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Red John
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No Need
User ID: 79934520 United States 04/06/2021 11:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Then you should have kept your pecker in your pants and become a monk. It's called life dude. Deal with it. That's not life for me. Wife and I never fight, have a 7 month old and it's heaven on earth. So no it's not life, OP came with problem, and you're just being cock |
Ekegelmann74
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kiqs
User ID: 80216561 United States 04/06/2021 11:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | family life is chaos Quoting: Red John all 12 and under you're in the glory days bro love it while it lasts your quiet serenity comes when the nest is empty [link to youtu.be (secure)] ayezez |
~Wisper~
Forum Administrator 04/06/2021 11:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Then you should have kept your pecker in your pants and become a monk. It's called life dude. Deal with it. That's not life for me. Wife and I never fight, have a 7 month old and it's heaven on earth. So no it's not life, OP came with problem, and you're just being cock lol To know where your heart is, look where your mind goes when it wanders. A rock in bad hands killed Abel. A rock in good hands killed Goliath. It isn't about the rock. A true warrior fights not because he hates the one in front of him, but because he loves those behind him. INTP-A |
LittleMe
I don’t want flowers when I die… User ID: 79983911 United States 04/06/2021 11:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Then you should have kept your pecker in your pants and become a monk. It's called life dude. Deal with it. That's not life for me. Wife and I never fight, have a 7 month old and it's heaven on earth. So no it's not life, OP came with problem, and you're just being cock How many children do you guys plan to have? |
NowIhavetothinkofaname
User ID: 76035789 Australia 04/06/2021 11:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Screw spending 1 hour a month fighting with someone you live with over crap you can't change. You're living in hell dood, you need to bounce. I would've bounced after the first nonsensical fight. NowIhavetothinkofanameohnoithurts It's all bull! Nevertheless, the ruler is not truly wise who cannot discern evils before they develop themselves, and this is a faculty given to few. Niccolo Machiavelli Karma is funny, people who kick dogs usually get bitten. If someone doesn't add value to your life, then that someone shouldn't be a part of it. You can always trust people to do whatever is in their own interests. It is certain wastelands will be brought under cultivation. |
ronwyattchuckmissler
User ID: 80221243 United States 04/06/2021 11:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | PRAYER, bro Pray to God for your wife and kids to have peace and joy, in Jesus's name. Pray every day. Pray throughout the day sing hallelujah and start each day by being grateful for the health and well-being of you and your family read the Bible repeat ron wyatt chuck missler |
ronwyattchuckmissler
User ID: 80221243 United States 04/06/2021 11:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | PRAYER, bro Quoting: ronwyattchuckmissler Pray to God for your wife and kids to be blessed and to have peace and joy, in Jesus's name. Pray every day. Pray throughout the day sing hallelujah and start each day by being grateful for the health and well-being of you and your family read the Bible repeat you will notice a dramatic difference if you are persistent through the spiritual war pray for everyone you have to deal with in the same way ron wyatt chuck missler |
GlinForTheWin
User ID: 79923727 United States 04/06/2021 11:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | That was over 30 years ago, never did find the little buggers. Let your plans be dark and impenetrable as night. And when you move , fall like a thunderbolt. |
GlinForTheWin
User ID: 79923727 United States 04/07/2021 12:04 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Mine didn't listen to simple instructions. I told them last time up into the mountains , not to go off alone at night. Quoting: GlinForTheWin That was over 30 years ago, never did find the little buggers. I take all the local boy scouts up camping in the area and still hope to find some clue as to what happened to them. Maybe wolves finished raising them!!! Let your plans be dark and impenetrable as night. And when you move , fall like a thunderbolt. |
Tobie
