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muckuh
User ID: 80226434 United States 04/09/2021 08:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? UH...SHE MAY BE CHEATING ON YOU AND BE THE JEALOUS TYPE. Quoting: muckuh SHE MAY BE DOING THIS AS A DISTRACTION TO HIDE HER SHIT. TAKE A PEEK AT HER PHONE. IS IT LOCKED? WILL SHE 'HESITATE' IF/WHEN YOU ASK FOR HER PASSWORD. YOU MAY WANT TO DO ONE OF THOSE 'CHECK-MATE' SERVICES TO SEE IF SHE'LL GO FOR THE RANDOM HOOK-UP. YOU 'MAY' BE IN A DEEPER HOLE THAN YOU THINK. SHE MAY BE DOING WHAT SHE SAYS YER DOING. NO JOKING. 'THINK' ABOUT IT. muckuh |
muckuh
User ID: 80226434 United States 04/09/2021 08:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? OP -- three possibilities, Quoting: Rock Blood 1) She is cheating on you. Most likely answer IMO. 2) Someone is out to get you and telling her someone is cheating with you. 3) You married my ex-wife. God help you with any of these. I'd ask her to go to counseling over it. If she rejects that (or it fails to help). I'd leave over it. Heck I'd run with everything you can grab FAST! THIS GUY KNOWS...AND HIS #2 ONE IS A DEF. POSSIBILITY. DOES SHE HAVE FRIENDS...? MANY? DOES SHE HAVE ENEMIES? MANY? DOES SHE GET INTO CONFLICT A LOT? muckuh |
muckuh
User ID: 80226434 United States 04/09/2021 08:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? OP -- three possibilities, Quoting: Rock Blood 1) She is cheating on you. Most likely answer IMO. 2) Someone is out to get you and telling her someone is cheating with you. 3) You married my ex-wife. God help you with any of these. I'd ask her to go to counseling over it. If she rejects that (or it fails to help). I'd leave over it. Heck I'd run with everything you can grab FAST! THIS GUY KNOWS...AND HIS #2 ONE IS A DEF. POSSIBILITY. DOES SHE HAVE FRIENDS...? MANY? DOES SHE HAVE ENEMIES? MANY? DOES SHE GET INTO CONFLICT A LOT? ALSO, SOMEONE MAY BE OUT TO GET HER AND IS DROPPING BOGUS SHIT ABOUT YOU TO HER. #2.5 muckuh |
last one
I just don't give a fuck User ID: 60052792 United States 04/09/2021 09:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? OP busy. AC392 gobbling his knob. If I'd known I was going to live this long, I would have taken better care of myself.---Grandpa Rednecks, hillbillies, and cowboys will save the nation---me I dreamed I was drinkin', woke up and I was "we put our faith in maniacs"- Lemmy Kilmister |
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nimmerfall
User ID: 72716118 United States 04/09/2021 09:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? I think even access to your devices/passwords should be off-limits, but apparently I'm in the minority. Guess I'll stay single. Last Edited by nimmerfall on 04/09/2021 09:10 PM Piercing my heart there is a golden dagger; that is God Piercing God's heart there is a golden needle; that is me |
nimmerfall
User ID: 72716118 United States 04/09/2021 09:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? If there is a woman in your household Quoting: Anonymous Coward 80230512 You better be ready to lay everything on the table, if you don't feel like you can be honest with her, then it's not the woman for you. you're a woman, aren't you Piercing my heart there is a golden dagger; that is God Piercing God's heart there is a golden needle; that is me |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 80166816 United States 04/09/2021 09:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? Well, from my experience, my ex-wife had me locked out of her phone and laptop. Come to find out months later why. She was a cheating whore and tried to keep it secret but I opened the phone bill, which I never did before but because of her locking me out of her devices, I was getting suspicious and sure enough, she'd been spending a lot of time on her phone with a dude we both knew in another city. I confronted her and she came clean that she cheated on me with him. My point is, yeah let her look all she wants if you truly love her, unless you're a cheating whore. |
Monger of Many Things
User ID: 79881908 Colombia 04/09/2021 09:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? She's probably cheating on you and suspicious that you're doing the same even if you're not. Hell no that's not normal, my wife has the fingerprint login for my phone and I do for her's, neither of us would do that. But neither of us are or have reason to be suspicious. If I had a dollar for every time I got suspicious... I'd wonder who was paying me, and why? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 43616007 United States 04/09/2021 09:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? 100%. If they're overly suspicious of you for no reason, that usually means they're cheating themselves. OP is lying. He said fidelity is "boring." He is definitely cheating or hiding something from her. He just wants to know if she knows because he thinks she's really dumb, so he's not quite sure if this resurgence of checking means she knows. She knows OP. Tell your boyfriend you can't see him anymore. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78829441 Canada 04/09/2021 09:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? 100%. If they're overly suspicious of you for no reason, that usually means they're cheating themselves. OP is lying. He said fidelity is "boring." He is definitely cheating or hiding something from her. He just wants to know if she knows because he thinks she's really dumb, so he's not quite sure if this resurgence of checking means she knows. She knows OP. Tell your boyfriend you can't see him anymore. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 72231716 United States 04/09/2021 10:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? This is my opinion. It comes from being in multiple long term relationships with men that have spanned the last 20 years. When a woman becomes suspicious without probable cause to the point where she’s looking in your phone or questioning you, it means she herself is the one doing something wrong and is feeling guilty about it. She’s looking for just cause for her own cheating, whether she’s talking or having an emotional affair or flirting, she’s doing something she isn’t supposed to be doing. It’s seeping out or expressing/revealing itself through her suspicious behaviors towards you. That’s just the reality, that’s where you’re at. Like it or not. She might even let you check her phone (after she’s deleted everything.) you’ll have to do some real detective work to catch her, if you care. |
