Got Dumped After 10 Years ... What is best revenge?

I got a co worker that went through the same thing. His revenge was smashing 50 women in a year.

Any time ...you can message me but I can't message back.


You need a hug.. give me a holler.

Why do you need "revenge?" Sounds to me like you "won "this breakup: you weren't married so you won't be losing your house and half your ass in a divorce.

Grow up and move on.

Christ sake ...10 years of having your head done in?

Wonder how he can get it up.

I agree.

I too!

Fly to Asia get new more attractive gf. Post pics to social media.

The best revenge is to make a better version of yourself. Here is the formula:

* Work out 5 hours a week
* Only eat food that doesn't have packaging
* Eat as much raw food as you can
* Drink only water in glass containers
* Don't eat any seed oils
* Become that guy that doesn't look at p*rn or jerk it...ever
* Spend some time each day being thankful
* Carve out some time for God each day
* No drugs or alcohol.

If you do the above in three months you will be amazed at what happens. Your ex will become super butthurt because she'll realize:

1. What she's lost
2. That the reason you're now awesome is she's not in your life

This will destroy her.

Put loving your child first! Think of your child's duture.


That will REALLY show her in time!

Honor your responsibilities to your child.

Otherwise ghost her, except for necessary communications regarding the little one. Oh, and require all communication in writing. Keep those communications in hard copy.

When you pick up child, do it at the door. NEVER go inside. She could accuse you of any number of things to try to get money, or out of hate & spite.

Mate, everyone here seems to be advocating self-restrain and using the high road method.

Fuck that.

I was with a chick for 4 years in my late twenties, in 1999. After we finished in found out she had fucked my own brother more than once, and had two other affairs (that I know about) in the short time we were loving together. By the final one, which was going on for 6 months, I'd lost all my 'empathic consideration and forgiveness' and I left her in disgust. Swore she was beneath me and I took the ultimate high road. She then went on to escape town with her new beau and then went on to marry him, ten years ago.

2 years ago, she sent me a 'hi' on Facebook.

I said what? What do you want? How dare you try and hoover me, who the fuck do you think you are?

She then told me she'd been thinking of me and dreaming of me for twenty years. Still in love with me. Can we meet for coffee? As friends?

Curiosity compelled me to agree. She immediately started lovebombing me, trying by try get me to have an affair with her, stating she was bored in her marriage but she'll never leave him but he can't get it up, isn't her equal, is a lapdog and other terrible things to say about someone who's just devoted 23 years of his life to her.

I realised then that there is NO female on the planet worth an iota of trust or respect and all us dumb bastards are are either narcissistic input, a cock or a walking ATM machine.

So I decided to go the base route. Since then I've been banging her once or twice a month -in my home- behind her husbands back.

All of it has been recorded by 'Divorce Cam', every word of our communications has been compiled into a dossier. I'm only waiting now to be discarded (as all narcissistic cunts will do eventually) and then he gets sent EVERYTHING.

Let's test HER fucking marriage.

Be a hammer not a nail.

So.. as a guy that has been there before.


Take some time off.




Find some one in a natural setting..get to know them and if you like them give it a go...


If that doesn't work try and try again.


Tinder and POF will get you tail but in retrospect...it's not good.

Oh sheesh...I didn't even read a child in this scenario.



Dick in pants....no more children till you get a handle on this.

Good things on the way for those who wait

God is the only one to get revenge ...in the Bible

Your best revenge is to be happy , healthy kids

Maybe remarry after a CAREFULLY peeled onion...ie selected woman found

Take your time....


Have a lasting happy marriage with great kids one day

revenge enough

The best revenge is to take as many covid boosters as possible.

Thanks, Rewind.

You can understand, after how many times you've been mean to me, how I misinterpreted this?

Your rage is understandable. That GF was a POS, but in OP's matter, there is a child involved.

That alters the dynamics of telling nasty narcissist to f off, or turning the tables on them in a painful manner (you better be damn good if trying this).

I agree with you Lady. The child is a huge and really only consideration so his factors aren't the same as mine were/are.

Trauma breeds more trauma, but he does need to have a strategy in place, oestrogen is a dangerous thing.

Get a lawyer,be rid of it.Feel good.

then got into the bar scene and then "fell out of love with me" because I was at home taking care of children in a home that I paid for.

Before you shack up with a woman, kind of check her out on how she likes to party. No party girls, especially college party girls. Once the thrill is gone and she's going out with the girls every night and working late a few times a week, and getting home at 1am, you are screwed, and not in a good way.

The best revenge, of course, is living well.

Emotional ass

Embarrassing

Very feminine of you

Men with options don’t give a shit

How did you get the house?

Don’t do revenge, that is both immature and evil. You can be better than that.

Look forward….be content with all that you have and try your best to live your life to the fullest. In the long run it is the best thing for you to do for your own well being.

Last Edited by Buvvy on 05/23/2023 07:05 PM

If you had married her
Cherished her
And been grateful to her for
Bearing your child
She might not have left you.
You were an bad investment.

How do I get my revenge?


Live Well.

Keep communication to one sentence. Be stone cold, uncaring towards her. Get a good attorney & soon to establish custody rights… right now. Child support is horrible, if you’re poor, if you’re not, it won’t be much anyway, though I know you’ll more than take care of the child. This MEANS you pay only to the state what the state demands of you. Do not give her money to “spend on the child.” She will not. You buy clothes when needed. If your child needs groceries, utilize Kroger delivery and have it delivered. You keep the toys, games, etc. at your home; this will make your child crave being at your home more. If she deviates from court orders, tenaciously seek legal relief immediately.

Keep in mind a good private investigator costs far less than an attorney; have surveillance conducted on her habits over several months. You know her routine; people are creatures of habit. Have the PI conduct a data mine known as a Comprehensive Datamine on her and her immediate friends; all social media, criminal/civil records nationwide, etc.

You will not be able to dictate what she does with your child in her custody; keep in mind that this is a two way street.

Lavish your child’s life. Be kind. Do not denigrate her in front of your child. If your child ever says, “That’s what Mommy says,” “Mommy says we do it this way,” etc., you reply with, “and you do what Mommy says WHEN you’re with Mommy; when you’re with me, you do what I say. Do this nonchalantly, not dismissively. Focus only on your child and their future.

If you live in a small town, always drop-off/pick up at the S.O. or police department.! BUY A DASHCAM AND USE IT! Buy one for the door (inside), one for the exterior.

Preserve ALL texts communications with her, every single one.

Do not drink around your child, ever; embrace this or you will regret it, regardless of what your wife does. Plenty of time to drink alone.

CHOOSE YOUR OWN PEDIATRICIAN AND EMBRACE REGULAR CHECKUPS, PERIOD.

CHOOSE YOUR OWN PEDIATRIC DENTIST.

Become happier, take care of your kid and give then the father they deserve and go beyond that. The best way to get back at her is just to ignore her and have a better life without her.It will eat her up, but don't let her claw back into your life.

100 percent

You will not listen though....ask anyone with experience, they will tell you the same


Don't say a fu king word to her...
Keep.your damn mouth shut

Never sleep with her again.



Ever

You will not listen though

You will learn.the hard way like most of the rest of us already have