Why don't you ask her if there is anything she would like you to do for her? Or better yet, get busy and let her know you will be doing the dishes and taking out the garbage or cooking her favorite meals - that you are turning over a new leaf. Ask her if she would like a nice glass of juice, lemonade or a cup of tea. "May I get you a snack?" Give me the grocery list and I will do the shopping from now on. Why don't you say, "We never talk. How about we go for a nice walk/drive and spend some time together." Touch her shoulder and give her a hug. Make a point of telling her, "See you later!" and a smile when you leave. Develop a relationship with her and ask her some questions about her life. Tell her how much you appreciate all the things she has done for you and give her a nice bouquet. Make her a cake.

Do a little bit at a time, otherwise she will think you are planning to kill her.


What are you doing living upstairs when your mother is 78?