Seeking New Best Friend...Been Lonely These Days....

The loneliness only comes in waves and you can push them further apart by smiling and openly appreciating life. Find the small aspects of a day, a stranger's smile, a new joy to record from your children's day. Scrap book times of their growth. Don't get stuck in TV land, or fb trivia. Live presently. Love eternally. Trust change. Embrace hope. Never let loneliness get the best of you.

The first thing I did while in your position (20 years ago) was I bought a blank hardbound book. I wrote a "Dear Child" letter every week then tapered to every month, now every 6 months, telling them about their adventures, the world, my joy in overseeing them and how much they are loved. It brings comfort to read and see the little things taped to a page here and there, bringing back memories often forgot.



eta: Have you made a scarecrow yet? Kids love that for the holidays.

I am sorry that you are lonely. It is a very strange world right now. I think you are in the boat with a lot of people right now.

I want to encourage you to know that these years while you are a stay-at-home mom/etc might seem long and boring at times, but try to remember that they really are the years you will look back on with smiles and warm, soft feelings. At the time, they feel so long, but they do pass by way to quickly.

I remember feeling so frustrated that nothing ever stayed finished. I washed dishes and they got dirty. I cleaned the carpet and it got dirty. Pick up toys--kids get them back out.

I finally decided that every day I was going to do something--even if it was just for a moment--I would do something that stayed finished. To that end, once kids were in bed, I would work on some cross-stitch or some other little thing--just something that would stay finished. To this day, I have some stitch work that I did--just a little each evening and it kept me going.

Now, the kids are grown and I am so glad for those days--they all have their own families and they are busy, and like you seemed to imply, they think my thoughts are weird--a conspiracy nut--they love me, but they don't understand and it is so lonely. We know we have learned things and we want to share them, but most people don't take the time to hear these ideas that could add so much to conversations and ideas.

Pray, remember you are loved, treasure your time with your little ones and keep learning. It will be okay--the good guys are gonna win and when they do, we will all have so much to talk about

In this day and age, growing your own veggies isn't a bad idea.

I bet by now you have gray hair and sold all those guns to buy dentures because meth ate them out of your skull!! LoL and you know you should be holding the snub nose as a comparison to winky. Hahaha!!

Value yourself.

Well, you have us on here to chat with and sound off. I always worked since I was young and then left flying to stay home with my kids- I loved it, but felt like I wasn’t part of a team anymore. It’s weird suddenly just being home with Littles & I wasn’t the ‘’Mommy & Me” type (thankfully). You’ll meet some others out at the park with kiddos and maybe luck up on one person who has a spark of life and you can bond with. It takes time. My mom just passed and I’m lonely for one of my best buds to talk with- we caught up daily on subjects on here and made our theories- now she’s gone. Time passing is palpable right now and I know how you feel. You’re not alone.
Hang in there friend and don’t sink too low. Your flock is out there and you’ll find a good bud soon. Until then, we are here for ya and will talk, bounce ideas and thoughts around anytime.

Is it going to be a forum based on space? Sounds like a very interesting project whatever you are doing with it, great name. Put up cards or flyers around universities and cafes to advertise?

I’m interested to hear your thoughts on space and the cosmos.
Do you believe the generally accepted text book idea of it?
I’ve begun to believe we can’t actually leave lower Earth orbit, that the whole NASA thing is nothing but a charade.
When I see astronauts ‘glitch’ before their green screen and the studio lights come on during the Tesla in space footage I just can’t accept it.
I don’t believe we went to the Moon and I believe that UFOs are just constructed by the governments in preparation for some fake alien invasion they have planned.

People always ask why they would go to such lengths to create a false view of reality. In essence I think they are hiding God from us. Making us feel we are nothing but a random accident along with the whole evolution theory. So we’ll accept the ‘aliens’ when they show up and worship them as our creators. As for these beings, I believe Phil Schneider (RIP) and his story of the DUMBS where they are all hide, waiting for their day upon the Earth, posing as ‘aliens’.

Yeah, my beliefs are far out there and I rarely tell anyone I know about them. I used to talk to my Husband about it, but he loves Marvel movies Star Wars. Says it all really.

Anyway, interested to hear your thoughts.

