63 and I can't take care of myself anymore

Anything will cause problems for you if you overdo it.

Should your doctor be blamed for not telling you that?

I'm 62 borderline diabetic and taking BP meds. Coffee gets me tired too. What I've noticed to relieve pain is to take Turmeric or Curcumin. It is an anti-inflammatory which relieves the pain in my knees and joints. It also boost my immune system and regulates my Blood Pressure. I've noticed greater mobility by using it...

How are your sugar levels. That could effect energy levels too...

Have you tried Turmeric or Curcumin. It may relieve your pain...

I have been reading here for many years and rarely post but I have tried every natural remedy posted here for the many ailments I have dealt with. I don't go to the doctor. Some of the supplements helped, but recently I got a prescription (required in my state) for leafy green stuff, and RSO has changed everything. I had IBS symptoms, PTSD, and some other issues I don't believe were caused in an organic way. Slowly I am getting better. Please try full-spectrum oil! (RSO)

OP - where in Nashville are you? I'm female, 57, and share the same issue with energy and a general feeling of depression. Maybe we could go get a coffee or something!

Good advice for OP


Swimming or exercising knees in tub water,Epsom salt and Borax ("detergent booster", a mineral we need
I would take a touch of
IVernnectin 2.

They are not too heavy if you know what you are doing. Inform and educate yourself. You are far too negative.

Of course it's not just about taking supplements, you have to change your diet as well.

A prescription for leafy vegetables now?



Damn joker.

I hope you can get your energy back. Did you vax? If so there may be processes we cannot understand. Otherwise, it's probably recoverable.

There's a lot to be said for getting out there and mowing the lawn. The regular exercise has got to be good for you. If you get tired from it, it's good tired.

Astragalus is helpful generally against aging. It is said to grow out the telomeres, which allows cells to reproduce themselves, to make new cells and then die themselves. Otherwise you're left with a collection of the same cells trying to hang in as they older and older, and that's probably "graceful aging".

To hell with graceful aging, how about cheating the system?

"All About Italy" is a facebook page of Chris Sobolev and her husband Pete who moved to Santa Domenica Talao in Calabria Italy about a decade ago. She makes youtubes about properties that are available in that blessed area. Their youtube channel is Super Savvy Travelers, LLC. Because of their enthusiasm for the area, quite a few people have purchased in that village, and they seem to be forming a sort of loose association as a US expat community. The area is extremely inexpensive and the locals are very friendly toward newcomers. It's a beautiful area. [link to www.youtube.com (secure)]
450 square feet flat for $31,000... [link to www.idealista.it (secure)]

My favorite real estate search website is [link to www.idealista.it (secure)] . Calabria, Sicily, Abruzzo, and Puglia are the least expensive areas to live.

Obtaining a residence visa is not a slam dunk; it is, in fact, fairly complex and difficult. The bureaucratic delays are famously frustrating. For permanent residence you need to either have Italian ancestry, or be able to show regular guaranteed income of around $3,100 minimum monthly. The other option is a new program called digital nomad visa which would require you to prove that you can support yourself via internet income. It was just approved a couple of months ago. If you have any way to get residency in one of the EU countries (generally through parents or grandparents being born in an EU country, or through marriage), you then would be able to reside in Italy. Forget trying to get a work visa, there is such high unemployment and low wages in Italy that they will not allow you to take any jobs away from their own citizens. However, if you are fluent in Italian and have some kind of rare business skill and can get hired by an Italian company, the company itself can facilitate a work visa, but that is rarely done.

If you want to learn a little Italian before you go, my favorite program is on [link to www.rocketlanguages.com (secure)] I just checked their website and they have 60% off sale until midnight July 4.

Are you sure about those prices?

What I remember of Florence (besides finding the statue of David in the Offizi, which my wife stared at for 40 minutes), is the outdoor cafe where a bottle of anything to drink, including plain water, was $7. We were having trouble getting our credit cards to work, so we were poverty stricken on that trip, it was a challenge. But Italy seemed expensive for food, because they don't produce enough. Too many spectacular hillsides don't make for efficient farming.

