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Wake up men
Star fleet is taking enrollments User ID: 76637119 11/23/2021 03:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | example ... Jaso: Honey Bunny, have you seen my grey pants? Me: Why would I know where you last took them off? I could of said Next to your side of the bed. but NO I went the question route. Last Edited by Wake up men on 11/23/2021 03:04 AM Today was just a day, tomorrow is gonna be better. |
Travis Bickle
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bodhidharma
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Travis Bickle
(OP) Vigilantes need love too.... User ID: 72715998 United States 11/23/2021 03:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So, she technologically challenged. I'm sure, after 30 years of marriage, she has her own areas of competence. I could say turn the tables on her, but you would probably have your Thanksgiving turkey dumped upon your head, so just smile and tell her you love her and that you are lucky to have her. Who knows, you might get lucky. :) Quoting: GA Girl One of these days... A *REAL* rain is gonna come and wash all this scum off the streets. |
InfiniTea
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Travis Bickle
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Agent 99
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Travis Bickle
(OP) Vigilantes need love too.... User ID: 72715998 United States 11/23/2021 03:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thanks OP for the LOL!! My husband does the same thing. Somehow “loses” every document he has ever tried to save for 20+ years. I create folders on his work and home computers and have explained this simple concept a bagillion times. He is a brilliant and successful man and now thinks I am a condescending pest because I refuse to ever explain it again. One of these days... A *REAL* rain is gonna come and wash all this scum off the streets. |
Travis Bickle
(OP) Vigilantes need love too.... User ID: 72715998 United States 11/23/2021 03:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Followed by, Are you sure you don't want to make it yourself? What if I don't make it how you want it? Last Edited by Travis Bickle on 11/23/2021 03:46 AM One of these days... A *REAL* rain is gonna come and wash all this scum off the streets. |
InfiniTea
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Garufal
User ID: 79964821 United States 11/23/2021 04:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And it's driving me FUCKING CRAZY!!!!! Quoting: Travis Bickle Married 30+ years and it's still happening. Flash forward to today.... Wife: "I made a drink menu that I wanted to print last year.... Do YOU have my Drink Menu?" Me: "No. You never sent it to me" Wife: " I made it and put it in my Memo's" Me: "I don't have access to your memos" Wife: "ARE YOU SURE?" Me: "Yeah, I'm sure." (Back story here a bit, My Daughter convinced her to switch from Android to iPhone about 4 months ago) So, I'm like.... Me: "I'm pretty SURE Samsung doesn't play well with Apple." Wife: "Why is THAT?" Me: " I'll see what I can do...." So, I grab her old Android and plug it in. Charged enough and I boot it.... Message on the screen says that the SIM card was removed and the device wasn't shut down correctly.... Now it asks me for a Password. SO.... I ask the wife. What is the password for your old phone? She replies.... "What password do YOU USE for your phone?" Me: " I don't have a password on my phone but YOURS does" Wife: "What's my password?" I'm Like.... FUCK MY LIFE! I am trying to HELP you. :FML: Last Edited by Garufal on 11/23/2021 04:17 AM A epiphany I had watering my lawn one day. "Karma is the universal judicial system that NOBODY is Immune from" -Me I LOVE good juicy gossip. Lay it on me. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 79302780 United States 11/23/2021 04:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And it's driving me FUCKING CRAZY!!!!! Quoting: Travis Bickle Married 30+ years and it's still happening. Flash forward to today.... Wife: "I made a drink menu that I wanted to print last year.... Do YOU have my Drink Menu?" Me: "No. You never sent it to me" Wife: " I made it and put it in my Memo's" Me: "I don't have access to your memos" Wife: "ARE YOU SURE?" Me: "Yeah, I'm sure." (Back story here a bit, My Daughter convinced her to switch from Android to iPhone about 4 months ago) So, I'm like.... Me: "I'm pretty SURE Samsung doesn't play well with Apple." Wife: "Why is THAT?" Me: " I'll see what I can do...." So, I grab her old Android and plug it in. Charged enough and I boot it.... Message on the screen says that the SIM card was removed and the device wasn't shut down correctly.... Now it asks me for a Password. SO.... I ask the wife. What is the password for your old phone? She replies.... "What password do YOU USE for your phone?" Me: " I don't have a password on my phone but YOURS does" Wife: "What's my password?" I'm Like.... FUCK MY LIFE! I am trying to HELP you. :FML: And your point is????????? |