I’m sorry you are lonely. I feel like this too sometimes as my husband works very long hours and is tired when he gets home. I tried to private message you as I think we would get along good, unfortunately I can’t. I too don’t have a paid membership atm, I hope to get one again after the holidays. If I come into some extra money I’ll gift you a membership. Hang in there. Try getting out for walks on nice days. I know for me, the fresh air and sunshine can do wonders somedays for the blues

Last Edited by Moonflwr0704 on 10/20/2021 08:30 AM

Meetup is really amazing. So many activities and you meet with new people with interests the same as yours.

IDK it seems Meetup is nothing but gay witches

All I could think of when I saw the thread title...

It's over-rated for singles seeking partners, those groups wind up being the same people over and over.

but if you just want to make a new group of friends, it is not a bad idea. I knew a lady...she found a group that got together to do yoga. I am interested in art...I found an artist group. I know people that hike together. There are people that go out to dinner as a group, etc.

It's worth trying if you're lonely.

Like any other group...its a crap shoot in terms of finding someone to actually be a long term friend with.

I don't use social media, but most of them do...so you can really expand your social circle in your area quickly that way.

No, there are some republicans there too.

Is this what causes the feeling of loneliness perhaps? The empathetic involvement of simply being here on this planet, with so many others who feel this dense emotion?

Unfortunately, I live in a rural area and don't have a vehicle to use to get out much right now. I do have a telescope xD I bought it for school. It's a decent one, but I haven't had much motivation to go and use it lately. I am still learning how to use it, and the patience it takes is something I am still learning how to cope with as well. Mostly it's about sharing the experiences I have when viewing things with the telescope that I yearn. My phone camera doesn't connect with the eyepiece well, so it's not something I can share regularly.

I do quite frequently watch Ben's work as a source of news regarding the sun's activity and anything else odd he tends to cover. I used to chuckle at his videos until I realized that there was a specific science to this when observing the Sun, and I was grateful that there was someone out there that was not tied to NASA or other programs that are interwoven into the world governments...or is he?

I'll DM ya

That is quite rough. I would definitely feel some skittishness in picking up real-life friends that can make personal impacts like that. I tend to suffer the extremes of silence to everyone and everything because I'm always worried about the end results...if that makes sense.

Not that I've ever been accused of such to my face...lol it's more of the lack of interest I feel in someone when I start talking about things I am passionate about, interested in, or afraid of (worried about-same difference)...I could take all the threads of GLP and throw it at someone in a philosophical wondering (over time of course in a conversation) before I even found GLP. I just mentally hover on a non-stop anxiety kick, pondering everything all at once.

Really dig this kind of music. Thank you!

The best way to find a best friend is to be a best friend, as in what you give you receive. Cosmic law.

Last Edited by Colour Crusader on 10/20/2021 02:19 PM

Unfortunately those in the common interest fields aren't in the same league intellectually I have found, and it makes communicating extremely difficult, so how does one compensate for that?

Ain't skerred.

:muscles:

Well you aren't wrong there. It isn't about time, it's about ... time...

"I would recommend getting a cute little Pomeranian dog from a shelter, or animal rescue. Start getting out and take the dog with you. People are bound to come up to you and start talking to you, and wanting to meet your dog."


I live rurally. The only things that greet me around here when I do take the dog I already have out for a walk are cows and the occasional cat. I also have a kitten and a cat, as well as a rabbit. No one's stopped by to meet any of them. Not even my family that does live here lol

Last Edited by SydarthaFakeCameo on 10/20/2021 02:51 PM

I messaged you anyways you should be able to read the title!

I appreciate that greatly! Thank you I will put it to use!

Hello there! Yes, I have heard of a majority of these things and have considered many of these issues as I went through college. I started to learn that my instructors only would grade me well if I regurgitated the material back to them that they had just taught for the semester. If I thought outside the box, or thought of something for myself I was heavily marked with red pen and ignored by peers. I really don't believe text book anything much less what they've taught as indoctrination in our Nation's space programs readily available to the public. A quick FOIA search shows just how much we don't learn in school of any kind. I think you're on to a lot of great theories, though. I know the fake footage of most of NASA's stuff, and now Blue Origin, Virgin Galactic, and SpaceX has caused me to be extremely weary. We aren't flat Earth, but the mentality that comes with it has coated the playing field, for sure.