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Anonymous Coward User ID: 69688918 United States 07/10/2020 05:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you are feeling very blue (which is honestly all depression genuinely is as it used tobe called "melancholia"), then singing around people who are beaming with joy and who are passionately in love with Jesus, will then inspire you. Some believe to the depths of their souls and so their faith is sincere despite any hardship. Try that; you can't go wrong. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78777205 United States 07/10/2020 05:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It might suck to hear but. Pick yourself up, put one foot in front of the other, and move on. I have been there. Lost everything. Wife, job, money, home,vehicles, pride. It sucks, but it happens. Concentrate on one thing at a time. Shelter, food, an income. It gets easier over time. Just keep going. Things I learned... Don't rely on anyone else, ever again. Do not ever trust a woman again. Ever. Women are vain and are always looking for something better. She only used you until you fell on hard times. Then she moved on to the next sucker. Remember. She's not yours, it's just your turn. Do what feels right for you. Don't ask anyone else for their opinion. Use your own. Say what's on your mind, no matter who it offends. Don't ever water yourself down just to fit in. If they can't take you at 100%, fuck em! Learn what it means to be a man. Men have been brainwashed into thinking they have to be sensitive and have feelings. That's bullshit. The best men I have ever known are dangerous. Weak men can never be virtuous or heroic. Be honorable, first to yourself, then to others. Speak the truth. Always. Become what God intended you to be. |
JJ Johns
(OP) J to the 3rd User ID: 79040165 Switzerland 07/10/2020 05:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When was the last time you got on your knees or lay prostrate and prayed with all your might to the TRINITY? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69688918 What do ya got to lose? Why not seek the LORD while He may be found? Why not do some research, find a good moral church with an excellent program, and go and study the Bible with 'em? All can and some SHOULD. i've been praying every morning and evening. and, as mentioned above, it has helped. . . No clotshot, NEVER! . Mad as hell! . |
Arnie
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(OP) J to the 3rd User ID: 79040165 Switzerland 07/10/2020 05:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When someone is really low, they realize how bady theyneed the help of the TRINITY. The best way tolift your spirits is by singing. Some churches may be alright, but their music program is dated, irrelevant, and weak. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69688918 If you are feeling very blue (which is honestly all depression genuinely is as it used tobe called "melancholia"), then singing around people who are beaming with joy and who are passionately in love with Jesus, will then inspire you. Some believe to the depths of their souls and so their faith is sincere despite any hardship. Try that; you can't go wrong. i've been playing keyboard and singing as well ;) always helped me in the past... . . No clotshot, NEVER! . Mad as hell! . |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 72997356 United States 07/10/2020 05:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Marriage at 14 ; 2 children , bad husband , 16 years marriage I Upset at god for a long time ; I had prayed so hard . Long time later found out he raped my girl ; his father tried also Live is hard at times , life is great at times I hope you pick a good hearted roommate |
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(OP) J to the 3rd User ID: 79040165 Switzerland 07/10/2020 05:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It might suck to hear but. Pick yourself up, put one foot in front of the other, and move on. Quoting: Darrell41653 I have been there. Lost everything. Wife, job, money, home,vehicles, pride. It sucks, but it happens. Concentrate on one thing at a time. Shelter, food, an income. It gets easier over time. Just keep going. Things I learned... Don't rely on anyone else, ever again. Do not ever trust a woman again. Ever. Women are vain and are always looking for something better. She only used you until you fell on hard times. Then she moved on to the next sucker. Remember. She's not yours, it's just your turn. Do what feels right for you. Don't ask anyone else for their opinion. Use your own. Say what's on your mind, no matter who it offends. Don't ever water yourself down just to fit in. If they can't take you at 100%, fuck em! Learn what it means to be a man. Men have been brainwashed into thinking they have to be sensitive and have feelings. That's bullshit. The best men I have ever known are dangerous. Weak men can never be virtuous or heroic. Be honorable, first to yourself, then to others. Speak the truth. Always. Become what God intended you to be. i hear you and agree. i've been red pilled for a long time. long before i met her. and, i should know better. i didn't rely on her financially at all. emotionally, i was her rock, but still a rock likes to have some moss grow on it. i often speak my mind and go against the grain, even when everything says i should keep my mouth shut. the only thing that really hurts is the betrayal, on top of the hardship from the economy... and, i knew and called her out on it and got gas lighted, called jealous, crazy, and controlling. still i knew. i guess fiding out i was right was the worst part. cheers mate . . No clotshot, NEVER! . Mad as hell! . |
JJ Johns
(OP) J to the 3rd User ID: 79040165 Switzerland 07/10/2020 05:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Started over 3 times in my life Quoting: Anonymous Coward 72997356 Marriage at 14 ; 2 children , bad husband , 16 years marriage I Upset at god for a long time ; I had prayed so hard . Long time later found out he raped my girl ; his father tried also Live is hard at times , life is great at times I hope you pick a good hearted roommate . . No clotshot, NEVER! . Mad as hell! . |