Agent 99
User ID: 77082640 United States 11/23/2021 04:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Travis Bickle Wife: "I made a drink menu that I wanted to print last year.... Do YOU have my Drink Menu?" Me: "No. You never sent it to me" Wife: " I made it and put it in my Memo's" Me: "I don't have access to your memos" Wife: "ARE YOU SURE?" Me: "Yeah, I'm sure." ... Wrong direction. After she says "Are you sure". Your answer should be: "Let me make you a drink, and maybe we can then find the menu... what was one drink on the menu?" She's asking you for love and not technical data. |
Wake up men
Star fleet is taking enrollments User ID: 76637119 11/23/2021 04:35 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Travis Bickle Wife: "I made a drink menu that I wanted to print last year.... Do YOU have my Drink Menu?" Me: "No. You never sent it to me" Wife: " I made it and put it in my Memo's" Me: "I don't have access to your memos" Wife: "ARE YOU SURE?" Me: "Yeah, I'm sure." ... Wrong direction. After she says "Are you sure". Your answer should be: "Let me make you a drink, and maybe we can then find the menu... what was one drink on the menu?" She's asking you for love and not technical data. https://imgur.com/zj9ERxr Last Edited by Wake up men on 11/23/2021 04:39 AM Today was just a day, tomorrow is gonna be better. |
Travis Bickle
(OP) Vigilantes need love too.... User ID: 72715998 United States 11/23/2021 04:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Oh my gosh. we're all wired the same !!! Quoting: Wake up men example ... Jaso: Honey Bunny, have you seen my grey pants? Me: Why would I know where you last took them off? I could of said Next to your side of the bed. but NO I went the question route. Lol, why do you have to be so mean? One of these days... A *REAL* rain is gonna come and wash all this scum off the streets. |
Mr. Shankish
User ID: 80492726 United States 11/23/2021 04:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So I have stopped asking questions when speaking with her. She only hears statements from me now. I can't yet tell if it's helping the marriage. She may have been gaslighting me. |
Travis Bickle
(OP) Vigilantes need love too.... User ID: 72715998 United States 11/23/2021 04:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, marriage takes a lot of patience. And a lot of good scotch. For that matter, Tullamore Dew has probably saved quite a few relationships. Quoting: Buck Fiden I'm quite convinced most marriages are complete either in divorce or alcoholism by one or both parties. The question game drives me mad... Not a single person on the planet can "prove" telepathy, but your spouse demands it, as a proof of attention, listening skills, and pulling the "exact" rabbit she wants, out of a hat. This is when I ask her to pull my finger, and I sleep on the couch with the dog. Everyone (that should be) is happy. I love this post.... We're not divorced yet and, I don't believe we'll ever be. We're still quite in love but... One of these days... A *REAL* rain is gonna come and wash all this scum off the streets. |
ElleMira
User ID: 76494359 United States 11/23/2021 04:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My husband does this shit as well. It's the small peeve I have about him. Me: What do you want for dinner tonight? (and then I'll list the choices of what I can make) Him: What do you want for dinner tonight? Yeah, the question with a question thing is maddening. Also, he interrupts a lot. |
Travis Bickle
(OP) Vigilantes need love too.... User ID: 72715998 United States 11/23/2021 04:53 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Recently, my wife stated that she hates questions from me. She said it was killing the relationship. Quoting: Mr. Shankish So I have stopped asking questions when speaking with her. She only hears statements from me now. I can't yet tell if it's helping the marriage. She may have been gaslighting me. Oh my, I think my first response would be; "Are general questions okay or are you talking about specific questions?" One of these days... A *REAL* rain is gonna come and wash all this scum off the streets. |
16 Blocks
User ID: 77138854 Germany 11/23/2021 04:53 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And it's driving me FUCKING CRAZY!!!!! Quoting: Travis Bickle Married 30+ years and it's still happening. Flash forward to today.... Wife: "I made a drink menu that I wanted to print last year.... Do YOU have my Drink Menu?" Me: "No. You never sent it to me" Wife: " I made it and put it in my Memo's" Me: "I don't have access to your memos" Wife: "ARE YOU SURE?" Me: "Yeah, I'm sure." (Back story here a bit, My Daughter convinced her to switch from Android to iPhone about 4 months ago) So, I'm like.... Me: "I'm pretty SURE Samsung doesn't play well with Apple." Wife: "Why is THAT?" Me: " I'll see what I can do...." So, I grab her old Android and plug it in. Charged enough and I boot it.... Message on the screen says that the SIM card was removed and the device wasn't shut down correctly.... Now it asks me for a Password. SO.... I ask the wife. What is the password for your old phone? She replies.... "What password do YOU USE for your phone?" Me: " I don't have a password on my phone but YOURS does" Wife: "What's my password?" I'm Like.... FUCK MY LIFE! I am trying to HELP you. :FML: I feel for you... Emotion beats reason Don't let it be that way |
