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need advice - Am I being unreasonable
I am angry at my step son for bringing over his sick baby and now I and the grandfather are sick. I have had to cancel 2 much needed doctor appointments and miss work. For me no work = no pay.

He brought the baby over during his court appointed visitation he gets every other weekend. The father and mother had a baby and broke up all in the same year. Sigh.

Am I being a jerk?
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08/31/2022 05:51 AM
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
No. You are not being unreasonable.

He should have called and asked first and advise you that the baby is sick and asked if you still wanted to see the baby sick.
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08/31/2022 05:52 AM
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Its a shame that the average person has no clue how to take any measure of care for themselves, or anyone else, and they're ridiculed for even trying. Go "ask your doctor" what to do.
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
Have you ever, in your entire adult life, not quarantined yourself when you had a cold, but instead gave that cold to another person?

It sounds to me like you might not care for your husband’s son or the son’s child. When you took on the man, you took took on his offspring.

I vote that if you feel angry, work on that within yourself while keeping your mouth shut.
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08/31/2022 06:10 AM
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Come this way into this spare bedroom. Let have some fun that involves my meaty appendage inside your bowels. It will make you forget about this problem
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oh yeah sure like you are up to it
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
No. You are not being unreasonable.

He should have called and asked first and advise you that the baby is sick and asked if you still wanted to see the baby sick.
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thank you
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Its a shame that the average person has no clue how to take any measure of care for themselves, or anyone else, and they're ridiculed for even trying. Go "ask your doctor" what to do.
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nah don't need doctor for this but missing naturopath and chiro appts :(
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08/31/2022 06:12 AM
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
Wow! You got some crazy weird responses from some whackadoodle people.

Need more info.

Did your stepson know the baby was sick? How sick was the baby? Was the baby running fever and throwing up? Was the baby running fever and had symptoms of sinus congestion?

Or did the baby just have a runny nose? Because baby’s get lots of runny noses and some parents don’t even notice them or equate them with an actual illness.

I think you should get over being upset. It happened. Being upset isn’t going to change what “is” right now. Except for possibly delaying your healing.

I would just mention to the step-son that if baby is noticeably sick in the future that you would like to be asked before hand if a visit is okay.

You will get over your illness. You’ll reschedule some other appointments and you’ll go back to work.

Take this time off and use it to your benefit. Read a book you’ve not had time for. Binge watch a favorite show. Drink some warm tea and remember that you are more blessed than many in this crazy world.

And love on that grandbaby because no one is promised tomorrow.
Sonflower17
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08/31/2022 06:18 AM
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
No. You are not being unreasonable.

He should have called and asked first and advise you that the baby is sick and asked if you still wanted to see the baby sick.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83827444


Yes this. It’s almost like people want to get other people sick, extremely inconsiderate at the least. Me me me and that’s how these things spread because people are inconsiderate. I caught omicron from just such a person, consideration is likely not even an ability that person possesses.
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
Have you ever, in your entire adult life, not quarantined yourself when you had a cold, but instead gave that cold to another person?

It sounds to me like you might not care for your husband’s son or the son’s child. When you took on the man, you took took on his offspring.

I vote that if you feel angry, work on that within yourself while keeping your mouth shut.
 Quoting: Queen Runner


Point taken thank you. I am not aware of it but sure it probably happened.

Yes you are right I do not care for his son. When I married his father I was not aware that the son would turn out to be what he is. After his 5th or so arrest, maybe more I lost count (he is 29 years old) I stopped trying with the son. The baby is innocent in all of this. But yes I am angry for him having a baby and not getting his life together so that the mother kicked him out and now this is the mess that is left. He just got out of jail a few months ago as well. So yes I can't stand him and he will never reform himself.
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08/31/2022 06:21 AM
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
Wow! You got some crazy weird responses from some whackadoodle people.

Need more info.

Did your stepson know the baby was sick? How sick was the baby? Was the baby running fever and throwing up? Was the baby running fever and had symptoms of sinus congestion?

Or did the baby just have a runny nose? Because baby’s get lots of runny noses and some parents don’t even notice them or equate them with an actual illness.

I think you should get over being upset. It happened. Being upset isn’t going to change what “is” right now. Except for possibly delaying your healing.

I would just mention to the step-son that if baby is noticeably sick in the future that you would like to be asked before hand if a visit is okay.

You will get over your illness. You’ll reschedule some other appointments and you’ll go back to work.

Take this time off and use it to your benefit. Read a book you’ve not had time for. Binge watch a favorite show. Drink some warm tea and remember that you are more blessed than many in this crazy world.

And love on that grandbaby because no one is promised tomorrow.
 Quoting: Sonflower17


thanks. Yes I was thinking that too to try to give him the benefit of the doubt but baby had runny nose and cough. He may have not realized it. This baby needs all the help he can get with inept parents so you are right.
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
Wow! You got some crazy weird responses from some whackadoodle people.