User ID: 80201586 United States 04/07/2021 12:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | if your house is big enough, maybe you could rent out a room - perhaps to a senior with child rearing experience, or to a younger nanny type (screen them well) barter housecleaning & child care for reduced rent you'd make some money, reduce family stress, & be able to have some quiet time alone with your wife maybe your mother-in-law? (OK, that was a joke) |
Saint Lance the Odd from BC
User ID: 77547432 Canada 04/07/2021 12:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Wow, cruddy, having raised two children and 2 divorces and having it all turn out okay...I don't really feel for you OP. Your children are a reflection of you, and your missus. Heal them or you will end up with psychotic crackheads because you need 'a safe space'. You should listen to more JP on being an adult. If you are not busy weaving your own magick, you are trapped in anothers spell. “It’s time you realized that you have something in you more powerful and miraculous than the things that affect you and make you dance like a puppet.” – Marcus Aurelius |
Red John
User ID: 40578289 Canada 04/07/2021 12:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Screw spending 1 hour a month fighting with someone you live with over crap you can't change. You're living in hell dood, you need to bounce. I would've bounced after the first nonsensical fight. that's the lousy chicken shit way out marriage isn't about giving up and running away with your tail between your legs over the petty bullshit of day to day human interactions and misunderstandings keep your vows: - forsaking all others - for better or worse - for richer or poorer - in sickness and in health ~ ~note: mental illness is not exempted from this vow we're all defective no getting around that marriage is a commitment, covenant, and sacred union it's not all pie in the sky, valentines day every day |
Patagonians
User ID: 64646640 Argentina 04/07/2021 01:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Screw spending 1 hour a month fighting with someone you live with over crap you can't change. You're living in hell dood, you need to bounce. I would've bounced after the first nonsensical fight. Fighting for an hour a month? That's a really good marriage. One in a hundred these days. And when he gets to Heaven, to Saint Peter he will tell: "Just another soldier reporting, Sir. Ive served my time in Hell" |
jackleson
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Beetlepumprr
User ID: 3221380 United States 04/07/2021 01:14 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I MADE IT 12 YEARS. SHE NOT ONCE RAN A SWEEPER, MOPPED THE FLOOR, BOUGHT KIDS THEIR CLOTHES. NEVER COOKED, I GOT HOME A1 AM BED BY 2:30, UP AT 7 AM TO GET THEM READY, PACK LUNCHES, DRESSED ETC.THEN FROM 8 AM TO 2 PM I WOULD DO SERVICE CALLS ORDER, MAKE SALES, THEN GO TO WORK, AND 12 HOURS A DAY PLUS MANDATORY SATURDAY WERE ON THE TABLE. I GAVE THEM SAT. BUT NOT TOO MANY 12's. SHE WAS A SCREAMER, VIOLENT. RAPE AND INCEST I FINALLY FOUND OUT WILL DO THAT. IT ALLOWS DEMONS TO TAKE OVER. HOW DO YOU COPE/ STAY CLOSE TO GOD. GO TO THE WELL DAILY AND OFTEN TO GET CHARGED UP WITH SPIRITUAL LOVE, GET KNOCKED DOWN GET RECHARGED. BUT I GOT ILL AND COULD NOT DO IT ANYMORE. then hopefully you have loving parents to help. Yep I ruined a big part a important part of my life by being a flaming co-dependent. Last Edited by Beetlepumprr on 04/07/2021 01:19 AM When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace. jimi Believe nothing you hear and only half of what you see. I'm just a product of insufficient modality. Humans of Earth! I have come in peace. You need not fear me. I mean you no harm. However, it may be important to know that most of you will not survive the next 24 hours. And those of you who do survive will be enslaved and experimented on. You should in no way take any of this personally — it's just business! |
StinkyKat
User ID: 80174841 United States 04/07/2021 01:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP you have 2 options: 1- sacrifice yourself for the sake of your kids, suck it up, keep your head down and let the wife and kids treat you like shit and zap any kind of goodness and vital energy you have for the rest of your life in hopes that at some point they'll thank you for all you did. Spoiler alert: they won't. Most children are more influenced by the mother than the father. And it's a guaranteed she's already berating you and bad mouthing you to your kids. They'll grow up despising you for being a spineless cuck. 2- run. Move, get a life somewhere and try to be in their lives somehow, don't forget birthdays and such. Eventually they'll realize what a psycho the mom is and either they'll warm up to you and will want you in their lives, or not. Either way, they are already being poisoned by mom so your chances of changing that is quite slim. The difference is, with option 1 you'll sacrifice your life for nothing, they'll hate you anyways, but with option 2, you'll safeguard your sanity and any chance at happiness you have left and they'll hate you anyways. I think the least effort road is the more logic but hey, up to you mate. |