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(OP) J to the 3rd User ID: 79040165 Switzerland 07/10/2020 05:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | haven't been near any drugs, aside from coffee and booze. yeah, i know booze isn't good, but it somehow helped a bit. i used it in excess for the first week or so and then said to myself, no jj, this shit ain't the answer. it did seem to help a bit though. . . No clotshot, NEVER! . Mad as hell! . |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69688918 United States 07/10/2020 05:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | There are a lot of people who are not genuinely Christians and not married to Christian spouses. The Bible has allowances for this situation. You are not prohibited from remarriage if in that situation. Get your head screwed on straight and get right with the LORD and find a decent Christian man or a sweet Christian wife. Don't be with a heretic. There are many who were totally unsuitable to be Christian spouses. In history, those folks would have been passed over as Christians would not have put up with them. And any reading who are immature and screwed up, well the TRINITY do not punish us when we sin and ask for forgiveness. We can only live in the here and now. You are not condemned for your errors. Move forward. That is what the Bible says. Condemnation comes from Lucifer. That nemesis of humanity wants you to feel shame and guilt. Then you feel unworthy and get stuck. Lucfer wants you to be in the depths of depression so he wins. Screw that! Deny Lucifer the pleasure. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77690250 United States 07/10/2020 05:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My whole life fell apart when the virus hit. My wife screwed me over to the point where i was homeless, penniless, jobless etc. I got beaten and robbed downtown and lost everything but my jacket and boots. I spent the end of March and the month of April in an energency covid shelter. I took a job working at a winery moving barrels and building fences. Got another job at a motel that got a roof over my head. Got another job at a factory. I met my best friend at the emergency shelter. She and i are seeing each other now. I am in the middle of a divorce, working 6 or 7 days a week and I am the happiest i have been in years. I am grateful my wife fucked me over and i don't have to deal with her ever again. I am grateful i got rolled for my back pack and laptop. I am grateful i lost everything and got to start a new life. It has been an amazing experience. Thank you God. Quoting: F##king Dog Butter Great post and advice It's really amazing how different life looks when you find gratitude |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78231772 Japan 07/10/2020 06:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Whores, OP..they're all whores! On a serious note..whenever I'm down, I think about a game of monopoly. You play all night..amass tons of house, property and wealth. But at the end of the night, all of it goes back into the box. As long as you're healthy, it's really all that matters. You have to ability to get what you lost again..so long as you stay healthy. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 79051736 United States 07/10/2020 06:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | At age 18 I underwent a spinal fusion, effectively resetting all of my goals and aspirations. The things I wanted to do were no longer within my grasp. At the prime of my life, I was cut down. 8 years later, I married and had two kids, but it didn't last and I lost everything. I married again, this time to a single mom with three kids herself, but again the goals I had were not shared by the ones I was with. In fact, my spouse didn't look beyond day to day and wouldn't set goals with me. It too ended in failure. Now, I am again single, have a steady source of income, co-jointly own land and live with family. Most of the goals I had in life will never be realized now, due to age and health. This is not my ideal, but at least I am now in good company. I still suffer from my disability. I always will and it will continue to impact my life going forward. So while I still have goals, they are restricted to what I can do with my health as it is, as a result. The point..... Focus on the things that matter most to you and don't let anyone stand in your way. Don't look at what could have been, look forward to what can be. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 79082901 United States 07/10/2020 06:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ahhh....that's great to hear, OP. you are not alone...in the last year: my college grad only child moved for a job 5 states away, cracked my rib (I sing for a living) ouch, went to care for a lifelong friend with AML who just passed last week and my mother passed a few months ago and now my dad is critically ill. and I love the Lord with all my heart. At the beginning of this beginning 2019 Holy Spirit filled me with the knowing that 'everything that can be shaken will be' there's nothing I'd rather than to be with my beloved to swim thru these trying times and laugh and pray together...so my heart goes out to you. it's the worst loss. but like one ac said, embrace the change, sit with it. Romans 8:28 says 'ALL things work together for good for those who love the Lord and are called according to His PURPOSE' sit and ask Heavenly Father what's His purpose, His Will for you right now. I am so touched by what you wrote. And the responses. It's helped my deep river as well. |
JJ Johns
(OP) J to the 3rd User ID: 79040165 Switzerland 07/10/2020 06:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | At age 18 I underwent a spinal fusion, effectively resetting all of my goals and aspirations. The things I wanted to do were no longer within my grasp. At the prime of my life, I was cut down. Quoting: Osmium76 8 years later, I married and had two kids, but it didn't last and I lost everything. I married again, this time to a single mom with three kids herself, but again the goals I had were not shared by the ones I was with. In fact, my spouse didn't look beyond day to day and wouldn't set goals with me. It too ended in failure. Now, I am again single, have a steady source of income, co-jointly own land and live with family. Most of the goals I had in life will never be realized now, due to age and health. This is not my ideal, but at least I am now in good company. I still suffer from my disability. I always will and it will continue to impact my life going forward. So while I still have goals, they are restricted to what I can do with my health as it is, as a result. The point..... Focus on the things that matter most to you and don't let anyone stand in your way. Don't look at what could have been, look forward to what can be. thank you. great advice . . No clotshot, NEVER! . Mad as hell! . |