Need more info.

Did your stepson know the baby was sick? How sick was the baby? Was the baby running fever and throwing up? Was the baby running fever and had symptoms of sinus congestion?

Or did the baby just have a runny nose? Because baby’s get lots of runny noses and some parents don’t even notice them or equate them with an actual illness.

I think you should get over being upset. It happened. Being upset isn’t going to change what “is” right now. Except for possibly delaying your healing.

I would just mention to the step-son that if baby is noticeably sick in the future that you would like to be asked before hand if a visit is okay.

You will get over your illness. You’ll reschedule some other appointments and you’ll go back to work.

Take this time off and use it to your benefit. Read a book you’ve not had time for. Binge watch a favorite show. Drink some warm tea and remember that you are more blessed than many in this crazy world.

And love on that grandbaby because no one is promised tomorrow.
 Quoting: Sonflower17


thanks. Yes I was thinking that too to try to give him the benefit of the doubt but baby had runny nose and cough. He may have not realized it. This baby needs all the help he can get with inept parents so you are right.
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08/31/2022 06:24 AM
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
No. You are not being unreasonable.

He should have called and asked first and advise you that the baby is sick and asked if you still wanted to see the baby sick.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83827444


Yes this. It’s almost like people want to get other people sick, extremely inconsiderate at the least. Me me me and that’s how these things spread because people are inconsiderate. I caught omicron from just such a person, consideration is likely not even an ability that person possesses.
 Quoting: Sharon Cherries


Thank you. He is a sociopath to boot. I am not just using that term loosely like oh that person is a psycopath.
He truly is a sociopath. He hits about 95% of the traits, hence the multiple arrests. I have never know someone to lie, use and manipulate as much as he does.
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08/31/2022 06:25 AM

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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
On the one hand - People should protect the elderly from communicable disease.

On the other hand - You're going to get sick one way or another. It's seasonal and probably unavoidable.

On the one hand - The father here is *probably* an irresponsible douche with a bastard in tow


On the other hand - Maybe the father wanted it to work out with the mother but he just didn't have the life experience to recognize a damaged promiscuous Witch woman.

This isn't a question for emotions

This is simply a matter of choosing your perspective/point-of-view

Do you want to compound the negativity or diffuse it?

That's not a judgment from me, there may be positive outcomes and reasons to compound the negativity here and negative consequences to diffusion.
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
On the one hand - People should protect the elderly from communicable disease.

On the other hand - You're going to get sick one way or another. It's seasonal and probably unavoidable.

On the one hand - The father here is *probably* an irresponsible douche with a bastard in tow


On the other hand - Maybe the father wanted it to work out with the mother but he just didn't have the life experience to recognize a damaged promiscuous Witch woman.

This isn't a question for emotions

This is simply a matter of choosing your perspective/point-of-view

Do you want to compound the negativity or diffuse it?

That's not a judgment from me, there may be positive outcomes and reasons to compound the negativity here and negative consequences to diffusion.
 Quoting: The_Meridian


Cool! Thanks for helping. Diffusing it now and hoping no negative comes from it.
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08/31/2022 06:31 AM
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
I am angry at my step son for bringing over his sick baby and now I and the grandfather are sick. I have had to cancel 2 much needed doctor appointments and miss work. For me no work = no pay.

He brought the baby over during his court appointed visitation he gets every other weekend. The father and mother had a baby and broke up all in the same year. Sigh.

Am I being a jerk?
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Yip total c#@T
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
I am angry at my step son for bringing over his sick baby and now I and the grandfather are sick. I have had to cancel 2 much needed doctor appointments and miss work. For me no work = no pay.

He brought the baby over during his court appointed visitation he gets every other weekend. The father and mother had a baby and broke up all in the same year. Sigh.

Am I being a jerk?
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 84104782


Yip total c#@T
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 84094965


:)
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08/31/2022 07:19 AM
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
It’s not unreasonable, but an opportunity to set clearer boundaries with the son and better communication with your husband.

The son sounds careless and lacks respect for others. It would now be considered unreasonable for you, moving forward, to expect this man will make considerate choices in the future. It’s a good time to Make it clear to your husband that you expect visits to be when they are healthy. Visits when sick are not welcome. Lost work, lost appointments and your resentment are evidence enough to set this clear boundary.

Setting boundaries is not unreasonable after you experienced hardship due to another’s carelessness. But expecting the son to make decisions that protect your interests above his, that is unreasonable. You are in a spot of power to create clear boundaries and communicate that to your husband.

