Advice Needed In Dealing With An Asshole Store Clerk

That's honestly probably the best advice. It'll make him feel little if not responded to. I know when someone ignores me like that it makes me very self conscious. It also gets me to think about my behavior and how I could improve my social skills.

So I live directly behind a grocery store. I have no car so I walk to grocery store with my own grocery cart that I bought years ago from another store closing shop. So a male clerk I call Frankenstein who works the service desk there one day tried to take my cart. He said it belongs to the store and it obviously does not as my cart is blue trimmed the stores are red trimmed. I told him it is my cart and noone is taking it. He told me that had I stolen it. I went and got a manager who just rolled his eyes and went on.

So yesterday it was raining and a friend gave me a ride to grocery store. She dropped me off and had car problems never returned to get me. I had $100 worth of groceries to get home. A lady manager came by and I asked her if I could borrow the store's cart to get my groceries home. She said yes that is fine that she knows im honest and would return when done. Yes I did return it right after I was done. So today I have my own cart and I was getting some Sprite, some meat for spaghetti and some snacks. I turn a corner and there stood Frankenstein again glaring at me with another cashier lady who asked "Did you return that cart you took yesterday?" I said "Yes and fuck you both" Then I went and found the lady manager who had given me permission to borrow the stores cart. I told her she needed to have a talk with her help as I returned that cart. She proceeeds to go tell Frankenstein that unless he has a managers badge on then he needs to shut his mouth to me. I told her thank you and left out giving the asshole a dirty look.

So I know he will give me problems again on my return. I want to choke him but then ill be arrested. Any advice on what to say or do next time? I really want to teach him a lesson. Thanks

Yea it seems like you guys are all being really mean and ridiculous. The guy is just trying to look out for his employer and you want to “teach him a lesson”. Wtf I’m sure he already learned his lesson being talked to by the manager. Drop it!

Yea it seems like you guys are all being really mean and ridiculous. The guy is just trying to look out for his employer and you want to “teach him a lesson”. Wtf I’m sure he already learned his lesson being talked to by the manager. Drop it!

God tests us like the way you're being tested.

The only way to pass this test (and reap the many rewards of passing it) is to be kind to the guy. Be really kind. Say something nice about him to his face. Be cheerful. Wish him a good day. Say nice things about him behind his back. You don't have to feel it, you just have to do it.

Eventually you will break him and he might end up being someone who can help you some day. He might even become your friend.

This is a test. You can pass it or you can fail it. If you fail it, you'll have to take it again, but it will be much harder.

Better to pass it now.

I hope you choose the higher road. If you do, God will help you with it.

MAKE SURE YOU LET THEM KNOW HOW MUCH YOU SPEND THERE AND HOW MUCH YOU HAVE SPENT THERE!

i know but we are glp and we like seeing people go to jail its kinda what we do here.

Not really, the guy was being an assho. He had it coming. Remember, this is an older woman we are talking about. Ever heard of respecting your elders?

Geez you’re an asshole! No way, that is not what we are doing here. You think this guy deserves jail over asking about a cart?



It doesn’t sound like he was being an asshole. Who do you respect more, your job or an elder? Op is going to this place everyday like some kind of creep, if I worked there I would for sure troll her about her cart.

You've started all 3 of your paragraphs with the word 'so'. Please THINK about what you are doing to cause the clerk to respond to you. Change what you are doing and get a different response.

Doing nothing but shopping for groceries.

Geez you’re an asshole! No way, that is not what we are doing here. You think this guy deserves jail over asking about a cart?



Op is going to this place everyday like some kind of creep, if I worked there I would for sure troll her about her cart.

That's honestly probably the best advice. It'll make him feel little if not responded to. I know when someone ignores me like that it makes me very self conscious. It also gets me to think about my behavior and how I could improve my social skills.

You've started all 3 of your paragraphs with the word 'so'. Please THINK about what you are doing to cause the clerk to respond to you. Change what you are doing and get a different response.

That is often a very bad piece of advice, because it only works when you are dealing with sensible people. There are lots of people on this earth that will treat you like crap because they think they have a right to do so, or because they think they can get away with it, regardless of how you treat them in return. They will even sometimes interpret attempts to de-escalate or act nice as weakness, which will embolden them even more.

Look at domestic abuse victims for some examples. Often, the more someone submits to a tyrant, the more the tyrant resents them and treats them like trash. The smaller, older, or weaker a person is physically, the more likely it is they will be a victim of an abusive dynamic, so older smaller women need to be especially assertive in order to keep themselves safe.

Look at Cuomo, he purposefully put covid patients into convalescent homes. 8% of the NY convalescent home population has now died as a result. Do you think the people in those places caused Cuomo to do that to them? Don't be silly.

What makes you think it's ok to bring your own cart?

Why wouldn't it be?