JoeNobHead
User ID: 79771883 United States 04/07/2021 01:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Couples counseling. The wife and I were at each others throats over the children. Until we met the most awesome councilor. She helped us through it all, saved our marriage, and we raised better children because of it. I believe in science NOT religion. Giving me bad karma for that, is anti-religious (you're passing judgement) I am just a man. Of no significance. Who found religion to be full of lies, and wrong doing, conflicted teachings I understand microwave communications. I do not stand for the NWO, it sucks. |
Wiretail
User ID: 77458493 United States 04/07/2021 02:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I feel your pain 12 year old daughter 2 year old son 25 years of resentment between my wife and myself Not sure there is a cure without each partner accepting that a change is needed I could fill a wall of text after 25 some odd years but I'll save that for another drink I'd recommend honesty but in my experience if both parties aren't honest that doesn't work so good Good luck |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78176591 United States 04/07/2021 02:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Shit - that is about the most positive thing I read on GLP today and I don't even smoke weed. Congrats dude! My mom started smoking weed and my stepdad seems to appreciate her new frame of mind. She's actually improved in a lot of ways over the years but the devil's lettuce really seems to have helped. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78176591 United States 04/07/2021 02:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Couples counseling. The wife and I were at each others throats over the children. Until we met the most awesome councilor. She helped us through it all, saved our marriage, and we raised better children because of it. Awesome. |
LiveLike
User ID: 76221334 Netherlands 04/07/2021 02:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Wow on all the negativity here. You don't just pack up and go when the going gets tough, you push through and fix it. Most of the time the issue is communication. Are you perfect? Is there something you're not giving her? Are you making her feel loved and wanted? Did you let her take the role of the man because you're not taking it? How do you see her? Where is your focus? Is it on her flaws or on her strength? Why did you get together? Close your eyes, see your best times in front of you, feel how it makes you feel, see the good things she did and does.. Give power to that feeling, appreciate her for the good she does, tell her those things. Be the change.. You don't just simply get to walk out, unless you want to be a soft, whiny boy. You find out what's wrong and be there for her. |
NowIhavetothinkofaname
User ID: 76035789 Australia 04/07/2021 02:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Screw spending 1 hour a month fighting with someone you live with over crap you can't change. You're living in hell dood, you need to bounce. I would've bounced after the first nonsensical fight. that's the lousy chicken shit way out marriage isn't about giving up and running away with your tail between your legs over the petty bullshit of day to day human interactions and misunderstandings keep your vows: - forsaking all others - for better or worse - for richer or poorer - in sickness and in health ~ ~note: mental illness is not exempted from this vow we're all defective no getting around that marriage is a commitment, covenant, and sacred union it's not all pie in the sky, valentines day every day When you kiss your "wife" do you taste her boyfriend's cock? You sure do, because a "real man" wouldn't put up with that crap. OP knew his wife was crazy after the honeymoon ended, he had up to a decade to bounce on her but chose not to. OP chose to endure his misery, he could end his misery and make his wife behave by not tolerating her desire for drama and strife. She acts out because she is bored and wants to be entertained. OP probably likes it when his wife causes crap because he won't put his foot down and bring her into line for the sake of their kids. OP's kids are going to see their parent's relationship as the gold standard for how men and women interact and if OP doesn't do something about it they're going to have relationships just like his. All OP has to do is prove his wife is behaving in a unacceptable manner by not resorting to force because that will show her he's emotionally weak. IF OP shows his