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Anonymous Coward User ID: 80341352 United States 04/18/2022 06:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Last weekend I ended a 2.5 year alcohol free streak . I quit in Oct of 2019 going into 2020 . It was a hard time to quit drinking but I did it . I was a moonshiner from a while and that really took my alcoholism to another level . I was having to take a couple shots just to get going in the morning . It was terrible . I begged God for the strength to pull it off and He came through . Fast forward to the present and I have another prayer that I can't seem to get answered. It's my wife . She has become impossible to get along with . I can tell that her demons have made it their goal to make my life a living hell . She gets offended by everything that comes out of my mouth. It can be a compliment and her "tenants" will get her wheels turning until she finds something wrong with it . It's every day all day. She has moments of kindness but I wonder if that is the real her or the fake her . When I try to do something to do with church she gets super pissed and always comes up with all the other things I should be doing . She is a narcissist. You can't tell her anything to help her or God forbid correct her . I have been dealing with it because we have a 6 year old daughter that I don't want to grow up in a broken home . I don't care how bad I have it . I with carry on but one thing is for sure , I NEEDED A DAMN DRINK !!. I am a Christian and I will not divorce but this is getting way over into mental abuse . I have been praying that she will have a real encounter with God so she will become aware of her sinful demonic ways . I am trying to figure out if I can somehow bypass her free will being the priest of the home and one with my wife . Is it possible to cast a demon out of someone who won't admit they have a problem ? I just can't get a breakthrough and I am wondering if God is waiting on me to do something different. Quoting: VegaMayne HELP !! Firstly, OP-- congrats on making it two and a half years without a drink. That's incredibly impressive. Second, remember that Satan can use those we love to cause us the most pain. While I do not condone alcoholism, I will say that a little goes a long way-- and if a few drinks can turn you back and erase all of your progress, it may not be worth the temporary numbness. Pray. Sit down with your wife and try to hash it out. Keep calm tones, explain yourself rationally and have her do the same. You've come this far already-- I bet you two can see eye to eye again. Good luck, it's rough out there. |
Lily o' the Valley
User ID: 75944363 United States 04/18/2022 06:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Did you try AA? They may have ways to deal with the alcoholic family that the church probably won't offer you. Or if she drinks, you might benefit from alanon. Both may tell you ways you can make personal changes that might ease the situation, since it is doubtful you can do much about her. Keep praying, don't give up on sobriety or God. Letgo and let God. This too shall pass. *** Good deeds bring rewards, bad actions bring troubles. That is a law of the universe. *** |
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User ID: 81718082 United States 04/18/2022 06:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My wife and I went through an awful several years shortly after having kids. There were addictions involved with both of us, coupled with hard times. It was awful but somehow we both worked it out and now we are best friends. We rarely fight and if we do it's short lived and nothing like what it used to be. Hang in there op, no one says it's easy but the more struggle you two go through the stronger your resolve will become. Ironically my kids were about as old as yours during that time. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 82253726 United States 04/18/2022 06:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Last weekend I ended a 2.5 year alcohol free streak . I quit in Oct of 2019 going into 2020 . It was a hard time to quit drinking but I did it . I was a moonshiner from a while and that really took my alcoholism to another level . I was having to take a couple shots just to get going in the morning . It was terrible . I begged God for the strength to pull it off and He came through . Fast forward to the present and I have another prayer that I can't seem to get answered. It's my wife . She has become impossible to get along with . I can tell that her demons have made it their goal to make my life a living hell . She gets offended by everything that comes out of my mouth. It can be a compliment and her "tenants" will get her wheels turning until she finds something wrong with it . It's every day all day. She has moments of kindness but I wonder if that is the real her or the fake her . When I try to do something to do with church she gets super pissed and always comes up with all the other things I should be doing . She is a narcissist. You can't tell her anything to help her or God forbid correct her . I have been dealing with it because we have a 6 year old daughter that I don't want to grow up in a broken home . I don't care how bad I have it . I with carry on but one thing is for sure , I NEEDED A DAMN DRINK !!. I am a Christian and I will not divorce but this is getting way over into mental abuse . I have been praying that she will have a real encounter with God so she will become aware of her sinful demonic ways . I am trying to figure out if I can somehow bypass her free will being the priest of the home and one with my wife . Is it possible to cast a demon out of someone who won't admit they have a problem ? I just can't get a breakthrough and I am wondering if God is waiting on me to do something different. Quoting: VegaMayne HELP !! Do not go back to the "Spirits",that will unleash more demons. Say this when the demons come: "Satan be corrected by the Father" You are the head of the house. YOU have the power. