HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day?

OP busy.

AC392 gobbling his knob.

Kick her neurotic butt to the curb. This isn't good.

I think even access to your devices/passwords should be off-limits, but apparently I'm in the minority. Guess I'll stay single.

Last Edited by nimmerfall on 04/09/2021 09:10 PM

you're a woman, aren't you

ABSOLUTELY ABNORMAL

DEFINITELY UNACCEPTABLE

EXTREMELY CREEPY

SERIOUSLY WTF

Well, from my experience, my ex-wife had me locked out of her phone and laptop. Come to find out months later why. She was a cheating whore and tried to keep it secret but I opened the phone bill, which I never did before but because of her locking me out of her devices, I was getting suspicious and sure enough, she'd been spending a lot of time on her phone with a dude we both knew in another city. I confronted her and she came clean that she cheated on me with him. My point is, yeah let her look all she wants if you truly love her, unless you're a cheating whore.

She's probably cheating on you and suspicious that you're doing the same even if you're not. Hell no that's not normal, my wife has the fingerprint login for my phone and I do for her's, neither of us would do that. But neither of us are or have reason to be suspicious.

OP is lying. He said fidelity is "boring." He is definitely cheating or hiding something from her.

He just wants to know if she knows because he thinks she's really dumb, so he's not quite sure if this resurgence of checking means she knows.

She knows OP. Tell your boyfriend you can't see him anymore.

Maybe she's messing around with one of your buddies and she's checking to see if he told you yet

This is my opinion. It comes from being in multiple long term relationships with men that have spanned the last 20 years. When a woman becomes suspicious without probable cause to the point where she’s looking in your phone or questioning you, it means she herself is the one doing something wrong and is feeling guilty about it. She’s looking for just cause for her own cheating, whether she’s talking or having an emotional affair or flirting, she’s doing something she isn’t supposed to be doing. It’s seeping out or expressing/revealing itself through her suspicious behaviors towards you. That’s just the reality, that’s where you’re at. Like it or not. She might even let you check her phone (after she’s deleted everything.) you’ll have to do some real detective work to catch her, if you care.

Well, after 4 pages of posts, it seems the general opinion is that your wife is fucking around on you, OP.

But you won’t believe it for a second.

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Female here.

No, it is not normal and it is not acceptable. It is a sign of a person who is controling and does not know boundaries.

I know a guy who has had 3 serious relationships in the past 20 yrs and he lets every single one of them take his phone, check his calls and block numbers. Of course he is a liar and probably a cheater.

As one of my friends says, if you can't trust your partner, the 2 of you do not need to be in a relationship.

If you want to make this relationship work, the 2 of you need counseling.

OP is not gone. OP is alive and well. OP just left for awhile.

This far, I have found a single poster out of all of you that suggests this behavior is acceptable.

well, I didn't say that it was healthy. Just saying that it shouldn't be that big of a deal. So, she likes to look at your phone messages. What does it really matter? It doesn't.

This

Truly, you must see that you have stated a logical fallacy, yeah?

No one can "drive you to do shitty things". It is ALWAYS your shitty decision to do shitty things. LOL

Been through this a few times, every time I found out the woman was cheating.

Sorry OP, she's cheating.

If you had a problem with drugs, she may be worried.

However, I think she's projecting because she's cheating and it may actually be someone in your circle of friends.

Not normal at all. Grab her phone and do the same. But question every little thing you see. Ask her to go into detail about everything she did.
Let her see how stupid it is.
She’s not normal.

For some reason the doesn't trust you, go in Jerry Springer and take a lie detector test to prove your love lol.

You could probably just get a test, but chances are she'll just find something else to focus on. So your best bet would be to just give her something better to focus on, take her out or do something romantic.

99% of the time she's accusing you of something she's guilty of.

Just lock her out, it's not that hard.

It's not normal or okay to go through your spouse's texts etc without a very good reason. It's disrespectful and controlling and a surefire way to end up single.

People who are suspicious of others are concerned because they are doing the dirt.

Have you asked her to turn over her phone for you to check?

It's a ridiculous idea since KNOWING she will check your phone gives you the opportunity to delete stuff (not saying you've done anything wrong).

Go to www.marriagebuilders.com, sign up and post your question. The people there are great and helped me through a VERY bad divorce battle that lasted 7 years.

Good luck to you!

Borderline disorder.

Save yourself.

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If ypu haven't given her reason yo dount you then she's the one with something to hide and is looking for something you've done inappropriately to vindicate her wrong doing.

shes banging other dudes