing your but this whole coronavirus thing happened when she moved here. We have had a really good relationship but after being laid off i started to drink quite a bit. I acted pretty stupid a couple times when i was drunk and she broke up with me. I wasn't mean, but i just acted like an idiot. She then broke up with me and eventually she told me that she likes me alot but doesn't like the person i have acted like. She said she still needs time to decide if we are to get back together. She needs to see that i changed. I stopped drinking and am trying to get my life together. Not just for her, but im 28 and should be getting sh!t together anyway. It's been a couple weeks since she broke up with me and we still talk everyday but it's definitely not the close relationship we had. I lost alot of her trust and can tell she is very hesitant about being Romantic. Conversation is good but she addresses me almost like a friend. Im not too sure how to get her back , other than to keep improving my life and hope she notices im not a loser. I can't help but say i love you or stuff like that to her because we used to say that all the time. I text her alot and i can't tell if im being to pushy and starting to come off as desperate. I don't want to be annoying, but i also do not want to lose the connection we still have. Any advice? Plenty of fish in da sea. Never grovel for a woman, or she will torture you until you die. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77867139 Italy 06/04/2020 12:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hello, I'm wondering if anybody might have some advice for me. I know a conspiracy forum isn't the right place to ask but I don't really go on any other forums. Quoting: Ra 74493934 Im just looking for some opinions. This post will probably bore most people, so just skip unless you're interested in giving suggestions. So I've been dating this girl for about 2 years and she lived in another country and recently moved to the states. I was planning on seeing your but this whole coronavirus thing happened when she moved here. We have had a really good relationship but after being laid off i started to drink quite a bit. I acted pretty stupid a couple times when i was drunk and she broke up with me. I wasn't mean, but i just acted like an idiot. She then broke up with me and eventually she told me that she likes me alot but doesn't like the person i have acted like. She said she still needs time to decide if we are to get back together. She needs to see that i changed. I stopped drinking and am trying to get my life together. Not just for her, but im 28 and should be getting sh!t together anyway. It's been a couple weeks since she broke up with me and we still talk everyday but it's definitely not the close relationship we had. I lost alot of her trust and can tell she is very hesitant about being Romantic. Conversation is good but she addresses me almost like a friend. Im not too sure how to get her back , other than to keep improving my life and hope she notices im not a loser. I can't help but say i love you or stuff like that to her because we used to say that all the time. I text her alot and i can't tell if im being to pushy and starting to come off as desperate. I don't want to be annoying, but i also do not want to lose the connection we still have. Any advice? My advice is that the CIA stay off of this forum. |
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User ID: 40546062 United States 06/04/2020 01:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How do you break up and still talk everyday? Have you ever actually seen this girl in person or is she some prison Pen Pal or something? So if she decides you are "getting back together" is she actually going to be at your house or just more long distance phone calls with a I love you? Is she Nigerian royalty OP? Soundman |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78914333 Turkey 06/04/2020 01:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have been with women from many countries, cultures, totally different personalities, yet all of them ended up cheating on me because i wasn't manly enough. If you are asking such questions, that means you are not manly enough. Which is guaranteed cheating in your future. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78970769 United States 06/04/2020 02:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hate to say it man but you lost your chance. Soon as she saw the new world that was it. Happens all the time. There are countless stories of mail order brides and online relationships that end within days of being away from their home country. You should have been at the airport to pick her up. Least then you could have met her and maybe got an old fashioned. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 7013598 United States 06/05/2020 12:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It’s not a real relationship if you’ve never met her in person and at least shared a meal. Think about it. Why did you do this for two years? Wake up!! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 76832232 It's not a relationship until you've at least shared a night in bed and had sex! Anything less is just a friendship. |