Road Trip with Father and Daughter Discussing Her Crazy Time at the Bloom Night Club in Nelson BC

Gets the source and starts to heal you.

Really, really trying to dial back the foof these days.

It’s always good to listen no matter how old they are. If it’s illegal and they are still living with you then a talk is in order. Or they move out. Don’t want the cops visiting.

I noticed that your daughter has a beautiful speaking voice, very very rich in harmonics.

You are a great dad!

True that, I always told them our house was a place of peace, so no fighting, and please do not attract the law!

She’s a sweetheart and I probably learned more from her than I know.

That is my intention.

I did shrooms once with very good friend. Laughed all night, remember everything. Never did them again, the high felt like you were never coming down. It felt like days.

There is a time dilation effect on shrooms sometimes.

Happy to hear you had a good trip with your friend.

My young adult son told me just that. I asked about his experiences as I was genuinely interested. If a parent listens without judgement and doesn’t criticize their adult kids actions, they’ll have a great relationship.

Sounds like you’re on the right track!

To the OP:

Good job Dad! Sounds like you have a great relationship with your daughter. I really enjoyed your video as it brings back memories for me.

I traveled that same highway into Nelson, BC with both of my daughters for a short vacation. It was only 3 days but your little town is cool! On our second day there we came across your community center and watched some bad ass junior ice hockey. When the game was over we went over to the pool side. We loved it.

I had a similar experience as you did. I did mushrooms with my youngest when she was 17. I thought I would rather her be home safe with me than go out and about for a bad trip.

I have a fantastic relationship with both of my daughters. All we have to do is listen to them and slightly guide them until they find their own way. Hold on to her! When you become an empty nester, it will make you lonely and sad. Unless you get to see her on a regular basis. They need to trust us and we as dad's cannot screw that up.

Cheers my friend!

glad you enjoyed Nelson, it's a great little town in the mountains!

i'm already an empty nester, three daughters now in their twenties, last one moved out a year ago.

the daughter in this video (filmed last week) is now 24 and still likes to hang out with her pop which makes my heart glad. =)

I can't even imagine!

My daughter will be born in the next couple of weeks, first child, and I'll be happy if I can be as good a listener with her as you are with yours. She clearly feels comfortable being herself so I guess you let her bloom while supporting and protecting her. Thanks for sharing!

congratulations!

you know, when i first started out being a parent, i had a harsh disciplinary christian background and started parenting my daughters the same way i had been.

they were obedient, but they were also scared of me.

i decided to take a page from Jim Morrison and "let your children play"



they stopped being so obedient, and my church friends thought i was on the wrong track, but i persisted just letting them be themselves, with gentle guidance and "let them bloom" as you put it.

and you know? i think they turned out all right!

which part can't you even imagine?

- having a daughter?
- going on a road trip?
- listening to your daughter talk about her night at the club?

some more background on this 'lack of discipline' strategy:

in those days, i had also started practicing zen buddhism.

there was this 'game' called,

"let everything that happens be ok."

(spoiler alert, you do need to gate-keep against psychopaths)

but i practiced this with my kids.
if i started to feel irritated by their natural behavior
i would pause and ask myself "why"?
"why do i feel irritated right now?"
the answer was often my upbringing, when adults had that attitude of "kids should be seen and not heard!"
so i let my daughters be heard.
and oh wow, the COMPLAINTS from other people!

here are a few of the complaints:

"why are your daughters so loud?"
(they were singing, taunting each other, just playing)

"why doesn't your daughter listen to me?"
(well.. my dude... why SHOULD she listen to you?)

"you really need to tell your daughter to shut up!"
(fvck you, and also.. fvck you. quench the spirit for YOUR comfort?! fvck you!)

"if you keep on this way, your daughters will be whores!"
(funny thing, a lot of harsh disciplined girls end up that way..)

my daughters ended up respecting themselves and their space.
they may have had a few sexual encounters, but who hasn't?
it is nature's way after all.
but they quickly found they respected themselves more than being a whore for every guy that played a mind control game with them. actually, they saw the mind control game and laughed about it.

i'm not a saint.
i'm not perfect.
i don't really know anything.

however, letting nature form a mind is better than any dogma!

thx everyone for your interest and comments on this thread.

perhaps i will make more driving dialogue videos in the future with different passengers.