How is it cheating the system if nature herself is providing the cure?

I guess she got her hopes up for nothing.

I would recommend a paying site only if you are serious about learning the language and intend to invest your time in it.

Otherwise, there are free videos on Youtube, and a good free site for learning 40 different languages I can recommend is [link to www.goethe-verlag.com (secure)]

Every page is one lesson, and every lesson comes with an mp3 file for pronunciation. You start by putting in your mother tongue and then choose the language (be alert though, the lessons themselves are in the first link "phrase book"), like this:

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One thing that is necessary to know about turmeric is that it is not very easily absorbed by your body. Adding a little black pepper very much incrases the absorption rate though, to the effect of something about 148 times!

For sugar levels: obviously decrease your sugar intake, avoid adding any sugar altogether if you can. Otherwise, cinnamon helps to regulate blood sugar. Add cinnamon to your coffee as a habit.

Look it up, research it, don't rely solely on what people are saying here.

Sounds enticing, but watch that "blessed area". Calabria is home to the N'Drangheta, just like Sicily is to the Mafia, and Calabria was historically one of the poorest and most miserable regions of Italy.

That sais, in the 21st century I guess tourists or even expats should probably not feel too concerned about this, but these are one of the things one should know before moving there IMHO.

OP is in TX, near Austin.

The few I went out to eat with were not looking for a relationship, they were looking for someone to take care of them.

Just need to find some of that genuine miracle cream.

as an italian, I'd strongly advise you to go to spain

Hey man, hear me out, I know there are a lot of skeptics about this topic... But you may have ADHD.

I was diagnosed at 27 and looking back it explains so much about my life, my consistent struggles, and I can't believe no body saw the signs earlier and helped me. Ultimately though, it's up to us to help ourselves.

Why I say this... 2 things:

1) You say you don't have energy until 6pm. This was one of my symptoms. The fatigue with ADHD is unrelenting and the waves of energy can be problematic when they do come at inappropriate times during the day. For me, I had no energy until sun-down and trying to wake up and function in the morning was hell and I was completely useless during the day when everything needs to be done. Look up, "Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome" - this syndrome often occurs co-morbidly with ADHD, as do other sleep disorders generally.

2) You mention that coffee makes you sleepy. This is called a paradoxical reaction. Coffee is a stimulant, it is supposed to make people more wired. For some people with ADHD, it makes them calmer - even tired, as you described. It's related to dopamine and how ADHD brains are differently wired/lacking in dopamine. Proper stimulant medication will likely give you a calming, yet also energising, boost that will allow you to have energy and be productive during the 'normal' hours of the day, and when they wear off allow you to ride your natural daily exhaustion to sleep. Finding the right stim can be a bit of a process in and of itself, but once you find the right one the results are life changing (presuming you have ADHD).

ADHD is a crazily complex disorder. Some people are hyperactive and can't sit still; others are inattentive and have more cognitive issues with memory, motivation, etc. You can also be a combined type if your symptom domains overlap, which I have. I don't know your situation but you may have other symptoms that warrant investigation.

ADHD medication won't help with your physical ailments, but so much about your life can - and will - improve if you have ADHD and you start medication. The presence of energy in an otherwise fatigue riddled life is the biggest driver of positive change. This has been my experience.

Please, for your own sake, consider seeing a psychiatrist for an evaluation. Look up ADHD online and see if anything at all resonates with you. Do you have impulsivity (gambling, substance use), cognitive problems (memory, concentration, organisation, 'executive function' [the will to do what you know you need to do], prone to periods of racing thoughts and fixation, or opposite), do you feel excessively restless or excessively fatigued and unable to function? At least some of these things I suspect you may relate to. Yes, they're all human deficits, but for ADHD how pronounced/consistent they are what makes them disabling rather than transient/annoying hiccups that others only have to deal with 'sometimes.'

I could be totally wrong, so feel free to ignore this suggestion, but I really think that you have nothing to lose by seeking a professional opinion from someone who specialises in this area. I am a part of a number of ADHD groups online, and the number of people diagnosed in their 40s, 50s, 60s is not all that rare. So many of them are so much happier with proper treatment, and although it's easy to then look back and wish you had been treated sooner, being diagnosed at all is a huge blessing and could restore a lot more quality of life to your years ahead.