Mr.N0
User ID: 79133058 Croatia 07/10/2020 06:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | when she comes back remember what you went through and tell her to fuck off. Stay strong Long live M. G. T. O. W. Last Edited by Mr.N0 on 07/10/2020 06:22 PM Life Is But a Dream |
JJ Johns
(OP) J to the 3rd User ID: 79040165 Switzerland 07/10/2020 06:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ahhh....that's great to hear, OP. you are not alone...in the last year: my college grad only child moved for a job 5 states away, cracked my rib (I sing for a living) ouch, went to care for a lifelong friend with AML who just passed last week and my mother passed a few months ago and now my dad is critically ill. and I love the Lord with all my heart. At the beginning of this beginning 2019 Holy Spirit filled me with the knowing that 'everything that can be shaken will be' there's nothing I'd rather than to be with my beloved to swim thru these trying times and laugh and pray together...so my heart goes out to you. it's the worst loss. but like one ac said, embrace the change, sit with it. Romans 8:28 says 'ALL things work together for good for those who love the Lord and are called according to His PURPOSE' sit and ask Heavenly Father what's His purpose, His Will for you right now. I am so touched by what you wrote. And the responses. It's helped my deep river as well. thank you so much for the kind words. god bless you . . No clotshot, NEVER! . Mad as hell! . |
Chas
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(OP) J to the 3rd User ID: 79040165 Switzerland 07/10/2020 06:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | when she comes back remember what you went through and tell her to fuck off. Quoting: Mr.N0 Stay strong Long live M. G. T. O. W. there is no fucking way i will take her back. in fact, i had a sad, horrible premonition/dream. she came crawling back and i told her no way, and she lost it and was committed to a insane asylum, or what ever you call them these days. i actually felt/feel bad for her. :( i guess i am an idiot . . No clotshot, NEVER! . Mad as hell! . |
JJ Johns
(OP) J to the 3rd User ID: 79040165 Switzerland 07/10/2020 06:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Whores, OP..they're all whores! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 78231772 On a serious note..whenever I'm down, I think about a game of monopoly. You play all night..amass tons of house, property and wealth. But at the end of the night, all of it goes back into the box. As long as you're healthy, it's really all that matters. You have to ability to get what you lost again..so long as you stay healthy. interesting analogy. cheers . . No clotshot, NEVER! . Mad as hell! . |
JJ Johns
(OP) J to the 3rd User ID: 79040165 Switzerland 07/10/2020 06:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Feeling content is learned behavior. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69688918 Music is the antidote for the poison of depression...especially Christian music. Dwelling on depression and how you messed your life or how bad events unfolded doesn't solve anything. i've been playing music and singing in the evenings and looking for work during the days. yes, i agree, thank you. cheers . . No clotshot, NEVER! . Mad as hell! . |
beenthruthat
User ID: 78503183 United States 07/10/2020 06:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Seriously, I abide by what Wintson Churchill said.. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 78355073 "If you find yourself in hell, move faster" Sorry, here is the correct quote If You're Going Through Hell, Keep Going - Winston Churchill Here is the musical rendition of Winston's, saying ... ... It will pass ... People don't care how much You know ... till they know how much You care ... |
IF User ID: 73314314 United States 07/10/2020 06:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | (((hugs))) and more (((hugs)))! It will be okay. You will find your way out of this mess. Life is kind of like treading water, once you learn you don't forget. life is like riding a bike. Once you learn to balance it, you never forget when you get back on. You can do this. You can balance your life and be open to creative solutions for extra income to pay the bills. Maybe you can do a Go Fund Me and tell the folks you'll pay them back or something? Or maybe you can play your keyboard for profit? Maybe make an album? Whenever I have to solve a problem I go to sleep and wake up with an answer. I think we all can do this if we only try. I imagine we all have the answers already to every problem in this world if only we would listen to our inner knowing. You are loved. You were made in Love and Divine Love sustains you today and tomorrow.You are surrounded in a sea of Divine Love and you can never be without Divine support. You are being supported right now in ways you never see with your mortal eyes. But, right here, and right now you are being supported. You just have to accept that. (((HUGS))) To you! |
JJ Johns
(OP) J to the 3rd User ID: 79040165 Switzerland 07/10/2020 06:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Suck it up buttercup. Bitches CAN cut you deep. Take a moment to adjust your focus... Move forward... Look forward. Be forward. See the solution. Be the solution. It really is all about the perception. The trick is subtle. Don't work towards something. Be something. (old you) ---------------- (new you) You WILL look back and realize it was actually the best thing that could possibly have happened to you. Seek the VAR... thank you. i have already come to the realization that i am better off without her for many reasons. it still stings, especially with all the other shit piled on deep. Last Edited by Jay3 on 02/06/2021 01:19 PM . . No clotshot, NEVER! . Mad as hell! . |