You need to make yourself into someone that is unobtainable. Here is some sage advice when talking to the “ladies”.

“If it floats, flies or fucks I’m better off renting” then go out and “rent” women. Treat them just as the quote says and you will receive the attention of messed up women.

You seem like a gentle(wuss) type person. There are plenty of well adjusted women, especially in your age group, that aren’t interested in game playing and are in the same position as you with how you feel and get used just the same.

Seek out like minded females through your interests and share them unabashedly. If you are feeling like you are being used figure out ways to shut it down and concentrate on the group of females that are similar to you.

The hallmark of strong relationships is both parties being on board with the same goals and objectives with the same long term vision. You are complaining about it not being handed to you when you need to be more proactive in the proper ways.

Women love strength and it comes in many forms. Height, muscles, money, authority, lack of fear in the face of adversity no matter what your walk of life. Humor and caring about them as people. There are many positions of strength, they are looking for STRENGTH in some form. If you can’t stand up to them how can they expect you to be able to stand up to others when your children will be involved.

Everyone has a propensity for the easy button, but relationships that take more to form stand a better chance of weathering the storm. Hope this helps OP. Women need to be pampered, but only occasionally, the rest of the time they need you to be as strong as them.