I will link you to a website that may help you with your starting research if you wish to look into the subject more:

[link to chadd.org (secure)]

I suggest looking into other resources as well though. There are many useful places to find out about others' experiences with ADHD, potentially from people your own age as well if you just start looking in to things.

I'll also edit to add this: even if you are 'high functioning' and have advance yourself through life in work, family, study etc. doesn't mean you don't have ADHD and don't suffer from it - it means you have developed successful coping mechanisms/strategies in those domains. I graduated from law school before I was diagnosed - but the way I studied/lived during those years was far from normal/healthy/ideal - I just had weird but effective (although ultimately not sustainable) coping mechanisms. Food for thought!

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If I lived close enough I’d come around and fix your mower and mow your lawn

Hope things improve for you soon

How is buying a new lawnmower every time it breaks cheaper than paying someone to mow the lawn?

Look, the older I get, the more I want to die in the AZ heat. I used to be in it just fine but not now. So I hunker down in my apartment with the regular A/C and a portable one that I can roll around. It's like Alaska in here and I love it. After 6pm, I'll go out. An aversion to the heat is normal as we get older.

As for being a night owl, I am too. I COME ALIVE at night just like I am right now at 2am. I'm actually gonna hop in the car and drive to the post office to drop a card in the outside drop and I'll hit the QT on the way home and get a scratcher ticket and a sluchy mango drink. I'll probably lay down just as the sun comes up. Do I feel kinda bummed that I don't have the same energy during the day? Well, sure, but it is what it is. When the weather cools, it will even out. You're fine...don't stress about such things!

As for you never having experienced what "so many other women get to experience", who are you talking about, sister??? The grass isn't always greener and there's give and take all around. I adored my dad and he passed away, it was devastating and heart-breaking to watch so I miss him all the time, it's sad. My mom is alive and 83 but she is a few states away so I spend time worrying about that. I have a son with disabilities so I worry what he'll do when I'm gone. It's all worry and wait. I had a great childhood and all that but it doesn't change the way my life is today. I feel just like you. And I have family but their scattered around. I might have been and still am loved by family but I certainly wasn't "pampered" and many of my cousins have already died and I may be old but everyone else is REALLY old. I have to watch my own back. I'm not sure who you are comparing your life to but I assure you that you didn't miss much simply because it doesn't happen for others like we think. You could have had ALL THAT and STILL be feeling like you are today.

If you were in AZ, I'd drive over, give you a hug and drag you out with me for lunch and some thrift store shopping and we could lament over the horrors of getting older together. I hate getting old. It truly sucks but we really are all in this together. Meanwhile, when you're up late energized and feeling bummed about it, know that a girl in dusty, hot Tucson, AZ is up late too feeling the same way.

I'm 52 and much the same. I have good days, though, which helps. But my husband is also falling apart and this makes things harder. I try not to be resentful but sometimes I am because he is in deep denial about what he's capable of and what am I supposed to do? Tell him he's lame and lazy? He should notice on his own.

It took me a while to get the meaning of "leafy green stuff". Perhaps I should take some...LOL

It does get harder as we age. So many issues. By the time you hit sixty most of the people you knew in your life are dead. It gets harder every day to just get up and function. If you let you sleeping hours get strange it only makes it harder to function in the day. I live in southern part of Illinois and I am 70. Had health issues the last few years, but still going. I have a garden, before the drought burned it up, it kept me busy. Have activities to do my friend it will help you. Something you like or want to do. Dan

Leafy green stuff is needed for your rhythmic system - heart and lungs.

Hang in there, Feathery! Did you find some new friends at this thread that you're going to connect with iRL and maybe hang out with??

Be careful: some might not be all they pretend to be. Sadly learned the hard way myself with 3 different trolls! Some talk a good game, sound like same politics which we can't find iRL, sounds great but the reality is... it's quite something else to connect outside GLP (phone, email etc.) Be VERY careful. Perhaps best to frequent a safer forum and meet others there. JMO