Zovalex
User ID: 77432258 United States 04/09/2021 10:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? Well, after 4 pages of posts, it seems the general opinion is that your wife is fucking around on you, OP. But you won’t believe it for a second. . “Mental slavery is the worst form of slavery. It gives you the illusion of freedom, makes you trust, love, and defend your oppressor, while making an enemy of those who are trying to free you or open your eyes.” -Fiyah “None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free.” -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe “You have been programmed to resist the very person that is here to set you free, from the prison of your Mind... You are not free... everything you are has been manufactured by Minds that have not your best interest. You are imprisoned by beliefs and not reality. Religions are mental programs to imprison your Mind.” -SOL |
LameDame
User ID: 48692539 United States 04/09/2021 10:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? No, it is not normal and it is not acceptable. It is a sign of a person who is controling and does not know boundaries. I know a guy who has had 3 serious relationships in the past 20 yrs and he lets every single one of them take his phone, check his calls and block numbers. Of course he is a liar and probably a cheater. As one of my friends says, if you can't trust your partner, the 2 of you do not need to be in a relationship. If you want to make this relationship work, the 2 of you need counseling. |
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Vasily
User ID: 78923823 United States 04/11/2021 01:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? OP, Quoting: Vasily don't worry about it. Let her look as much as she wants and assure her that you don't mind clarifying any messages she doesn't understand. IOW, this is not the battle you want to fight. It's harmless that she looks through your phone. When you are a couple, there's nothing wrong with complete openness with each other. What does it matter that what she's doing is not considered normal/acceptable to a bunch of internet anons? It doesn't. They aren't in your relationship. Take care of her emotionally. If this quirk of hers helps in that direction, support it 100%. Are you honestly of the opinion that her need to do this is not tied to suspicions of me? Take note - you are the ONLY poster to suggest that this is healthy (and that doesn’t mean you’re wrong). well, I didn't say that it was healthy. Just saying that it shouldn't be that big of a deal. So, she likes to look at your phone messages. What does it really matter? It doesn't. |
TTuna
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Vasily
User ID: 78923823 United States 04/11/2021 01:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? OP, Quoting: Vasily don't worry about it. Let her look as much as she wants and assure her that you don't mind clarifying any messages she doesn't understand. IOW, this is not the battle you want to fight. It's harmless that she looks through your phone. When you are a couple, there's nothing wrong with complete openness with each other. What does it matter that what she's doing is not considered normal/acceptable to a bunch of internet anons? It doesn't. They aren't in your relationship. Take care of her emotionally. If this quirk of hers helps in that direction, support it 100%. I don't agree that it's harmless. If he is constantly being treated like he's doing something wrong (and he's not), he's going to eventually do something wrong. Why should he have to go through that for no reason? Constantly being treated like that drives people to do shitty things Truly, you must see that you have stated a logical fallacy, yeah? No one can "drive you to do shitty things". It is ALWAYS your shitty decision to do shitty things. LOL |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 72501411 United States 05/25/2021 10:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? For some reason the doesn't trust you, go in Jerry Springer and take a lie detector test to prove your love lol. You could probably just get a test, but chances are she'll just find something else to focus on. So your best bet would be to just give her something better to focus on, take her out or do something romantic. |
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User ID: 80129766 United States 05/25/2021 10:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day? People who are suspicious of others are concerned because they are doing the dirt. Have you asked her to turn over her phone for you to check? It's a ridiculous idea since KNOWING she will check your phone gives you the opportunity to delete stuff (not saying you've done anything wrong). Go to www.marriagebuilders.com, sign up and post your question. The people there are great and helped me through a VERY bad divorce battle that lasted 7 years. Good luck to you! Any people anywhere, being inclined and having the power, have the right to rise up, and shake off the existing government, and form a new one that suits them better. This is a most valuable - a most sacred right - a right, which we hope and believe, is to liberate the world. -- Abraham Lincoln The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion. -- Albert Camus |
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