After 2.5 years of sobriety I just couldn't do it anymore . | |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 82889229 United States 04/18/2022 08:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Last weekend I ended a 2.5 year alcohol free streak . I quit in Oct of 2019 going into 2020 . It was a hard time to quit drinking but I did it . I was a moonshiner from a while and that really took my alcoholism to another level . I was having to take a couple shots just to get going in the morning . It was terrible . I begged God for the strength to pull it off and He came through . Fast forward to the present and I have another prayer that I can't seem to get answered. It's my wife . She has become impossible to get along with . I can tell that her demons have made it their goal to make my life a living hell . She gets offended by everything that comes out of my mouth. It can be a compliment and her "tenants" will get her wheels turning until she finds something wrong with it . It's every day all day. She has moments of kindness but I wonder if that is the real her or the fake her . When I try to do something to do with church she gets super pissed and always comes up with all the other things I should be doing . She is a narcissist. You can't tell her anything to help her or God forbid correct her . I have been dealing with it because we have a 6 year old daughter that I don't want to grow up in a broken home . I don't care how bad I have it . I with carry on but one thing is for sure , I NEEDED A DAMN DRINK !!. I am a Christian and I will not divorce but this is getting way over into mental abuse . I have been praying that she will have a real encounter with God so she will become aware of her sinful demonic ways . I am trying to figure out if I can somehow bypass her free will being the priest of the home and one with my wife . Is it possible to cast a demon out of someone who won't admit they have a problem ? I just can't get a breakthrough and I am wondering if God is waiting on me to do something different. Quoting: VegaMayne HELP !! OP Get some weed my dude |
BRIEF
User ID: 79662918 United States 04/18/2022 08:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I failed three times smoking before I stopped craving them...I quit drinking too, but that wasn't difficult... I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
PapaLung
User ID: 11934135 Canada 04/18/2022 08:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First off OP don't be too hard on yourself. Second kudos for being a good parent. And lastly grab your wife and give that bitch a good slap! Remind her of her motherly obligations and that of being a good wife. Tell her to make you a good dinner and while doing so to bring you a few beer and shot combos. She will see the light and you guys will have the best sex that night that you've had in 6 years...I guarantee it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16259367 You're welcome lol yea slap your wife im sure that will work |
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VegaMayne
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VegaMayne
(OP) User ID: 80394286 United States 04/18/2022 09:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Last weekend I ended a 2.5 year alcohol free streak . I quit in Oct of 2019 going into 2020 . It was a hard time to quit drinking but I did it . I was a moonshiner from a while and that really took my alcoholism to another level . I was having to take a couple shots just to get going in the morning . It was terrible . I begged God for the strength to pull it off and He came through . Fast forward to the present and I have another prayer that I can't seem to get answered. It's my wife . She has become impossible to get along with . I can tell that her demons have made it their goal to make my life a living hell . She gets offended by everything that comes out of my mouth. It can be a compliment and her "tenants" will get her wheels turning until she finds something wrong with it . It's every day all day. She has moments of kindness but I wonder if that is the real her or the fake her . When I try to do something to do with church she gets super pissed and always comes up with all the other things I should be doing . She is a narcissist. You can't tell her anything to help her or God forbid correct her . I have been dealing with it because we have a 6 year old daughter that I don't want to grow up in a broken home . I don't care how bad I have it . I with carry on but one thing is for sure , I NEEDED A DAMN DRINK !!. I am a Christian and I will not divorce but this is getting way over into mental abuse . I have been praying that she will have a real encounter with God so she will become aware of her sinful demonic ways . I am trying to figure out if I can somehow bypass her free will being the priest of the home and one with my wife . Is it possible to cast a demon out of someone who won't admit they have a problem ? I just can't get a breakthrough and I am wondering if God is waiting on me to do something different. Quoting: VegaMayne HELP !! Do not go back to the "Spirits",that will unleash more demons. Say this when the demons come: "Satan be corrected by the Father" You are the head of the house. YOU have the power. Thanks man . It's just when I do that ,,,,, shots gonna get nuts . I'm working on it lol Mug Costanza |
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Pilgrim001
User ID: 82713236 United States 04/18/2022 10:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Is she on her phone a lot? Does she always guard her phone? Does she frequently delete her conversations? Do you have the password to her facebook page? What I'm saying is..Maybe it isn't you. Last Edited by Bennder on 04/18/2022 10:02 PM I don't have the time or the crayons to explain this to you. Slake Blake |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 81077310 United States 04/20/2022 02:09 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Did you try AA? They may have ways to deal with the alcoholic family that the church probably won't offer you. Or if she drinks, you might benefit from alanon. Both may tell you ways you can make personal changes that might ease the situation, since it is doubtful you can do much about her. Quoting: Lily o' the Valley Keep praying, don't give up on sobriety or God. Letgo and let God. This too shall pass. Both programs will provide a structured life plan that works. The problem was NOT the drinking. That, was actually a SOLUTION that worked quite well. Until it didn't. And everything fell apart. The problem wasn't the drinking ,it was the thinking . It all may sound silly. Until you find yourself in a stadium .20,000 people sober, holding hands, reciting the serenity prayer. But that's just one option. Truth is one, paths are many. Best of luck, OP. |