Mr. Shankish
User ID: 80492726 United States 11/23/2021 05:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Recently, my wife stated that she hates questions from me. She said it was killing the relationship. Quoting: Mr. Shankish So I have stopped asking questions when speaking with her. She only hears statements from me now. I can't yet tell if it's helping the marriage. She may have been gaslighting me. Oh my, I think my first response would be; "Are general questions okay or are you talking about specific questions?" I was surprised how hard it is to frame a question as a statement! You have to think about it. It shuts down that "mind-to-mouth" express. Just yesterday, I wanted to ask her an intimate question that would require a simple "Yes or No" response. (...the type of question that most annoys her and that she refuses to answer.) So I took the time to formulate a statement and said it. SURPRISE! She responded to my statement in a way that answered the question I had! So, it's working out, at least for me...at least for now. |
Travis Bickle
(OP) Vigilantes need love too.... User ID: 72715998 United States 11/23/2021 05:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My husband does this shit as well. It's the small peeve I have about him. Quoting: ElleMira Me: What do you want for dinner tonight? (and then I'll list the choices of what I can make) Him: What do you want for dinner tonight? Yeah, the question with a question thing is maddening. Also, he interrupts a lot. Oh my FUCKING GOD!!!! THE DINNER SCENARIO... Wife: " What would you like to eat tonight, I was thinking about just ordering a pizza" Me: "Pizza sounds good, let's do that" Wife: "Or, we could order Chinese food... I just don't want to make anything" Me: "Pizza sounds good, let's do THAT" Wife: " You don't want Chinese food?" Me: "Chinese sounds good too, YOU pick, I'll eat whatever" Wife "We can get whatever you want" Me: "I kind of like the Chinese idea" Wife: "I don't want Chinese food" Me: One of these days... A *REAL* rain is gonna come and wash all this scum off the streets. |
Crunch62
User ID: 49285406 United States 11/23/2021 05:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My wife and I have been married for nearly 36 years. She asks me lots of questions, but invariably leaves out the most important information, leading to a drawn-out Q & A session. Example: My daughter's husband (a marine) was transferred from Hawaii to Virginia a few years ago. My wife drove down to LAX to pick up my daughter, who had flown in with their two dogs. They then proceeded to drive to Virginia in my wife's new car. A few days later, I get a text from my wife. Wife: What did you use to get the paint off my car? Me: What paint? Wife: That red paint on the bumper from when I had it serviced. Me: Polishing compound. Wife: This? (sends a photo of rubbing compound). Me: No, that is too coarse. It will take the paint off. Wife: Oh, I am glad I asked. Me: Why? Wife: Because I don't want to take the paint off. Me: Take the paint off of what? Wife: My car door. Me: What is wrong with your car door? Wife: It has some scratches on it. Me: Why does it have scratches on it? Wife: Max (the dog) scratched it when he was getting out of the car. Sigh. This entire conversation should have gone something like this. Wife: Hey, Max put some scratches on my door getting out of the car. What can I use to remove them? Me: Polishing compound. Clear. Plain. Simple. Ugh. I've been married so long, I don't even look both ways when I cross the street. |
Achduke7
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Travis Bickle
(OP) Vigilantes need love too.... User ID: 72715998 United States 11/23/2021 05:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Recently, my wife stated that she hates questions from me. She said it was killing the relationship. Quoting: Mr. Shankish So I have stopped asking questions when speaking with her. She only hears statements from me now. I can't yet tell if it's helping the marriage. She may have been gaslighting me. Oh my, I think my first response would be; "Are general questions okay or are you talking about specific questions?" I was surprised how hard it is to frame a question as a statement! You have to think about it. It shuts down that "mind-to-mouth" express. I had the HARDEST time for years trying to express my frustration.... It comes naturally to her. I mean, it's part of her paradigm. Just the way she is. I love her too death but, I'm a statement guy. One of these days... A *REAL* rain is gonna come and wash all this scum off the streets. |
Travis Bickle