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77629718 United States 04/18/2022 07:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First off OP don't be too hard on yourself. Second kudos for being a good parent. And lastly grab your wife and give that bitch a good slap! Remind her of her motherly obligations and that of being a good wife. Tell her to make you a good dinner and while doing so to bring you a few beer and shot combos. She will see the light and you guys will have the best sex that night that you've had in 6 years...I guarantee it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16259367 You're welcome That or cheat/file for divorce and drive OP into a homicidal rage probably creating a new Amityville spinoff. Please OP, leave the professional advice to the professionals. |
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User ID: 82853786 United States 04/18/2022 07:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I switched to Edibles and it was the best choice ever,stopped me from drinking and now i only do the edibles only few times a month now... Maybe that's the way to go with you ?? worked for me ... But i had to be smashed anywhere i went ...Like Norm on cheers..lol..just had to have beers... Even at ...my local congregation...i would go with about 4 beers in me or so ...for the Anxiety i had ...Just everyday for 19 years ... Even on my Quad trips here...i would always have a beer in my hand riding ...and a backpack filled with booze ...to sip on all through out the day... Buy a 30 pack at costco ...get home and just instantly drink 4 beers right away ...I remember getting 2 of those 48 packs at costco even till they stopped selling them twice a month ... Yea Edibles really stopped my drinking habit big time.... My wife dont drink,not at all...so that helped me,i remember i just went to the store and bought a 30 pack,she was out one night throwing them against the rocks ...i was kinda pissed.... When i get angry i kinda go overboard ...i remember just every time going out i was hammered ... Damn ...thinking i need something now ,after thinking of this ... But no i will just pop a gummie and i will forget about it ... my liver is great btw ...i had it checked every year...enzymes around 40 or so ...which is great... Though i found out my kidneys are not soo great which kinda pisses me off...but i think my high blood pressure did that...but it is what is... Plus me being a super mean drinking man ...yea its best i stay away ...because i can go kinda crazy thinking... lol... Praying helps,its why i think now it turned me to doing Edibles and it helps with my Anxiety ... Anyways i hope that helps ...Cheers... I mean Gummies ... Romans 14:11 It is written: “‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord, ‘every knee will bow before me; every tongue will acknowledge God. Revelation 20:15 Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 82885648 Canada 04/18/2022 07:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Last weekend I ended a 2.5 year alcohol free streak . I quit in Oct of 2019 going into 2020 . It was a hard time to quit drinking but I did it . I was a moonshiner from a while and that really took my alcoholism to another level . I was having to take a couple shots just to get going in the morning . It was terrible . I begged God for the strength to pull it off and He came through . Fast forward to the present and I have another prayer that I can't seem to get answered. It's my wife . She has become impossible to get along with . I can tell that her demons have made it their goal to make my life a living hell . She gets offended by everything that comes out of my mouth. It can be a compliment and her "tenants" will get her wheels turning until she finds something wrong with it . It's every day all day. She has moments of kindness but I wonder if that is the real her or the fake her . When I try to do something to do with church she gets super pissed and always comes up with all the other things I should be doing . She is a narcissist. You can't tell her anything to help her or God forbid correct her . I have been dealing with it because we have a 6 year old daughter that I don't want to grow up in a broken home . I don't care how bad I have it . I with carry on but one thing is for sure , I NEEDED A DAMN DRINK !!. I am a Christian and I will not divorce but this is getting way over into mental abuse . I have been praying that she will have a real encounter with God so she will become aware of her sinful demonic ways . I am trying to figure out if I can somehow bypass her free will being the priest of the home and one with my wife . Is it possible to cast a demon out of someone who won't admit they have a problem ? I just can't get a breakthrough and I am wondering if God is waiting on me to do something different. Quoting: VegaMayne HELP !! Fuck it turn up and drank |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 82885648 Canada 04/18/2022 07:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Where you a drunk when you got married? Quoting: Trashcanman2 If not, maybe she has lost respect for you because of your former weakness. Maybe she doesn't have the courage to divorce you? Talk to your wife, not us. fuck off you pos. Shake it off, weakling. Shake off ur fuckin dumb avatar is that ur broke ass casket? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 82854931 04/18/2022 07:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you're NOT drinking at this time in our history then something is wrong with you:( If you really want to quit tho, mushrooms will do it. Only problem is getting them. The damn youngsters have been holding onto them like they're gold. Please kids, plant an extra row for the old people. We need the shrooms too dammit |
