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Anonymous Coward User ID: 84267833 Canada 09/26/2022 07:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Parents, children, extended family, friends, and anyone we consider blood.... how do you cope with losing them? I was never taught and feel my maturity level to deal with loss is not where it should be. Quoting: uhhuh It might not get easier, but how do you cope? Satanic thread...you're a sick fuck. Burn in Hell. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 84267833 Canada 09/26/2022 07:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Parents, children, extended family, friends, and anyone we consider blood.... how do you cope with losing them? I was never taught and feel my maturity level to deal with loss is not where it should be. Quoting: uhhuh It might not get easier, but how do you cope? 100% guaranteed you're some sort of Seinfeld operative. |
Rorschach Watchmen
User ID: 79318196 United States 09/26/2022 07:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When I lost my brother I was 17 and angry at the world, fought a lot and became a hellion for a short time. Fast forward 13 years and my brother in law passed in his sleep at 39, my wife was distraught. She still has bad days, especially the anniversaries like bday and death day. My coping mechanism then was to just be a good husband and support her through something I knew all too well. There is no definitive answer on how to cope, but most often you find your way. “When you’re dead you’re dead, but you’re not quite so dead if you contribute something” -John Dunsworth |
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User ID: 81086276 United States 09/26/2022 08:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Parents, children, extended family, friends, and anyone we consider blood.... how do you cope with losing them? I was never taught and feel my maturity level to deal with loss is not where it should be. Quoting: uhhuh It might not get easier, but how do you cope? I don't. Lost my mom 8 years ago and still can't deal with it. I wish I had a better answer! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 82475166 09/26/2022 08:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Parents, children, extended family, friends, and anyone we consider blood.... how do you cope with losing them? I was never taught and feel my maturity level to deal with loss is not where it should be. Quoting: uhhuh It might not get easier, but how do you cope? Time, that’s the only things that heals. Sorry bud. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 22255432 United States 09/26/2022 08:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I’m a funeral director so I see it everyday, but in my own opinion the best coping tip I could give anybody is to cry your heart out. Cry, cry cry. Embrace the raw emotions the come with grief. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 48934714 Yup. I have to agree with this. Just lost my mom and just got through a good cry checking on her house. Cry it out. Hug it out. |
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Fck mean people. User ID: 83684052 United States 09/26/2022 08:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's coming up on a year now, lost my wife of 43 years. I feel just as sad as day one. Quoting: DMJ You just moving forward. My heart still breaks for you DMJ. The worse thing about loving someone is losing them. While other people have known your loved one, every single relationship is unique. That is yours and yours alone. Cherish that, relish in it. What a gift! I’ve always told a ya, the media’s not your friend.” ~ Chris Cuomo … The same media that told you all these lies for the last at least 50 years, is telling you that Joey Bribes won. For by pharmakeia, were all nations deceived. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 18376622 United States 09/26/2022 08:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Death is just transition. Just like being born. We drop into this life and then we dip out. We will all dip out of this life. And guess what? Your family is there waiting for you when your life contract is up. You will die and you will be welcomed home with open arms. It hurts to be separated from our loved ones...but it's only temporary. If you can remember it's only temporary, it is a bit easier. You will see. We all will. |
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Believe-Death-Burial-Resurrection User ID: 42594500 United States 09/26/2022 08:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For me I had to look at death as the beginning rather than an ending Meaning if I believe my loved is in heaven then I should celebrating their life here and rejoicing they are with the Father. I buried my grandparents, dad & mom all within 4 years(pre Covid) I hope you find what works for you -|-Grace through Faith-|- |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 15739032 United States 09/26/2022 08:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Parents, children, extended family, friends, and anyone we consider blood.... how do you cope with losing them? I was never taught and feel my maturity level to deal with loss is not where it should be. Quoting: uhhuh It might not get easier, but how do you cope? I died twice already in this timeline...perhaps 3 times when I think about it. I flat-lined in intensive care after a complicated and highly invasive surgery and they were able to resuscitate me. That was the first time. The other two times, I was killed off in divorce. Those were painful and took some time to heal from also. They say for some, divorce is like experiencing the death of a loved one, and it is. As for actually losing someone really close in death itself, it hasn't happened to me yet (unless I count my nephew who I wasn't really close with, or my dog). Given a bit more time though and I know death is coming for loved ones or myself soon. Both of my parents are well into age and don't have long left upon this earth, but my health issues could see me go even before them. Perhaps humanity will implode before any of that happens and it won't matter; with regard to religion and the return of Jesus. I guess that is something I dwell on often. That and the fact that people die every day, but others carry on without them and learn to live with it. Knowing this and my prior experiences with loss, I believe helps me prepare for a mindset to have a better capacity to deal with it when it does occur. We all die one day. No one is immune to death. |
