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User ID: 83283894 Netherlands 09/26/2022 10:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Parents, children, extended family, friends, and anyone we consider blood.... how do you cope with losing them? I was never taught and feel my maturity level to deal with loss is not where it should be. Quoting: uhhuh It might not get easier, but how do you cope? Tell me what you find out. I lost my wife of 47 years a month ago. It's been hard and very difficult some days. Everyone tells me it will get easier, I think they are full of shit. In the same boat, never gets easier. Last Edited by DMJ on 09/26/2022 10:38 PM |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 84149232 United States 09/26/2022 10:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I just lost my mom. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77610953 I have spells of crying but I am coping better than I thought I would. But I am having a lot of pain in my body right now. I think I am holding it in sadly enough. Can I ask, is it the pain of her death, or how she died that's causing it? Judging from your comment it doesn't sound like the actual death that you're internalizing. Just an outside observation, apologies if I've overstepped. |
The Analog Guy
User ID: 77099368 United States 09/26/2022 10:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Find a psychomanteum contact them I say burn all of your bridges while you still have control of the flame. We are like flies crawling across the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel: We cannot see what angels and gods lie underneath the threshold of our perceptions. We do not live in reality; we live in our paradigms, our habituated perceptions, our illusions; the illusions we share through culture we call reality, but the true historical reality of our condition is invisible to us.” |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77654514 United States 09/26/2022 10:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Parents, children, extended family, friends, and anyone we consider blood.... how do you cope with losing them? I was never taught and feel my maturity level to deal with loss is not where it should be. Quoting: uhhuh It might not get easier, but how do you cope? I find that killing someone I hate can ease the pain of losing someone I love. It's sorta karmic. That's really disturbing. Is your name "jeffery Dahmer" by any chance? |
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The Electrician
User ID: 78150890 United States 09/26/2022 10:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I lost my dad going on two years this February. It's tough because I'm reminded about it every day. Me and my brother took over the corporation. I won't lie it was hard as hell. But every day I'm reminded that my pops would want us guys to move forward and not dwell in the past and that's what we have done. Every morning I pass by the cemetery with the monument with our family name and I'm proud of what my dad tought us. Be strong even when times are hard and always be humble when time are good. You never get over "it" but you move forward and build success on top of what was there. The world just might end with me |
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RestoreTheAnger
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 84149232 United States 09/26/2022 10:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Parents, children, extended family, friends, and anyone we consider blood.... how do you cope with losing them? I was never taught and feel my maturity level to deal with loss is not where it should be. Quoting: uhhuh It might not get easier, but how do you cope? I find that killing someone I hate can ease the pain of losing someone I love. It's sorta karmic. That's really disturbing. Is your name "jeffery Dahmer" by any chance? The flower after was even more disturbing than the comment. Get the sense that the AC wasn't actually just being a sadistic prick. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 84270460 United States 09/26/2022 10:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just ask your angels for help moving on. Whenever you think about how much you miss them just ask them for help letting go of the pain so you can move on. I went through this and negative thoughts were bringing me down. I kept asking for help and after a few hours, I could feel a weight lifting off my body. My prayers were answered and I was able to let go of the anger and negativity and it has never returned. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 84168688 Canada 09/26/2022 10:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You PERSEVERE and take on greater responsibility. At least, that's how it used to be in the family system. Which is damn near destroyed now. Nowadays I suppose what people do is drown themselves in soy latte's with extra cream and rainbow fucking sprinkles while stroking their blue-haired wig and leather kit. Or so I assume |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 84203697 United States 09/26/2022 11:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You PERSEVERE and take on greater responsibility. At least, that's how it used to be in the family system. Which is damn near destroyed now. Nowadays I suppose what people do is drown themselves in soy latte's with extra cream and rainbow fucking sprinkles while stroking their blue-haired wig and leather kit. Or so I assume P.S.S. After the initial shock!!!!! Live because you can!!! Give them that<3 |
Son of a Gunny
User ID: 9522184 United States 09/26/2022 11:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Parents, children, extended family, friends, and anyone we consider blood.... how do you cope with losing them? I was never taught and feel my maturity level to deal with loss is not where it should be. Quoting: uhhuh It might not get easier, but how do you cope? Pinned! I’ve lost my Mother, Father and Brother. I also lost 4 other Family Members to the C19 / EUA Drug / REMDESVIR poison that they used to Murder all 4 of them. Yet I live by prayer, our treasures are stored in Heaven not here on Earth. Try to live the best life you can by being good to others. Try to remember Windows,Widowers, Children. By being of Service To Others, instead of wallowing in our sorrow, by helping others, you will find true happiness. Even if those you put before yourself are other members of your family. Pray every day and ask God for strength. It only takes 1-2min a day. You don’t have to be a Bible Thumper. Just ask God to guide you through your day when everything feels too overwhelming. God Bless You! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 84149232 United States 09/26/2022 11:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You PERSEVERE and take on greater responsibility. At least, that's how it used to be in the family system. Which is damn near destroyed now. Nowadays I suppose what people do is drown themselves in soy latte's with extra cream and rainbow fucking sprinkles while stroking their blue-haired wig and leather kit. Or so I assume You're VERY angry... That was some tough love, lol. From, :G-n-S: |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 84149232 United States 09/26/2022 11:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I’ll tell you what…nothing, absolutely nothing compares to losing your mother… Quoting: RestoreTheAnger Absolutely true. Toughest thing I have ever faced in this life. That is absolutely not the case for many a soul on this plane ride. Your pain is absolute, of that I have no doubt, but to say that is the ROL for everyone is complete ignorance to what others experience. To many losing your mother is the natural way of things, losing a child the opposite and most grievous. To many others every child tortured and murdered is so beyond that kind of pain that any other loss pales in comparison. I could go on, but I think you get my point. My Mother is dying as we speak, a slow and agonizing death that she's very aware of. Do I grieve for her, do I feel terrible pain, absolutely, but I've felt far worse and so have millions of others who've come before me and will after. I'm sorry for your pain, but the absolute does not fit. |
Let Freedom Ring 365
User ID: 84116678 United States 09/26/2022 11:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's never easy... damn right sucks. I still think about them, and it's hard to let go even after decades it's hard but we have no choice but to accept that people die and there is no replacing them. Quoting: YouAreDreaming It's why loving those around you matters because you never know when they won't be there to love anymore. Make those moments count. You are the creator of your own master plan... Make it a good one. Wake the fuk up and be ready... This is absolutely no time to be stupid! “If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” - Nikola Tesla |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 79640471 United States 09/26/2022 11:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I’ll tell you what…nothing, absolutely nothing compares to losing your mother… Quoting: RestoreTheAnger Absolutely true. Toughest thing I have ever faced in this life. That is absolutely not the case for many a soul on this plane ride. Your pain is absolute, of that I have no doubt, but to say that is the ROL for everyone is complete ignorance to what others experience. To many losing your mother is the natural way of things, losing a child the opposite and most grievous. To many others every child tortured and murdered is so beyond that kind of pain that any other loss pales in comparison. I could go on, but I think you get my point. My Mother is dying as we speak, a slow and agonizing death that she's very aware of. Do I grieve for her, do I feel terrible pain, absolutely, but I've felt far worse and so have millions of others who've come before me and will after. I'm sorry for your pain, but the absolute does not fit. Yep , I have lost my mother and a young son . You cannot begin to compare the two losses. Losing a child is an unspeakable sorrow . |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 80518909 United States 09/26/2022 11:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | There is no coping because you will always miss them. At first you miss them daily. Then as time goes on the pain of missing them is less and less, yet it never completely goes away. They live on through your heart and memories. As an honor to a dearly missed love one we named our child’s middle name after them. So the legacy is there, a memorial so to speak. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 84149232 United States 09/26/2022 11:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I’ll tell you what…nothing, absolutely nothing compares to losing your mother… Quoting: RestoreTheAnger Absolutely true. Toughest thing I have ever faced in this life. That is absolutely not the case for many a soul on this plane ride. Your pain is absolute, of that I have no doubt, but to say that is the ROL for everyone is complete ignorance to what others experience. To many losing your mother is the natural way of things, losing a child the opposite and most grievous. To many others every child tortured and murdered is so beyond that kind of pain that any other loss pales in comparison. I could go on, but I think you get my point. My Mother is dying as we speak, a slow and agonizing death that she's very aware of. Do I grieve for her, do I feel terrible pain, absolutely, but I've felt far worse and so have millions of others who've come before me and will after. I'm sorry for your pain, but the absolute does not fit. Yep , I have lost my mother and a young son . You cannot begin to compare the two losses. Losing a child is an unspeakable sorrow . No smiles in that hug though, only understanding. |
jackleson
User ID: 13533715 United States 09/26/2022 11:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When a lesson they taught me comes in handy or i am reminded of a gift they gave me, i thank them, aloud. “Thanks Dad, for xyz.” “Thanks Mom, for abc.” “Love you, miss you.” In this way, they stay near to my heart. Sounds corny, but it feels true. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 84168688 Canada 09/26/2022 11:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You PERSEVERE and take on greater responsibility. At least, that's how it used to be in the family system. Which is damn near destroyed now. Nowadays I suppose what people do is drown themselves in soy latte's with extra cream and rainbow fucking sprinkles while stroking their blue-haired wig and leather kit. Or so I assume You're VERY angry... That was some tough love, lol. From, :G-n-S: Actually, it's a mix of sarcasm and contempt for TPTB, with a healthy dose of over-the-top rhetoric. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 84149232 United States 09/26/2022 11:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You PERSEVERE and take on greater responsibility. At least, that's how it used to be in the family system. Which is damn near destroyed now. Nowadays I suppose what people do is drown themselves in soy latte's with extra cream and rainbow fucking sprinkles while stroking their blue-haired wig and leather kit. Or so I assume You're VERY angry... That was some tough love, lol. From, :G-n-S: Actually, it's a mix of sarcasm and contempt for TPTB, with a healthy dose of over-the-top rhetoric. I know, apparently you missed my sarcasm, lol. |
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User ID: 82462544 United States 09/26/2022 11:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I know its the ending of life and it will happen to everyone and everything And i dont believe some 2000 year old fairy tale that attempts to make me feel better about it It sucks but its inevitable Articles and "news" from liberal media shall now be known as catnip for libtards. Truth is schilling in the empire of retards. "Yep but for now we dub you toast guy." - AC520845 *PROCLAIMED PROPHET OF THE DOW* ® Let me know when the climate STOPS changing, then i'll be worried. |
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