First of all, I'm overwhelmed at how this thread has grown overnight and I'm sorry I wasn't around to contribute, but I was in the middle of it and it carried on into endless discussion until sleep.

Thank you all for the kind words, the harsh words, advice and support. I have not read anything that was not applicable from one angle or another whether harsh or kind. (Except for the response above out of left field.)

Someone asked what *my* deal was and maybe I'm the problem.

So here's my deal:

I am one big toe dipped into the Autism spectrum. Through nature or nurture I tend to be a very cool (Not Fonzie cool but borderline cold) individual. I am logical to a fault, somewhere between Sheldon Cooper and Spock.

I am also right 90% of the time, and that's a modest assessment.

I have a great difficulty understanding why people don't want to be correct when presented with the option to be so.

My wife thinks that I get something out of this behavior, like superiority complex or ego. I admit that I enjoy having insight and being correct. Why wouldn't I?

My wife does admit that often times I *do* have the right insight at the right time, more often than not. I do not know how to...the analogy that I used:

I'm a band who put out an album where 9 out of 10 tracks were successful singles.

I don't know if my next album is going to be the same, but I have no reason to suspect not, so I record my songs and I hope that people like them. What else can I do?

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My deal, continued, according to her: I am stagnant, content with no change. I agree, I am too tired for change, I feel survival and keeping sane takes everything I have out of me.

I also know she is Jealous that the kids (and even the dog) seem to gravitate to me more, they like what I like, and they don't appreciate her.

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Our deal:

My wife feels that screen time is turning the kids into assholes. She's not wrong, but the whole screen time issue is complicated because it's 9/10ths of the kids socialization they get these days.

She's been trying to steer the ship into her only-child upbringing from the "Old country" from the 70's/80's it couldn't possibly be further away from today's reality.

So electronics have been a target for a long time and I think if it was up to her they'd be playing with wooden home-made toys all day and she feels arbitrary ways like "Watching Cartoon network is okay" I guess because maybe she watched cartoons as a kid sometimes.