My Wife Donna passed away on September 1st

Today is Donna's Birthday, she would have turned 58 today.

Hmmm. Don't really know what to tell you my friend. I can tell a story since you know me and i'm not coming out of the blue with one. We, shit, still hard to write, we pulled the plug on my Father, it was terrible as only my mother and I made that choice. My sister was too young we figured. I was 19. My sister 14, but my father was clear to not be subjected to long treatments. So...ths fucking hurts to say, my mother and I decided to pull the plug on my father. I drove home from Brantford to Hamilton ON. About 45 mins.

I got home about 11pm and I got half way thought this [link to youtu.be (secure)] Then was asked to drive back to Brantford to bear witness. The witnessing of 'designed' death is harder then the witnessing of 'time is up' death. I can not imagine what you are going through. The 'timed death' (been there saw it) is still death. Death is death. You and your family are deeply embedded in my heart. Stay strong. You never leave my prayers. And if you need a chat, you can find my number here. Stay strong brother. You are still holding up those left behind. New fangled Job. XO to you and Dakota.

We love you! We'll pray to help you stay strong, BBQ Boy!

Donna's difficult journey and your willingness to share your pain and grief has touched us all in a way that is difficult to put into words. Maybe some found strength, maybe others let go of judgments or held their loved ones a little tighter. Perhaps some found closure to their own pain. The AC post after her passing brought tears to my eyes. Even those we all may disagree with one another at times - even some shills wanted to reach out and comfort you. Her passing brought our odd little community together in a way that monkeyflower did in her hospice thread.

Donna's physical presence is gone, but she is always in your heart. Love never dies.

Donna's soul is celebrating a new turn, a birthdate with the heavens. Happy birthday, Donna, and the deepest of hugs to you, Pete. May God ease your pain.

Hang in there BBQ Boy. We're here for ya!

And Happy Birthday Donna!

She's still with you, you just can't see her...

Not a day passes that my whole family doesn’t think about you two and pray. Hope you’re doing OK!

Let the prayers sustain you, and rest in that

Prayers for you and Dakota. Donna is still with you, you just can't see her.

All the love!

And so many hugs for the heartache.

Such a tough time. So sorry you’re going through this.

You’re in my thoughts and prayers.

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Add my---
Prayers and hugs.
Suggestion---
While you are away, weather permitting, ground yourself by putting your bare feet on the ground--grass is fine. Likely you have heard of this---I did a search and came up with many results, this is one as a FYI---

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I liked this one because the author discussed the connectiveness of us all...

I always find healing by watching the sky and clouds when I am barefoot. Also putting on headphones and listening to music, like songs you both enjoyed listening to

I believe---
The love you shared so deeply transcends time and death.
She is watching over you.
The times you shared, both happy and sad, the high points and the low points, are a sacred journey. As much as you can, give thanks for this journey that will resume together in the distant future. But when you love someone so deeply, that connection overrides the time separation--I believe this to be true.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I wish with all my heart you didn't have to.

When my mother passed and years later, when my father passed, I found some comfort reading the book on which the movie "What Dreams May Come" was based. The book has so much to it and it helped me. Just a suggestion. I share this from my heart and in the hope that it helps you to find some peace.

You have to find your own way through this and no one here can really know what you're going through. All we can do is send all the prayers, love and comfort that we can.

Please take care of yourself.

Happy to hear you all aren’t sick. Keep you in my prayers and check in to see how you’re doing. I think a change of scenery is a good idea and getting outside.
Thinking of you.

Hang in there, brother. It is good that you are going to spend some time elsewhere to get your mind off of things. You've got to find a way to look forward to the future as you still have a life to live for you and your son.

Peace for you.

Thanks Soup.

Hopefully the change in location will start making each day a tiny bit easier for you, Pete.

Got the Death certificate yesterday. This is what it said.

Immediate cause of death
Hypoxic respiratory failure
Spontaneous right sided pneumothorax
Covid 19 pneumonia
Covid 19 virus infection