I think it's a Tarp! My Wife just told me I can get a GF!!

The ONLY reason why she would put that out there is because SHE already has a boyfriend on the side!!!

This. She already has a BF was my thought.

I am a GLPER Been Here For Years. This is really fucking up my head. My wife is Awesome! We have two of the "Cutest Little Characters" who wear us out. With that said, I Still Think It's a Tarp! Just Sayin.

Going to give you some solid life advice, because I've seen this first hand.


She most likely doesn't have a boyfriend, but she's emotionally and physically distancing herself from you. It's not good or bad, but just indifferent now.

You'll possibly get a girlfriend, you'll connect with her, possibilities there are more children, and pulled in another chaotic direction, on top of what you may have now.

Current wife will start blaming you, then it will solidify her exit plan, and getting her share of the marital assets. The divorce will be an absolute nightmare, it will scar all parties involved, including the children.

Your new girlfriend will start to get real clingy, and want marriage, more kids, and security which you at this point can't even provide for yourself.

I could go on, but what's the point you get the picture.

Do yourself a favor, don't think about your own interests, but rather focus on what really matters, your current children, and family.

Then go listen to the song. "The Cat's in the Cradle" by Harry Chapin about 10 times.

Peace,

GE

Go a head and get you a gf, she's a swinger and her bf can be part of it...

Huh. Every married mans fantasy at one time or another.

I would tell her you don't need a GF. Give her some extra time, loving, and help. This will do nothing but positive things for your relationship with her and pay off big time in the future.

If you do the other, well lots of advice on that.

Green 4 U.

3 possibilities

She has a boyfriend
She's exhausted and feels bad that she has no sex drive for you, and thinks she's a bad wife
or
it's a test

But none of those matter, time for you to make her remember where it all started and that she still lights your fire. With everyday humdrum, some couples lose that spark. Your job is to keep her feeling like she is your everything, and it will be her job when it's you who is feeling down. Keep it alive and it will last forever

I would not trust this shit AT ALL. She's probably get t-boned by tyrone, or you're getting cucked out by a chad-daddy. DNA test your kids. women are evil animals.

Reason I can say it with confidence, and such detail?


I've lived it brother.

It's like me being able to tell my younger self, don't do it.


It's absolutely a fucking nightmare. All the horseshit that people say, chest-beating male ego crap, and Hollywood projections are a lie.


Eventually things would settle out, but the fallout is not worth it, and it will haunt you for life.

Peace GE

she wants dick. not hard to read between the lines

confront the statement head on

ask

> Why TF would I do that?
> Why TF would you say go get someone else?

you word it the way you know how you two communicate
so as to cause minimal tension / stress / offense ...


there is absolutely no reason any legit wife would say to do that

I grew up in and around the "industry"

have seen more than my share of stupidity

eg.
dude starts fkin hos because his wife couldn't ever give that to him again due to medical issues

she still resented him for breaking his vows

remember

...
forsaking all others
for better or worse
for richer or poorer
in sickness and in health
until death do us part


find the underlying cause of said statement

get a GF

Sounds like she's getting you to think about a life where she's been replaced. Most replies cover the screwing around approach. But another less fun one to think about is she's making preparations for the big departure. Has she started going to the doctors more often?

She's tired.

:epiclol-8bit:

All that being said is wife saying "go see if the grass is greener" because YOU are complaining? Or even moaning more?

Try filling her love bank with things that women like (not flowers and champagne), which is usually listening to her complain for an hour, just to let it all out, and let her sleep more.

What's wrong with all you guys saying "she has a boyfriend", "she's evil", "she going to dump you because she's a golddigger". Like all yall have experience with 2 babies and a real life?

Are you a woman?

Do you think that you can think or speak for women?

OMG.

really?

Why aren't the other men calling out this ridiculous behavior from men???

Guys just look the other way and pat guys on the back.

I would highly recommend listening to the female advice on here as well, from their side.

Having two kids, and maybe even post-partum maybe pushing her to be indifferent, or even feel horrible about herself.

Hormones, and body chemistry changes are a real thing.

I would highly recommend some counseling that both of you go to together.

Ralph.....take a vacation with her and the kids and decompress. Get away from the routine and pay no nevermind to those who are attempting to fuck with your head.

My girl told me this and for months i thought it was a tarp, until she took me to pick up a girl and I discovered she liked being cucked. lol

I remember thinking, I didnt know women could be cucked.

She's testing you.

It's a trap and it's a dare but mostly it's a shit test.

The question she is asking is "Do you have balls or do you have morals?"

Trust me.. If you have the balls to handle two women, then she will respect you.

AND,

if you have the morals to reject that complex and hazardous sex triangle she will also respect you.

So now you do a reality check..

Do you have the balls to handle two women?

If you have any doubt at all then you probably don't have the balls and you should play it safe and don't complicate your life.

Please check out the site I posted.

www.marriagebuilders.com

They have an advice forum. You have nothing to lose.

Please. I wish I found them before my marriage imploded.

Bingo!

No, not a tarp... she just figured out where babies come from!!!

Mid-thirties, and 2 kids under 3 will point the big finger to the reason behind it... sex.

Is it so hard to understand the connection...?

Having sex means more babies, so get a fill-in for the sex, and life can go on.

Do you have an acceptable form of birth control?

Offer to get a vasectomy, and see if that changes her attitude toward sex!

She is completely exhausted. Don't get a gf.

If you have trusted family to watch the little ones, take her away on a long weekend, somewhere SHE will enjoy, and let her get some damned sleep.

All the people in here that believe see is cheating are clueless, never married, no kids, and family experience with young children.

They've never had a 2 year old, and a 6 month old.

When in the hell is she going to find time to actually do another guy, in between her children's diaper changes?

Or maybe she puts on her super-woman cape, and flies out the window while simultaneously doing the all the piss and shit stained clothes, from infants and toddlers.