BRIEF
User ID: 79662918 United States 04/18/2022 07:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
VegaMayne
(OP) User ID: 80394286 United States 04/18/2022 08:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have been smoking most of the time . I quit smoking weed for about a year but weed has always been a part of my life . I don't feel normal without it and I feel like it's a life raft . I'm not back drinking like I was . I like to have a couple beers and I'm good. Once I cross over to buzzed I'm done . Before I went to sleep hammered every night . Being able to have a couple and chill has done a lot for me . I am chosen . I have a major calling over my life in the ministry. God answeres my prayers on a daily basis but this prayer for a holy spirit intervention in her life has not come . I feel like maybe God wants me to be able to handle satan coming at me more gracefully before he fixes this . I am not winning this battle . I get so pissed off by the total disregard for decency and keeping the peace on her part .I pray WHAT IS THIS ALL FOR GOD !!! AM I GOING TOE TO TOE WITH LUCIFER HIMSELF ? IS THIS WHt I am training for ??? Aaaaaaahhh!!!! Mug Costanza |
VegaMayne
(OP) User ID: 80394286 United States 04/18/2022 08:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You just need a better replacement or substitute, like weed...Or see a doctor and have him prescribe something to increase neurotransmitters in the brain or help hold onto them longer, like an SSRI...That's why the craving never goes away, until you fix your brain chemistry... Quoting: BRIEF Piss of satan Mug Costanza |
VegaMayne
(OP) User ID: 80394286 United States 04/18/2022 08:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you're NOT drinking at this time in our history then something is wrong with you:( Quoting: Anonymous Coward 82854931 If you really want to quit tho, mushrooms will do it. Only problem is getting them. The damn youngsters have been holding onto them like they're gold. Please kids, plant an extra row for the old people. We need the shrooms too dammit I have done more lsd dmt mushrooms ketamine and all at the same time than all of you . I used ro be a signed dubstep dj . Traveled all over the world doing it all for many years . It just solidified my understanding of yahweh and Jesus. God didn't let the doctrines of demons take hold. Mug Costanza |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69091185 Canada 04/18/2022 08:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | its all about attitude OP. you quit because you want to be the best that your physical condition will allow. drinking only depletes our physical condition. the only reward is purely illusionary. truly poison. only when you are at your best, can you deal with the worst. ;) |
BRIEF
User ID: 79662918 United States 04/18/2022 08:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You just need a better replacement or substitute, like weed...Or see a doctor and have him prescribe something to increase neurotransmitters in the brain or help hold onto them longer, like an SSRI...That's why the craving never goes away, until you fix your brain chemistry... Quoting: BRIEF Piss of satan I don't know what the means, a spirit does not piss... I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 82854931 04/18/2022 08:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Op, this is a Spiritual war we are fighting and I believe everything you're saying because I'm seeing the same type of behavior in some people now. Will pray for you. God can do anything but remember, sometimes what he wants is for us to save ourselves. And yes, of course demons can inhabit a person. She's got to want it removed tho if that's what's going on. You probably won't be able to help her otherwise without prayer. Good Luck Op:) |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 79860821 Ireland 04/18/2022 08:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have been smoking most of the time . I quit smoking weed for about a year but weed has always been a part of my life . I don't feel normal without it and I feel like it's a life raft . I'm not back drinking like I was . I like to have a couple beers and I'm good. Once I cross over to buzzed I'm done . Before I went to sleep hammered every night . Being able to have a couple and chill has done a lot for me . I am chosen . I have a major calling over my life in the ministry. God answeres my prayers on a daily basis but this prayer for a holy spirit intervention in her life has not come . I feel like maybe God wants me to be able to handle satan coming at me more gracefully before he fixes this . I am not winning this battle . I get so pissed off by the total disregard for decency and keeping the peace on her part .I pray WHAT IS THIS ALL FOR GOD !!! AM I GOING TOE TO TOE WITH LUCIFER HIMSELF ? IS THIS WHt I am training for ??? Aaaaaaahhh!!!! Quoting: VegaMayne don't beat yourself up too bad there OP. I'm coming up on 10 years in a few months and I gotta say, if things continue this direction and not improve, I don't know if I'll make it further myself. This shi* goin on today is just too ridiculous for words anymore. Life is kind of losing it's luster anyway. Not making excuses, just explaining it. Anyway, all you can do is pick yourself up, dust off and start new. always a new beginning in that regard. |
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