wife he'll be fine, or better off without her. She'll suck up to him because she'll be afraid to lose her "happy" home. OP needs to prove to his wife that she isn't worth all the hassle she brings with her, anything else and OP will be bitching about how his wife is complaining about her boyfriend to him. NowIhavetothinkofanameohnoithurts It's all bull! Nevertheless, the ruler is not truly wise who cannot discern evils before they develop themselves, and this is a faculty given to few. Niccolo Machiavelli Karma is funny, people who kick dogs usually get bitten. If someone doesn't add value to your life, then that someone shouldn't be a part of it. You can always trust people to do whatever is in their own interests. It is certain wastelands will be brought under cultivation. |
NowIhavetothinkofaname
User ID: 76035789 Australia 04/07/2021 02:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Screw spending 1 hour a month fighting with someone you live with over crap you can't change. You're living in hell dood, you need to bounce. I would've bounced after the first nonsensical fight. Fighting for an hour a month? That's a really good marriage. One in a hundred these days. I wouldn't put up with it. Why do you? I want every man to question why they put up with constant angst from their wife? A wife that obviously doesn't love them enough to show them that their man's mental health is more important than a badly written piece of real life relationship drama soap opera, for the purpose of providing a bad backdrop to their otherwise uninteresting lives? Is pussy in middle aged life, really worth the hassle of juggling work with badly dramatized home life and the prospect of whining kids? The ladies who believe in woman power are right! It's your fault it's happening to you, IF you were really that unhappy you'd be out the door. Men are suckers who don't have the balls to bounce and just sook to anyone who will listen to their whinging. I think it's sad when your woman has bigger balls than you... NowIhavetothinkofanameohnoithurts It's all bull! Nevertheless, the ruler is not truly wise who cannot discern evils before they develop themselves, and this is a faculty given to few. Niccolo Machiavelli Karma is funny, people who kick dogs usually get bitten. If someone doesn't add value to your life, then that someone shouldn't be a part of it. You can always trust people to do whatever is in their own interests. It is certain wastelands will be brought under cultivation. |
Red John
User ID: 42709595 Canada 04/07/2021 02:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Screw spending 1 hour a month fighting with someone you live with over crap you can't change. You're living in hell dood, you need to bounce. I would've bounced after the first nonsensical fight. that's the lousy chicken shit way out marriage isn't about giving up and running away with your tail between your legs over the petty bullshit of day to day human interactions and misunderstandings keep your vows: - forsaking all others - for better or worse - for richer or poorer - in sickness and in health ~ ~note: mental illness is not exempted from this vow we're all defective no getting around that marriage is a commitment, covenant, and sacred union it's not all pie in the sky, valentines day every day When you kiss your "wife" do you taste her boyfriend's cock? You sure do, because a "real man" wouldn't put up with that crap. OP knew his wife was crazy after the honeymoon ended, he had up to a decade to bounce on her but chose not to. OP chose to endure his misery, he could end his misery and make his wife behave by not tolerating her desire for drama and strife. She acts out because she is bored and wants to be entertained. OP probably likes it when his wife causes crap because he won't put his foot down and bring her into line for the sake of their kids. OP's kids are going to see their parent's relationship as the gold standard for how men and women interact and if OP doesn't do something about it they're going to have relationships just like his. All OP has to do is prove his wife is behaving in a unacceptable manner by not resorting to force because that will show her he's emotionally weak. IF OP shows his wife he'll be fine, or better off without her. She'll suck up to him because she'll be afraid to lose her "happy" home. OP needs to prove to his wife that she isn't worth all the hassle she brings with her, anything else and OP will be bitching about how his wife is complaining about her boyfriend to him. OP knew she was crazy within the first few days or weeks not "after the honeymoon ended" blowing up at kids is never OK that needs to be dealt with |
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Red John
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