(OP) Vigilantes need love too.... User ID: 72715998 United States 11/23/2021 05:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My wife and I have been married for nearly 36 years. She asks me lots of questions, but invariably leaves out the most important information, leading to a drawn-out Q & A session. Quoting: Crunch62 Example: My daughter's husband (a marine) was transferred from Hawaii to Virginia a few years ago. My wife drove down to LAX to pick up my daughter, who had flown in with their two dogs. They then proceeded to drive to Virginia in my wife's new car. A few days later, I get a text from my wife. Wife: What did you use to get the paint off my car? Me: What paint? Wife: That red paint on the bumper from when I had it serviced. Me: Polishing compound. Wife: This? (sends a photo of rubbing compound). Me: No, that is too coarse. It will take the paint off. Wife: Oh, I am glad I asked. Me: Why? Wife: Because I don't want to take the paint off. Me: Take the paint off of what? Wife: My car door. Me: What is wrong with your car door? Wife: It has some scratches on it. Me: Why does it have scratches on it? Wife: Max (the dog) scratched it when he was getting out of the car. Sigh. This entire conversation should have gone something like this. Wife: Hey, Max put some scratches on my door getting out of the car. What can I use to remove them? Me: Polishing compound. Clear. Plain. Simple. Ugh. Seriously.... I can relate this to SO MANY conversations... I feel your pain. I guess, I'm NOT alone. Lol One of these days... A *REAL* rain is gonna come and wash all this scum off the streets. |
Mr. Shankish
User ID: 80492726 United States 11/23/2021 05:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I avoid dinner questions now. I make statements. "I'm making Hamburger Helper for dinner with a side salad. There's enough for two. I'll need 30 minutes in the kitchen and then it will be ready." A no response from her is optimal. If she says anything like: "I don't want Hamburger Helper," then I respond: "I do not need to be first in the kitchen. You can make your dinner before me." Then she'll ask me a question. "Would I eat what she wants to make for dinner?" Then comes my response that gets her wanting me. "That sounds so much better than Hamburger Helper! I'd love to be your sous chef tonight and knock out the dishes as you cook." Boom! Dinner gets pushed back an hour. |
ElleMira
User ID: 76494359 United States 11/23/2021 05:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My husband does this shit as well. It's the small peeve I have about him. Quoting: ElleMira Me: What do you want for dinner tonight? (and then I'll list the choices of what I can make) Him: What do you want for dinner tonight? Yeah, the question with a question thing is maddening. Also, he interrupts a lot. Oh my FUCKING GOD!!!! THE DINNER SCENARIO... Wife: " What would you like to eat tonight, I was thinking about just ordering a pizza" Me: "Pizza sounds good, let's do that" Wife: "Or, we could order Chinese food... I just don't want to make anything" Me: "Pizza sounds good, let's do THAT" Wife: " You don't want Chinese food?" Me: "Chinese sounds good too, YOU pick, I'll eat whatever" Wife "We can get whatever you want" Me: "I kind of like the Chinese idea" Wife: "I don't want Chinese food" Me: Sounds like my husband! I don't like to be passive/aggressive, but situations like these sometimes call for it. When he goes on his dinner merry-go-round, I'll suggest something I know he hates. Me: Ok then, I want Thai food tonight. Him: I don't like Thai food. Me: I know, so you better make a choice or you'll be stuck eating pad-thai. |
Travis Bickle
(OP) Vigilantes need love too.... User ID: 72715998 United States 11/23/2021 05:15 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I avoid dinner questions now. Quoting: Mr. Shankish I make statements. "I'm making Hamburger Helper for dinner with a side salad. There's enough for two. I'll need 30 minutes in the kitchen and then it will be ready." A no response from her is optimal. If she says anything like: "I don't want Hamburger Helper," then I respond: "I do not need to be first in the kitchen. You can make your dinner before me." Then she'll ask me a question. "Would I eat what she wants to make for dinner?" Then comes my response that gets her wanting me. "That sounds so much better than Hamburger Helper! I'd love to be your sous chef tonight and knock out the dishes as you cook." Boom! Dinner gets pushed back an hour. Well played sir... One of these days... A *REAL* rain is gonna come and wash all this scum off the streets. |
Wake up men
Star fleet is taking enrollments User ID: 76637119 11/23/2021 05:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Oh my gosh. we're all wired the same !!! Quoting: Wake up men example ... Jaso: Honey Bunny, have you seen my grey pants? Me: Why would I know where you last took them off? I could of said Next to your side of the bed. but NO I went the question route. Lol, why do you have to be so mean? Meen on ones feet = Good on the sheet thanks for the green my friend Today was just a day, tomorrow is gonna be better. |