My wife drinks and gambles our money away, and my adult stepchildren are deadbeats who do drugs and play video games

NEED THE AGES OF EVERYONE ...YOU MAY WANT TO START TAKING SOME RISKS
YOURSELF...THINGS ARE NOT GOING TO GET BETTER FOR ANYONE...SO HANG ON...THEY'LL ADJUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE ONCE MONEY IS WORTH LESS TO
WORTHLESS..UH!

I bet there are a LOT of families in America like that right now. How freaking sad! I'd hit the eject button if I were that dude. Give the people depending on him the cold hard slap in the face of reality they desperately need.

You done goofed.

But... It does happen to the best of us.

So you work all day and your wife gambles away all of your money?

You need to have an intervention with your wife about her gambling addiction.

Why are you enabling them? Take your earnings and pay the mortgage and utilities and the rest goes into your account. You have no one to blame but yourself. Tough love.

Since she's irresponsible with money, cut your wife off from the bank account so she has no money to gamble away. Take away or close the credit cards. When she needs money, she needs to ask you for an allowance. You do the grocery shopping and pay the bills. You gotta take control of the situation

I thought this was normal.

At least that is what my Ex wife use to try to convince me of until I realized she loved the dog more than me and I finally got tired of her bastard children believing they were king of MY castle.

I finally came to my senses and realized I was being played the fool.

At which point she throws a giant temper tantrum -- threatening everything from divorce to calling the police.

Sounds about right lol

Many such cases.

This cuck should have disappeared years ago. You can only cuck yourself.

Bah, I don't mean to be harsh to past flames.

I am guilty of being naive in a lot of ways. I participated with enthusiasm, even though she told me I wasn't allowed to discipline her kids.

I should have left then, but I was stupid.

You need to let it all fail and come crashing down. It'll never get better, in fact it will continue to spiral downward until your family members start dying off.

I should know. I watch one of my sisters enter this world +50 years ago and it's still getting worse.

Then good riddance. Can't be more miserable than he is now. Either try to fix it or leave. Shit or get off the pot time

I agree; but I think you underestimate just how childish and explosive these women can be when you try to take away their toys.

A particularly ornery one can fuck you up for life. And she has so many avenues to choose from!

But yeah. Dude needs to formulate an Escape Plan.

I think dysfunction is pretty much the norm. At the individual level. The family level. And therefore the civilizational level.

I mean, it's not like a bunch of dysfunctional retards are going to come together like Voltron and make some kind of badass machine.

It's cyclical too. The genes that code for it keep getting recycled. The mistakes keep being repeated. Nothing is ever learned.

But yeah, I've been a keen observer of people for a long time. Everyone is just varying degrees of fucked up.

You need to get your only kid out of there and raise it to do something that's right. Now I know why there are Amber Alerts on my phone. Your kid is still young. Furthermore, you can get custody of her because the mother is a wasteful mess.WHY ARE YOU SUPPORTING HER ADULT CHILDREN BY OTHER GUYS?

Separate accounts.

Presumably he didn't set out to do that, but he was a generous-enough guy at first, but then she emotionally manipulated him to go way further than is fair or right. And she feels not an ounce of shame or guilt about it.

Number one you need to forgive you mother. You are in a beta state.. and need Gods guidance. You also need to understand that every thought is a lie. Stop judging your child and her children. Stop judging yourself. You deserve the suffering and you will continue to suffer until you get Back on Gods plan. You will not hear God voice and that voice in your head is not yours. Forgive your father for not being a good example and not protecting you from your mother. Forgive you mother for setting you up to fail and anything else you know specifically. The faster you can say I forgive you and mean it to her face the faster you will get your courage back. I wish you well but know you wont take me advice nor believe what I have told you.

You should not have married a woman with children. but you did and really have to make the best of it. You cant do that alone and need God to guide you through this. Love you brother.. Good luck Be blessed

Take your hard earned money and run , time to cut the dead weight and stop being an enabler. Some people only learn the hard way, but at least they'll earn

Steal whatever's left and fake your death.

Good.

Start eating potatoes and rice. Read The Starch Solution by John McDougall. Your family is dysfunctional because of the way you eat. I’m sorry, it’s true. Search you tube and watch some videos. They’re informative and eye opening.

That ain't a good life, dude. Split, support your 1 kid and begone.

Or, you need to start to bring a little reality to the situation with the adults in the room. You are doing a 4 for 1 and probably more like 6-10 for 1 with the gambling and internet fees you yourself probably aren't addicted to.

Are they worth it as opposed to you living a more comfortable retirement doing as you choose as opposed to wasting it all on a bunch of lazy slugs?