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Anonymous Coward User ID: 83827444 United States 08/31/2022 05:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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Queen Runner
User ID: 44575435 United States 08/31/2022 05:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Have you ever, in your entire adult life, not quarantined yourself when you had a cold, but instead gave that cold to another person? It sounds to me like you might not care for your husband’s son or the son’s child. When you took on the man, you took took on his offspring. I vote that if you feel angry, work on that within yourself while keeping your mouth shut. |
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Sonflower17
User ID: 44503387 United States 08/31/2022 06:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Wow! You got some crazy weird responses from some whackadoodle people. Need more info. Did your stepson know the baby was sick? How sick was the baby? Was the baby running fever and throwing up? Was the baby running fever and had symptoms of sinus congestion? Or did the baby just have a runny nose? Because baby’s get lots of runny noses and some parents don’t even notice them or equate them with an actual illness. I think you should get over being upset. It happened. Being upset isn’t going to change what “is” right now. Except for possibly delaying your healing. I would just mention to the step-son that if baby is noticeably sick in the future that you would like to be asked before hand if a visit is okay. You will get over your illness. You’ll reschedule some other appointments and you’ll go back to work. Take this time off and use it to your benefit. Read a book you’ve not had time for. Binge watch a favorite show. Drink some warm tea and remember that you are more blessed than many in this crazy world. And love on that grandbaby because no one is promised tomorrow. Sonflower17 |
Sharon Cherries
User ID: 81783742 United States 08/31/2022 06:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No. You are not being unreasonable. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83827444 He should have called and asked first and advise you that the baby is sick and asked if you still wanted to see the baby sick. Yes this. It’s almost like people want to get other people sick, extremely inconsiderate at the least. Me me me and that’s how these things spread because people are inconsiderate. I caught omicron from just such a person, consideration is likely not even an ability that person possesses. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77140057 Belgium 08/31/2022 06:19 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Have you ever, in your entire adult life, not quarantined yourself when you had a cold, but instead gave that cold to another person? Quoting: Queen Runner It sounds to me like you might not care for your husband’s son or the son’s child. When you took on the man, you took took on his offspring. I vote that if you feel angry, work on that within yourself while keeping your mouth shut. Point taken thank you. I am not aware of it but sure it probably happened. Yes you are right I do not care for his son. When I married his father I was not aware that the son would turn out to be what he is. After his 5th or so arrest, maybe more I lost count (he is 29 years old) I stopped trying with the son. The baby is innocent in all of this. But yes I am angry for him having a baby and not getting his life together so that the mother kicked him out and now this is the mess that is left. He just got out of jail a few months ago as well. So yes I can't stand him and he will never reform himself. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77140057 Belgium 08/31/2022 06:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Wow! You got some crazy weird responses from some whackadoodle people. Quoting: Sonflower17 Need more info. Did your stepson know the baby was sick? How sick was the baby? Was the baby running fever and throwing up? Was the baby running fever and had symptoms of sinus congestion? Or did the baby just have a runny nose? Because baby’s get lots of runny noses and some parents don’t even notice them or equate them with an actual illness. I think you should get over being upset. It happened. Being upset isn’t going to change what “is” right now. Except for possibly delaying your healing. I would just mention to the step-son that if baby is noticeably sick in the future that you would like to be asked before hand if a visit is okay. You will get over your illness. You’ll reschedule some other appointments and you’ll go back to work. Take this time off and use it to your benefit. Read a book you’ve not had time for. Binge watch a favorite show. Drink some warm tea and remember that you are more blessed than many in this crazy world. And love on that grandbaby because no one is promised tomorrow. thanks. Yes I was thinking that too to try to give him the benefit of the doubt but baby had runny nose and cough. He may have not realized it. This baby needs all the help he can get with inept parents so you are right. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77140057 Belgium 08/31/2022 06:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Wow! You got some crazy weird responses from some whackadoodle people. Quoting: Sonflower17 Need more info. Did your stepson know the baby was sick? How sick was the baby? Was the baby running fever and throwing up? Was the baby running fever and had symptoms of sinus congestion? Or did the baby just have a runny nose? Because baby’s get lots of runny noses and some parents don’t even notice them or equate them with an actual illness. I think you should get over being upset. It happened. Being upset isn’t going to change what “is” right now. Except for possibly delaying your healing. I would just mention to the step-son that if baby is noticeably sick in the future that you would like to be asked before hand if a visit is okay. You will get over your illness. You’ll reschedule some other appointments and you’ll go back to work. Take this time off and use it to your benefit. Read a book you’ve not had time for. Binge watch a favorite show. Drink some warm tea and remember that you are more blessed than many in this crazy world. And love on that grandbaby because no one is promised tomorrow. thanks. Yes I was thinking that too to try to give him the benefit of the doubt but baby had runny nose and cough. He may have not realized it. This baby needs all the help he can get with inept parents so you are right. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77140057 Belgium 08/31/2022 06:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No. You are not being unreasonable. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83827444 He should have called and asked first and advise you that the baby is sick and asked if you still wanted to see the baby sick. Yes this. It’s almost like people want to get other people sick, extremely inconsiderate at the least. Me me me and that’s how these things spread because people are inconsiderate. I caught omicron from just such a person, consideration is likely not even an ability that person possesses. Thank you. He is a sociopath to boot. I am not just using that term loosely like oh that person is a psycopath. He truly is a sociopath. He hits about 95% of the traits, hence the multiple arrests. I have never know someone to lie, use and manipulate as much as he does. |
The_Meridian
Breshears is Off: Ask Me Why User ID: 82129370 United States 08/31/2022 06:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | On the one hand - People should protect the elderly from communicable disease. On the other hand - You're going to get sick one way or another. It's seasonal and probably unavoidable. On the one hand - The father here is *probably* an irresponsible douche with a bastard in tow On the other hand - Maybe the father wanted it to work out with the mother but he just didn't have the life experience to recognize a damaged promiscuous Witch woman. This isn't a question for emotions This is simply a matter of choosing your perspective/point-of-view Do you want to compound the negativity or diffuse it? That's not a judgment from me, there may be positive outcomes and reasons to compound the negativity here and negative consequences to diffusion. (B)ullshit™ always needs an amplified bullhorn demanding kneeling subservience - or else.- SyncAsFunk The light within me always draws me back to make the dark decision to leave the false counterfeit light. -New Heart |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77140057 Belgium 08/31/2022 06:28 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | On the one hand - People should protect the elderly from communicable disease. Quoting: The_Meridian On the other hand - You're going to get sick one way or another. It's seasonal and probably unavoidable. On the one hand - The father here is *probably* an irresponsible douche with a bastard in tow On the other hand - Maybe the father wanted it to work out with the mother but he just didn't have the life experience to recognize a damaged promiscuous Witch woman. This isn't a question for emotions This is simply a matter of choosing your perspective/point-of-view Do you want to compound the negativity or diffuse it? That's not a judgment from me, there may be positive outcomes and reasons to compound the negativity here and negative consequences to diffusion. Cool! Thanks for helping. Diffusing it now and hoping no negative comes from it. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 84094965 New Zealand 08/31/2022 06:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am angry at my step son for bringing over his sick baby and now I and the grandfather are sick. I have had to cancel 2 much needed doctor appointments and miss work. For me no work = no pay. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 84104782 He brought the baby over during his court appointed visitation he gets every other weekend. The father and mother had a baby and broke up all in the same year. Sigh. Am I being a jerk? Yip total c#@T |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77140057 Belgium 08/31/2022 06:36 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am angry at my step son for bringing over his sick baby and now I and the grandfather are sick. I have had to cancel 2 much needed doctor appointments and miss work. For me no work = no pay. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 84104782 He brought the baby over during his court appointed visitation he gets every other weekend. The father and mother had a baby and broke up all in the same year. Sigh. Am I being a jerk? Yip total c#@T :) |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78618912 United States 08/31/2022 07:19 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It’s not unreasonable, but an opportunity to set clearer boundaries with the son and better communication with your husband. The son sounds careless and lacks respect for others. It would now be considered unreasonable for you, moving forward, to expect this man will make considerate choices in the future. It’s a good time to Make it clear to your husband that you expect visits to be when they are healthy. Visits when sick are not welcome. Lost work, lost appointments and your resentment are evidence enough to set this clear boundary. Setting boundaries is not unreasonable after you experienced hardship due to another’s carelessness. But expecting the son to make decisions that protect your interests above his, that is unreasonable. You are in a spot of power to create clear boundaries and communicate that to your husband. I’m sorry, I am surrounded by people who disrespect my boundaries and feel constantly challenged by this as well. It sucks. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 81054972 United States 08/31/2022 07:28 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It sounds like the courts messed up by giving him any sort of unsupervised visitation at all if this baby. Someone dropped the ball there and sounds like mother will need to revisit that soon. You should do what you can to HELP her and document that he leaves the baby with you guys during his weekends. They need to insist on drug testing for him via hair strand. |
Catseye