buster4445
User ID: 19481222 United States 04/20/2022 05:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Where you a drunk when you got married? Quoting: Trashcanman2 If not, maybe she has lost respect for you because of your former weakness. Maybe she doesn't have the courage to divorce you? Talk to your wife, not us. If she is a narc she don't want to leave him. She wants to see him suffer. You can't reason with one of them. The only diff tween a narc and a psychopath is the psychopath is more intelligent. She will destroy you if you don't get away. Thats what they do. Like a cat tormenting a mouse. Bad situation. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 82922274 04/20/2022 05:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hey OP! Congratulations on your run of sobriety. Whatever you do, do not consider your return to the bottle to be a failure. Rather, embrace the 2.5 years as a major WIN...and the first necessary step to a better life. With all due respect to any religious beliefs you may have, or those posting on this thread holding the same, the answer isn't prayer, exorcisms, counseling or anything of that nature. You're core issue, weather marriage, drinking, career or any other superficial manifestation is inside YOU. The answer to ALL of life issues is within YOU. You need no external inputs to have a new and better life. Consider fasting. Disconnect with the illusion and entertainment of what we call eating. My longest fast was 24 days. I am now in the final stages of a 30 day fast. It is life transforming and will literally change those around you. It isn't necessarily easy for say the first 4-5 days. After that it is all mental. Your wife will be in awe of you...and that is what is missing in your relationship. |
Golfcart User ID: 77110102 United States 04/20/2022 06:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You just need a better replacement or substitute, like weed...Or see a doctor and have him prescribe something to increase neurotransmitters in the brain or help hold onto them longer, like an SSRI...That's why the craving never goes away, until you fix your brain chemistry... Quoting: BRIEF I recently cold turkey’d SSRi’s, horrible experience and an EVIL drug! I drink 20 beers a day, liver is Swiss cheese. My existence requires beer, wish it was cheaper though.. |
Agent 99
User ID: 77082640 United States 04/20/2022 06:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Last weekend I ended a 2.5 year alcohol free streak . Quoting: VegaMayne I quit. I did it . I was a moonshiner from a while and that really took my alcoholism to another level. I begged God. It's my wife . She has become impossible . ..her demons...my life. She gets offended by everything she finds something wrong with it .every day all day. I wonder if that is the real or fake. she gets super pissed and always comes up with all the other things. She is a narcissist. You can't tell her anything. I have been dealing with it ..I don't care how bad I have it .I with carry on but one thing is for sure , I NEEDED A DAMN DRINK !!. I am a Christian. I am trying to figure out if I can somehow bypass her free will being the priest of the home and one with my wife . Is it possible to cast a demon out of someone who won't admit they have a problem ? Fixed it for you. 1. I am an alcoholic 2. I seek God 3. My wife is the problem 4. I have lost control 5. I need a drink 6. Please make my wife stop making me drink You're half way to the 12 steps. Awesome. Last Edited by Agent 99 on 04/20/2022 07:14 AM |
Agent 99
User ID: 77082640 United States 04/20/2022 06:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hey OP! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 82922274 Congratulations on your run of sobriety. Whatever you do, do not consider your return to the bottle to be a failure. Rather, embrace the 2.5 years as a major WIN...and the first necessary step to a better life. With all due respect to any religious beliefs you may have, or those posting on this thread holding the same, the answer isn't prayer, exorcisms, counseling or anything of that nature. You're core issue, weather marriage, drinking, career or any other superficial manifestation is inside YOU. The answer to ALL of life issues is within YOU. You need no external inputs to have a new and better life. Consider fasting. Disconnect with the illusion and entertainment of what we call eating. My longest fast was 24 days. I am now in the final stages of a 30 day fast. It is life transforming and will literally change those around you. It isn't necessarily easy for say the first 4-5 days. After that it is all mental. Your wife will be in awe of you...and that is what is missing in your relationship. Yep. The only one we can change is ourselves. |
Agent 99
User ID: 77082640 United States 04/20/2022 06:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol*—that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. 5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. 6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. 7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. 8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics*, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. Note: None of those are about your wife. Those are all about YOU. YOU are the alcoholic. Fix yourself. It's really hard for alcoholics to take personal responsibility. Instead they choose yammering and the booze. They will blame others for their conditions without looking within. Until an alcoholic can assess their lives and figure out why they are alcoholics they are stuck on the cycle of abuse of others. Good Luck. |
MetaDeth
