what to do when your whole life falls apart?

Your title asks a great question.

The immediate issues will be resolved with time and effort, but what then?

I’ve been in the boat, walked this path, and can’t give advice because the answers lead me no where.

I have no more projects, no more money concerns, health is great, and absolutely nothing left to do.

The problems and issues surrounding the complications of divorce added fuel to the fire of life, and no there is nothing left. No ties to family, no friends, no one to trust and no reason to trust. No trust means no sex, no sex means lots of free time and plenty of money. No friends mean no one uses me and I spend zero moments in a day listening to or supporting someone that gains me nothing. I spend too much time sitting quietly, not doing anything. Nothing to watch, music doesn’t compel me, no project or task to do. I literally can’t think of anything that even sounds like something I’d care to do....

Fixing the issues with life brings other issues, namely I’m now very lonely and bored out of my mind.

OP, I hope you can allow yourself to heal, allow time to pass and allow yourself to find a brighter future. Find the balance you should’ve had in the first place. I sure as fuck didn’t find it...

thank you so much. i could really use the hugs right now.
and, i am searching out many alternative sources of income. as well as any full time job i can find. it's not at all a good job market at the moment here--record high unemployment, but i am pushing forward.

i'm really sorry to hear this. i do hope you too can work out these things and find what you need to satisfy you.

Last Edited by Jay3 on 07/10/2020 06:55 PM

i haven't heard any fat lady singing. nope.

Last Edited by Jay3 on 02/06/2021 01:20 PM

"thank you so much. i could really use the hugs right now.
and, i am searching out many alternative sources of income. as well as any full time job i can find. it's not at all a good job market at the moment here--record high unemployment, but i am pushing forward.


I'll be lighting a candle and praying for you - if that is okay. Remember you are always employed - you are always employed as a child of God knowing good. You are always employed even if the mortal senses don't know it. Just tell yourself you are always employed - You are employed yesterday, today and tomorrow knowing God. That is your true job. Keep affirming your true identity and see what happens.

Divine Love to you & more (((HUGS)))

thank you

Same to you.

Just want you to not just think about taking care of all the immediate shit without thinking about stuff afterwards....

All of the advice you got already is solid. Everyone knows how to get through this kind of shit, time passing will eventually lead you to the other side of all of this mess, in your head, heart and life.

Just be mindful of that other side....

just pull yoself by yo bootstraps, bro

I only read a few comments and your replies, so I don't know for sure, but I suspect you already know you're going to be alright.

But I think as much truth as you get from your friends here or your physical friends, and as much you already know, you can't truly know right now in your current state of mind. You'll only truly know and fully know after a few up and down cycles over the next few months and maybe even year or two.

Here's the Truth: She wasn't there for you anyway over all those years. She was there for you just enough so that you wouldn't leave, and just enough so that she could squeeze what she needed out of you. Same for those friends that ditch you for her (yes there will be a few more). Keeping busy will help but really only time will help get your head straight. And finally when that day comes you're gonna be stunned at the clarity and energy you feel. The sense of freedom - not freedom from having a partner but the freedom from giving your all to someone who didn't feel they owed their all in return. You're going to be amazed at the excitement and enthusiasm you have to build a new life, and maybe (or maybe not) a new relationship with someone else who deserves you, in the way that you know makes YOU happy rather than the way that makes her happy. And you don't even need to keep your eyes peeled for this or want for it... it will just make itself known in due time that she and everyone realizes what a mistake she's made and how much better she had it with you. You won't even have to gloat about it because you'll be too busy living your new and improved life that allows you build and make adjustments for all the experience you've gained and all the brains you already had. I guarantee everything.

better off without the cunt. fuck her.

Best thing is to make a plan...anything really...and go after it.

Business opportunity, some strange...whatever.

Pick something and do it

Find new b**ches to f**k? Keep playing the field and never stop? Once one becomes an anchor, it's always down hill.

Walk away from unsecured debt, they can't collect on it anyways. Time for new opportunities.

Self examination from time to time can be helpful in knowing what is really important in life:

I once married a women I was MADLY in love with. After a year she left me, I lost my apartment, my credit was ruined. It took a few years, but I met someone BETTER, remarried fixed my credit, got a new place to live. After a few rough years, my life was far better than it had been before. Things happen for a reason. Be strong and positive, I wish you the best.

Do you really live in Switzerland? If so, um, dude...

Until I know if you live in Switzerland or not, it's hard to make comments. Living in Switzerland is a world privilege few people ever get to know. People leave children and marriages, careers and fortunes behind to live there. It's my dream to live there for a while. You need to find women with money with that dream, let her come visit you and payroll your recovery. Don't be stupid.

Sorry but you sound a bit cuckish. I will continue to go back and read more pages, but seriously, there are some places that supersede any temporary human emotions. Switzerland is one of those places. The Grand Canyon is another.

GO SOMEWHERE IN YOUR OWN HOMELAND YOU'VE NEVER BEEN!

Get out of your stale bed, hop a bus and see new things.

Get over yourself. At least you live in a nice civilised country.