User ID: 83923258 Dominican Republic 08/31/2022 07:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | no, you’re not being unreasonable, he’s a fuckup but you better learn to get over it quickly, sounds like he’ll end up out of the picture one day (the mother, too, if she’s a fuckup like him) and you’ll be the only mature adult the kid will have around to look up to Forgive your enemies, it messes with their heads. Thoughts create, mind them well. |
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Fastman1
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Zovalex
User ID: 80274554 United States 08/31/2022 07:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | . Yes this. It’s almost like people want to get other people sick, extremely inconsiderate at the least. Me me me and that’s how these things spread because people are inconsiderate. I caught omicron from just such a person, consideration is likely not even an ability that person possesses. Quoting: Sharon Cherries But you’re completely vaxxed with boosters for added “protection”! Are you suggesting they don’t work? . “Mental slavery is the worst form of slavery. It gives you the illusion of freedom, makes you trust, love, and defend your oppressor, while making an enemy of those who are trying to free you or open your eyes.” -Fiyah “None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free.” -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe “You have been programmed to resist the very person that is here to set you free, from the prison of your Mind... You are not free... everything you are has been manufactured by Minds that have not your best interest. You are imprisoned by beliefs and not reality. Religions are mental programs to imprison your Mind.” -SOL |
Lazy Monk
User ID: 77058850 Sweden 08/31/2022 08:03 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Take your vitamins and you won't be sick. A solid dose of C + D3 + Zink really does wonders to boost your immune system, letting you shrug off anything a snotty baby nose can throw at you. Then you can safely enjoy the company of your children and grandchildren, step- or otherwise. Or, you can isolate yourself from life itself out of fear, and die alone and miserable. Your choice. Lazy Monk |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 80343488 United States 08/31/2022 08:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Take your vitamins and you won't be sick. A solid dose of C + D3 + Zink really does wonders to boost your immune system, letting you shrug off anything a snotty baby nose can throw at you. Then you can safely enjoy the company of your children and grandchildren, step- or otherwise. Quoting: Lazy Monk Or, you can isolate yourself from life itself out of fear, and die alone and miserable. Your choice. :) |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 2170197 United Kingdom 08/31/2022 08:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No. You are not being unreasonable. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83827444 He should have called and asked first and advise you that the baby is sick and asked if you still wanted to see the baby sick. Yes this. It’s almost like people want to get other people sick, extremely inconsiderate at the least. Me me me and that’s how these things spread because people are inconsiderate. I caught omicron from just such a person, consideration is likely not even an ability that person possesses. Nice bit of lockdown reinforcement there you dumb clueless tree fiddy cunt |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 84105282 Australia 08/31/2022 08:27 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm staying out of the family business... From what we have discovered, it seems the best immune system is the one who is in regular training like a gym junkie. Unless your in the immune compromised compartment, it's probably in your interest to mingle and get your immune in touch with the environment you live. The science says that all of your vaccines, assuming your in America, are not for you the average Joe or jane. It's to protect the <1/2 million that have no immunity. Think about that. 300 million people, who would be healthier and stronger if they caught natural infections are put on vaccine schedules that weaken their immune system just to protect the less than half a million that probably never would have survived in the natural world. In the not so distant future, we will as science advances will understand microbes, requirements and deficiency, etc much better and realise we have made huge mistakes in our medical infancy. Enjoy living in a bubble and your shot or get real. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 81953666 United States 08/31/2022 08:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I KNOW YOU DON'T NEED TO HEAR THIS FROM A STRANGER, BUT SINCE YOU ASKED... YOU ARE FROM A BROKEN AND DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY THAT APPEARS TO BE CLINGING TO THE EDGE OF FINANCIAL SOLVENCY. I GOT THAT FROM FOUR SWENTENCES. HAD YOU STAYED MARRIED/YOUR HUSBAND STAYED MARRIED (STEP-SON = BROKEN HOME) THEN HE WOULD HAVE HAD A MUCH GREATER CHANCE OF NOT BREAKING UP ANOTHER FAMILY. BROKEN FAMILIES ARE CONTAGIOUS TOO. IF YOU HAVE EVEN A SHRED OF HUMANITY AND DECENCY YOU'LL SHUT YOUR PIE HOLE AND SUCK IT UP FOR HAVING HELPED CREATE THE SITUATION IN THE FIRST PLACE. RIGHT NOW, AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME THE ONLY PERSON IN YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY THAT HAS ANY REAL VALUE IS THAT CHILD AND ALL OF YOU SHOULD PUT YOUR FUCKED UP LIVES IN HARNASS TO MAKE SURE IT AT LEAST HAS SOME KIND OF CHANCE AT A SUCCESSFUL FUTURE. CONSIDER YOURSELF BLESSED THAT GOD HAS CHOSEN YOU TO WATCH OVER IT AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME. HTH |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 22590953 United States 08/31/2022 08:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am angry at my step son for bringing over his sick baby and now I and the grandfather are sick. I have had to cancel 2 much needed doctor appointments and miss work. For me no work = no pay. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 84104782 He brought the baby over during his court appointed visitation he gets every other weekend. The father and mother had a baby and broke up all in the same year. Sigh. Am I being a jerk? Stop being a lil bitch. |