User ID: 80495609 United States 04/20/2022 07:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You just need a better replacement or substitute, like weed...Or see a doctor and have him prescribe something to increase neurotransmitters in the brain or help hold onto them longer, like an SSRI...That's why the craving never goes away, until you fix your brain chemistry... Quoting: BRIEF Piss of satan I don't know what the means, a spirit does not piss... "Piss of Satan"... that's alcohol. That's the devil inside making him subconsciously blurt out demon-alcohol affirmations. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 79831253 United States 04/20/2022 07:15 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you're NOT drinking at this time in our history then something is wrong with you:( Quoting: Anonymous Coward 82854931 If you really want to quit tho, mushrooms will do it. Only problem is getting them. The damn youngsters have been holding onto them like they're gold. Please kids, plant an extra row for the old people. We need the shrooms too dammit I have done more lsd dmt mushrooms ketamine and all at the same time than all of you . I used ro be a signed dubstep dj . Traveled all over the world doing it all for many years . It just solidified my understanding of yahweh and Jesus. God didn't let the doctrines of demons take hold. So what's your problem? Is your God taking the decade off? Don'tcha believe in prayer? Just coming on GLP to cry like a bitch huh... sympathies. |
Agent 99
User ID: 77082640 United States 04/20/2022 07:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am trying to figure out if I can somehow bypass her free will being the priest of the home and one with my wife. Quoting: VegaMayne HELP !! Ok. so... you are not the priest of the home. You are an alcoholic. You do not control your wife's free will. You are an alcoholic. No one appointed you to be the priest of the home. You self-appointed yourself. Because you have control issues. Maybe magic alcohol will make you a super hero too. You can keep trying or face reality. |
Agent 99
User ID: 77082640 United States 04/20/2022 07:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... I am chosen . I have a major calling over my life in the ministry. God answeres my prayers on a daily basis but this prayer for a holy spirit intervention in her life has not come . I feel like maybe God wants me to be able to handle satan coming at me more gracefully before he fixes this . I am not winning this battle . I get so pissed off by the total disregard for decency and keeping the peace on her part .I pray WHAT IS THIS ALL FOR GOD !!! AM I GOING TOE TO TOE WITH LUCIFER HIMSELF ? IS THIS WHt I am training for ??? Aaaaaaahhh!!!! Quoting: VegaMayne Ministry is calling you to heal. Nothing else. Yep, in life we all face our demons. Mostly it's childhood trauma. God will listen to the little children who were raped and abused that drove them to escape in drugs and alcohol. |
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User ID: 82177354 United States 04/20/2022 07:35 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP good on the 2.5 years. At night while she is sleeping place a hand on her gently and pray for her and your family. Every Night. I had to do this for my wife, she almost killed herself. I truly believed she was possessed but we made it through mostly intact. Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit upon his hands, hoist the black flag and begin slitting throats |
~LSDMTHC~
User ID: 79990089 United States 04/20/2022 07:35 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hey I’m with ya dude. It’s been about 3 years for me and shits tough recently. Tougher than ever. I just can’t seem to give in on my sobriety though. I’ve tried too. Hell I’ve had a bottle of whisky in the house for the last month and no matter how hard I try to drink the shit I just can’t. I know my son deserves a dad that doesn’t pick alcohol over him though so I don’t know I’ll ever be able to drink with him around, let alone so young. I’m a darker dude so my minds instantly like “ah fuck it, wonder what fentanyls like? Maybe I can do that and just die?” lol. Don’t give up completely. I’ve never tried sobriety until this streak. I hear it’s a hell of a lot harder to get it back everytime you go back out. Best of luck dude. Floridian. Christian, Father, Hard worker and a millenial. Fuck Big Pharma! Don’t be a pussy, if you leave red at least leave your name. I can’t guarantee I’ll be alive come this time next year… |
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Agent 99
User ID: 77082640 United States 04/20/2022 07:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You just need a better replacement or substitute, like weed...Or see a doctor and have him prescribe something to increase neurotransmitters in the brain or help hold onto them longer, like an SSRI...That's why the craving never goes away, until you fix your brain chemistry... Quoting: BRIEF I recently cold turkey’d SSRi’s, horrible experience and an EVIL drug! I drink 20 beers a day, liver is Swiss cheese. My existence requires beer, wish it was cheaper though.. Beer is easier than admitting you were raped as a child, huh? Maslows Hierarchy is very clear where alcoholism is developed, in the formative years age 4 to 9. Usually men are in forward motion and don't look back to see what they are dragging around. Men will punch their way through life instead of unloading baggage that makes them cranky. Take some time for self-analysis to see where the thorn is and pull that fucker out. Then apply anti-biotic cream so it doesn't fester. |
pool nli User ID: 80073096 United States 04/20/2022 07:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your wife needs to make herself happy, and alcohol will not make you happy either. Pick your daughter's happiness over your own, bite your tongue and walk away from any fight before the second sentence is spoken. I endured a demeaning, egotistical, sloppy person of a spouse for 20 years, still loved him but it's because I never fought back, didn't put myself first...I put our son first that the marriage lasted that long. You basically have 12 more years to go until you should divorce. If you divorce earlier, your life, finances, daughter, etc are gonna suffer worse. |
ThereRMeds
User ID: 81107201 United States 04/20/2022 07:44 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Maybe she has some resentment built up for (likely) having to be THE adult in the relationship while you were drunk. 2.5 years is probably about right for her to be able to finally let her hair down & breath trusting a partner to carry their weight. Once she could trust that you can actually handle emotional issues without getting drunk this resentment & anger boiled out. Go to marriage counseling OP. ThereRMeds4That |
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