I’m sorry, I am surrounded by people who disrespect my boundaries and feel constantly challenged by this as well. It sucks.
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It sounds like the courts messed up by giving him any sort of unsupervised visitation at all if this baby. Someone dropped the ball there and sounds like mother will need to revisit that soon. You should do what you can to HELP her and document that he leaves the baby with you guys during his weekends. They need to insist on drug testing for him via hair strand.
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
no, you’re not being unreasonable, he’s a fuckup

but you better learn to get over it quickly, sounds like he’ll end up out of the picture one day (the mother, too, if she’s a fuckup like him) and you’ll be the only mature adult the kid will have around to look up to
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08/31/2022 07:35 AM
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
I've seen this so many times, when people get sick they get this attitude that "If I'm Sick Then So Can Everybody Else".

Its poor form.
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08/31/2022 07:38 AM

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Nobody gets sick from a baby....
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Nobody gets sick from a baby....
 Quoting: Fastman1


Try going into a daycare facility where the parents dump their kids 5 days a week. They are massive germ incubators.
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Yes this. It’s almost like people want to get other people sick, extremely inconsiderate at the least. Me me me and that’s how these things spread because people are inconsiderate. I caught omicron from just such a person, consideration is likely not even an ability that person possesses.
 Quoting: Sharon Cherries


But you’re completely vaxxed with boosters for added “protection”!

Are you suggesting they don’t work?

damned

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08/31/2022 08:03 AM
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
Take your vitamins and you won't be sick. A solid dose of C + D3 + Zink really does wonders to boost your immune system, letting you shrug off anything a snotty baby nose can throw at you. Then you can safely enjoy the company of your children and grandchildren, step- or otherwise.

Or, you can isolate yourself from life itself out of fear, and die alone and miserable.

Your choice.
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I'm not sure

He should get to visit np
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
Take your vitamins and you won't be sick. A solid dose of C + D3 + Zink really does wonders to boost your immune system, letting you shrug off anything a snotty baby nose can throw at you. Then you can safely enjoy the company of your children and grandchildren, step- or otherwise.

Or, you can isolate yourself from life itself out of fear, and die alone and miserable.

Your choice.
 Quoting: Lazy Monk


:)
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
No. You are not being unreasonable.

He should have called and asked first and advise you that the baby is sick and asked if you still wanted to see the baby sick.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83827444


Yes this. It’s almost like people want to get other people sick, extremely inconsiderate at the least. Me me me and that’s how these things spread because people are inconsiderate. I caught omicron from just such a person, consideration is likely not even an ability that person possesses.
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Nice bit of lockdown reinforcement there you dumb clueless tree fiddy cunt
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Re: need advice - Am I being unreasonable
I'm staying out of the family business...

From what we have discovered, it seems the best immune system is the one who is in regular training like a gym junkie.

Unless your in the immune compromised compartment, it's probably in your interest to mingle and get your immune in touch with the environment you live.

The science says that all of your vaccines, assuming your in America, are not for you the average Joe or jane. It's to protect the <1/2 million that have no immunity.

Think about that. 300 million people, who would be healthier and stronger if they caught natural infections are put on vaccine schedules that weaken their immune system just to protect the less than half a million that probably never would have survived in the natural world.

In the not so distant future, we will as science advances will understand microbes, requirements and deficiency, etc much better and realise we have made huge mistakes in our medical infancy.

Enjoy living in a bubble and your shot or get real.
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I KNOW YOU DON'T NEED TO HEAR THIS FROM A STRANGER, BUT SINCE YOU ASKED...

YOU ARE FROM A BROKEN AND DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY THAT APPEARS TO BE CLINGING TO THE EDGE OF FINANCIAL SOLVENCY. I GOT THAT FROM FOUR SWENTENCES.

HAD YOU STAYED MARRIED/YOUR HUSBAND STAYED MARRIED (STEP-SON = BROKEN HOME) THEN HE WOULD HAVE HAD A MUCH GREATER CHANCE OF NOT BREAKING UP ANOTHER FAMILY. BROKEN FAMILIES ARE CONTAGIOUS TOO.

IF YOU HAVE EVEN A SHRED OF HUMANITY AND DECENCY YOU'LL SHUT YOUR PIE HOLE AND SUCK IT UP FOR HAVING HELPED CREATE THE SITUATION IN THE FIRST PLACE. RIGHT NOW, AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME THE ONLY PERSON IN YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY THAT HAS ANY REAL VALUE IS THAT CHILD AND ALL OF YOU SHOULD PUT YOUR FUCKED UP LIVES IN HARNASS TO MAKE SURE IT AT LEAST HAS SOME KIND OF CHANCE AT A SUCCESSFUL FUTURE.

CONSIDER YOURSELF BLESSED THAT GOD HAS CHOSEN YOU TO WATCH OVER IT AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

HTH
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I am angry at my step son for bringing over his sick baby and now I and the grandfather are sick. I have had to cancel 2 much needed doctor appointments and miss work. For me no work = no pay.

He brought the baby over during his court appointed visitation he gets every other weekend. The father and mother had a baby and broke up all in the same year. Sigh.

Am I being a jerk?
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 84104782


Stop being a lil bitch.





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