I need help. I'm dealing with mental illness in my household and don't know what to do.

My gf has lost her mind during this pandemic.

She just put a BLM sign in the back of her car.

In her side window she also put a sign that reads "White silence is white violence".

We live in a nice neighborhood. Its like painting a bullseye on the front of my house.

I made her take them down.

She went to a BLM protest locally. Where some wacko convinced her to believe the phrase "all lives matter" is racist and is a hate term directed at the BLM movement.

I asked her how she thinks this makes her teenage son feel...asking her if she intends to make him feel guilty for having white skin. The question was over her head. She can't understand this concept.

She's vulnerable to propaganda. She's scared to death of the coronavirus. Has barely left the house for 10 weeks. Hasn't worked a minute. I've been working 60 hours a week to get us by.

During the time i believe a preexisting mental health condition has come out. She'll talk nonstop for hours, changing the subject of the conversation so rapidly that what she says doesn't make sense. Contradicts herself from one sentence to the other. Manic depressive, with no regard to reasoning or logic. If I disagree with her on any subject, she takes it as an attack on her character. If she cries, she'll cry for 5 hours straight. If she gets excited about something, she'll become compulsive and stay up for 2-3 days straight (no drugs).

I've asked her to talk to a therapist or see a doctor. She'll agree and then act like we never had the conversation. If I try to push it, she'll go into the crying stage and corner me until she breaks me down.

The only way I get any peace is to completely leave her alone and let her chase whatever crazy ideas she has and not hold her accountable.

Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation? I'm at a loss on where to go from here.

PS- I want to help her. I've been with her over 5 years, and she has never been like this. Giving her the boot and leaving her out to dry is not an option.

My gf has lost her mind during this pandemic.

She just put a BLM sign in the back of her car.

In her side window she also put a sign that reads "White silence is white violence".

We live in a nice neighborhood. Its like painting a bullseye on the front of my house.

I made her take them down.

She went to a BLM protest locally. Where some wacko convinced her to believe the phrase "all lives matter" is racist and is a hate term directed at the BLM movement.

I asked her how she thinks this makes her teenage son feel...asking her if she intends to make him feel guilty for having white skin. The question was over her head. She can't understand this concept.

She's vulnerable to propaganda. She's scared to death of the coronavirus. Has barely left the house for 10 weeks. Hasn't worked a minute. I've been working 60 hours a week to get us by.

During the time i believe a preexisting mental health condition has come out. She'll talk nonstop for hours, changing the subject of the conversation so rapidly that what she says doesn't make sense. Contradicts herself from one sentence to the other. Manic depressive, with no regard to reasoning or logic. If I disagree with her on any subject, she takes it as an attack on her character. If she cries, she'll cry for 5 hours straight. If she gets excited about something, she'll become compulsive and stay up for 2-3 days straight (no drugs).

I've asked her to talk to a therapist or see a doctor. She'll agree and then act like we never had the conversation. If I try to push it, she'll go into the crying stage and corner me until she breaks me down.

The only way I get any peace is to completely leave her alone and let her chase whatever crazy ideas she has and not hold her accountable.

Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation? I'm at a loss on where to go from here.

PS- I want to help her. I've been with her over 5 years, and she has never been like this. Giving her the boot and leaving her out to dry is not an option.

From my perspective of living with an adult child suffering from similar symptoms this is what I've found that works the best.
1.Clean up her diet...no sugar, processed foods etc. Eat organic as much as possible...look into Keto diet.
2.Supplement with CBD and/or medical marijuana for both anxiety and sleep issues.
3.Limit access to TV/media.
4.Excersice...walking, hiking..any outdoor activities.
5.Prayer and seeking the Lord!

I dunno man. Borderline personality? Histrionic personality disorder?

I've noticed that a lot of mental illnesses that manifest in the frantic mania, crying, or acting like a child are usually rooted in childhood trauma. People get emotionally frozen in a certain age, like arrested development.

Then again - Some bipolar folks (Depending on the types) have short mania cycle and others very brief.

I'm no doctor but I bet it's super easy to diagnose for someone who knows their shit!

Good for you for not saying ok, it's going badly, I'm bailing.
Also, good for you to think of her son, and wanting to help him too, and thinking what this is doing to him.

Sounds like she needs to see a therapist; probably needs Rx; which is better than the alternative, i.e. staying like she is, or even suicide, the ultimate end game when a person is depressed or mentally ill.

It would be so good if she could get really out of the news/propaganda whirlwind for awhile. I''m sure the lockdown has affected so many of us, much worse than the virus.

I'll pray for you and her and her son. God bless you

My gf has lost her mind during this pandemic.

She just put a BLM sign in the back of her car.

In her side window she also put a sign that reads "White silence is white violence".

We live in a nice neighborhood. Its like painting a bullseye on the front of my house.

I made her take them down.

She went to a BLM protest locally. Where some wacko convinced her to believe the phrase "all lives matter" is racist and is a hate term directed at the BLM movement.

I asked her how she thinks this makes her teenage son feel...asking her if she intends to make him feel guilty for having white skin. The question was over her head. She can't understand this concept.

She's vulnerable to propaganda. She's scared to death of the coronavirus. Has barely left the house for 10 weeks. Hasn't worked a minute. I've been working 60 hours a week to get us by.

During the time i believe a preexisting mental health condition has come out. She'll talk nonstop for hours, changing the subject of the conversation so rapidly that what she says doesn't make sense. Contradicts herself from one sentence to the other. Manic depressive, with no regard to reasoning or logic. If I disagree with her on any subject, she takes it as an attack on her character. If she cries, she'll cry for 5 hours straight. If she gets excited about something, she'll become compulsive and stay up for 2-3 days straight (no drugs).

I've asked her to talk to a therapist or see a doctor. She'll agree and then act like we never had the conversation. If I try to push it, she'll go into the crying stage and corner me until she breaks me down.

The only way I get any peace is to completely leave her alone and let her chase whatever crazy ideas she has and not hold her accountable.

Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation? I'm at a loss on where to go from here.

PS- I want to help her. I've been with her over 5 years, and she has never been like this. Giving her the boot and leaving her out to dry is not an option.

In all sincerity, she sounds like she is having a break down of some sort. The stress of this pandemic has taken its toll on a lot of people. Now, we are being told to feel guilty for being "privileged". It is a lot for people to handle who are not extremely strong mentally.


I have seen people freak out over these situations that I know in my personal life that I never dreamed would react that way. If she is willing to go talk to someone I would recommend it. The insomnia and mania definitely sound like a mental issue.


In the moments she will agree to see a doctor, I would immediately make an appointment for her. Also, if there is a family member or friend who she respects the opinion of I would try to get them to talk to her. Amyone else who can help keep her accountable for getting care from a doctor.


Praying for you and her!