Friend you have fallen victim to the bs and hype. You believe women when they say we want x and y and z in Cosmo or the View, then try to give it to them.

But they don't really want x,y and z. They think they want it, but it is a lie.

You know what one thing almost every woman wants? More than your gentlemanliness, doormatness, 3am phone answeringness?
The one thing they want - drum roll please--
is what another woman has.<<<<<<<let that sink in.
You are a 2am Dennys hamburger, always available. Not spicy.

You are not sexy to women unless another woman thinks you are sexy. You are just cute until another woman says otherwise. You are just a friend until another woman takes up your time
and interest.

You are the puppy dog that kisses them and licks their hands at the first opportunity. And always there....it is a quid pro quo world. Show some fangs. Start hunting. Not these users you hang out with now. Start fresh. Put on a different mask/persona with other women.

As someone said, grow a pair. Be the man. Be the hunter. Don't be what you think they want you to be. Be what you want to be.

Now some women will protest what I say. They may even say "op, give it time, you will find the right girl" after they shack up with the 26th asshole in their life....and call you to bitch about him.

The choice is yours. But obviously what you have been doing does not work too well. Change your paradigm.