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that makes sense, i will do that when i see her again.

thank you.

the little stuff is all a facade about what she doesn't wish to discuss. something larger is going on.

mother daughter communication breakdown.

she's never been very open with me.

i will be there and help her be open, but she is so hesitant she share.

she shares ost with my aunt.

parents primary concern is how they have failed. it's a big quilt complex, quilt complexes are easiest dealt with by assigning fault in others. the small stuff is just a way to relieve anxiety. the small stuff is much easier to address then the real underlining issues! lol

*eats sleep tabs* goodnight.

she feels your aunt will be more understanding of her perceived failures. she seem that she is very hard on herself. you are her mirror.

that is helful, thank you.

my neighbor above me is going thru a divorce she has a young son, and was talking to my mom about it, i wasn't there. she told my neighbor that she felt like she failed me, as when she was going thru divorce, she would tell me everything, and say nasty things about my father to me, telling me too much of her feelings is what she told my neighbor.

a few months later, my neighbor was talking to me about trauma and abuse openly, and told me this. it came up, bc i was saying how my mom keeps saying that i am a burden to her.

talk to your aunt maybe she can help your mother understand your feelings better.

i agree she is too hard on herself, and is a perfectionst down to every detail outwardly. i think that's why she gets so upset when she sees i don't put any effort into my appearance, bc i really don't care about that kind of thing.

thank you, i will do that. my aunt is a social worker, she is very good at communicating.

quilt is a parent's worst burden. children are their parents. pretty sure she meant burden as in personal internalized baggage. much like the same baggage that she feels she accumulated throughout her life.

how can i help her with that quilt?

i will make sure i will let her know tomorrow extra special how much i love her for being my mom. no one else could do it but her!

i wish you could talk to my mom!

i hope your mother and you have a wonderful day! night tater! lol

thank you.

thank you for being here.

i hope dinner cooks itself tonight!

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i hope i find you tonight in dreamworld, that is my sweetest dream.

have a cozy rest of the night!

good night, dearest querido!

good morning!

i hope your morning has been filled with joy!

good afternoon,

earlier, i was wake sleeping and i heard you say something about something golden being born.

nothing golden going on here. i hope you had a nice visit with your mom today!

it was nice, she was calm this morning!

i'm very lucky to have her as my mother!

sharing a nice visit could be something golden being born! lol

my mom likes golden books.

how has your day been?

it's been a typical mother's day sunday, went to my grandmother's church for mass and then to my mother's, grandmother's and aunt's grave.

was it a nice Mass at your grandmother's church?