Servant-of-the-LORD
User ID: 84270629 United States 09/26/2022 09:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Parents, children, extended family, friends, and anyone we consider blood.... how do you cope with losing them? I was never taught and feel my maturity level to deal with loss is not where it should be. Quoting: uhhuh It might not get easier, but how do you cope? 1. Understand that death is inevitable. It comes for all of us. Accept it. 2. Remember the good times with the person. 3. Be thankful that God was kind to you and put that loved one in your life - no matter how short the period may have been. ..... Loss Of A Loved One Losing a loved one can be stressful and painful. If they were taken as a result of an illness, at least you realize that they are now in a truly better place, with no pain nor sadness. But if the person was taken unexpectedly, many folks struggle with the loss, even to the point of being angry with God. No human can truly know God's reasons,but here's some thoughts. If the person was rebelling against the Lord, maybe they were taken & given one last chance to Believe & ask forgiveness. Maybe the person was back-sliding in life, and the Lord took the person home before things got worse. Perhaps the Lord had / has tasks for the person to do that required the person to be in spirit form. Or maybe the Lord was pleased with the person so much that He brought that person home. I'm sure there are many other possible reasons. Pray to the Good Lord that the person was actually Saved. Give thanks to God for the good times you spent with the person. Those memories will last in your heart. I am a humble Servant of the one True Living God. |
Proud Trump Supporter
User ID: 84263424 United States 09/26/2022 09:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | There are many ways to grieve. Having a box of kleenex in every room and vehicles is a good idea. Music helps. Being creative helps.. especially if others are around. Sometimes being with family and friends help. Talking about the loved one with someone else helps, time helps, being physically active helps, sometimes getting a new pet helps, spending time in a new environment can help, trying new things can help. There are different types of losses. I have friends who were more devastated when their dog died that their parent. A good friend is a difficult type of loss. Ironically, I lost a dear friend last December. She loved God and was looking forward to returning home. A few months prior to her death she was calling all her friends and apologizing for anything she may have said or done that was wounding. She wanted to make amends before crossing over. I miss her. Then last week, while in a dream, I saw her, was with her and felt pure unmitigated happiness passing between us. The feeling was utterly awesome. One can exist in a state of pure joy. So instead of missing her I just tap into that memory of emotional connection and feel her presence. People who are close, especially with a spouse, there is a synergistic energy that passes back and forth between them. When that connection is broken.. it can be emotionally devastating. Especially if the spouse was a best friend. One can deeply miss the mental, physical, emotional connection. Spiritual connection continues. My dads passing was unexpected as we were to bring him home from the hospital the next day. My mother was devastated. When I sat in my dads chair where he did his morning and evening prayers I felt his presence. So while sad, I didn't miss him because I could feel him there. I stayed with my mother for a month to help her through the initial grief transition stages. She had her church and friends that offered her emotional support. It took her a good year to find her own rhythm to where she enjoyed spending alone time with her various projects and a cat. Everyone is different. How one experiences loss varies. Praying helps. Talking to the person who has passed helps. Expressing inner feelings helps. Having someone to talk to helps. Hospice has grief counselors and some groups where people come together to share their experiences. They are trained on how to deal with grief so using them as a resource is a nice option. The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is. Winston Churchill Daily Updates Thread: ASS IS IN THE WRINGER - Rolling Updates from 11/16/20 to present (Page 235) |
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User ID: 83781286 United States 09/26/2022 09:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ya it's tough period , over lost a few on the way. My died of sepsis last feb from a surgery, wasnt prepared for that. I still cry about her every couple of days Slow is Smooth, Smooth is Fast. "Why am I sticky and naked? Did I miss something fun?" Phillip J. Fry |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78121322 United States 09/26/2022 09:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Parents, children, extended family, friends, and anyone we consider blood.... how do you cope with losing them? I was never taught and feel my maturity level to deal with loss is not where it should be. Quoting: uhhuh It might not get easier, but how do you cope? I have lost 5 people in the past 7 years. I grew up with death as my father died when I was very young. As a teen, my niece died and it crushed me. I'm at a point now in life where I know that nobody is exempt, and we all have a "death sentence." We are all going to die. Be it tomorrow, or in 10 or 20 years. What shocked me the most is how a person seems to be ripped out of this world, (that's how it feels) yet the world continues to go on. When you look at the moon at night. Know that they looked at the exact same moon. Everyone who has lived in this world throughout history has seen the same moon that we see. Wars have been fought under that same moon and the clock of time just keeps ticking. When you and I are gone, life goes on as it always has. We're just here for a short time. All of us. |