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SqueakyOne
User ID: 80538358 United States 06/04/2023 11:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you can't trust your spouse with all things, then don't bother to get married. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 76538212 You need someone will stand back to back with you against all the problems this world can dish out. If you become ill or injured you need a great spouse that can handle all of your accounts while you're laid up. My spouse and I have our names on every credit card and account and we know each other's pins even into our banking and retirement accounts. If you have any doubts in your choice of mate, then don't get hitched to them, also ... Most importantly! Don't be an ass during your marriage, like cheating, nights out, doing crap behind their backs or give them any reason to want to sabotage all your accounts. If you're going to be an ass, don't get married. this... Double this! It is only money......... Marry a gal for her loyalty, mothering abilities and personality. This day and age it looks pretty hard to find. What else matters? My boy toy of 20+ years always tells our boys to do the denny's (or other cheap diner) test. It is a pretty cheap test. If they can be nice to a waiter/ess who is high/snotty/angry/late/moody/wrong order/.... then they are probably a good hearted person. Last Edited by SqueakyOne on 06/04/2023 11:15 PM |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 84789260 United States 06/04/2023 11:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you can't trust your spouse with all things, then don't bother to get married. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 76538212 You need someone will stand back to back with you against all the problems this world can dish out. If you become ill or injured you need a great spouse that can handle all of your accounts while you're laid up. My spouse and I have our names on every credit card and account and we know each other's pins even into our banking and retirement accounts. If you have any doubts in your choice of mate, then don't get hitched to them, also ... Most importantly! Don't be an ass during your marriage, like cheating, nights out, doing crap behind their backs or give them any reason to want to sabotage all your accounts. If you're going to be an ass, don't get married. Great post. Thanks for sharing. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 85181792 United States 06/04/2023 11:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm set for retirement through a trust fund $1.8 mill+. I own a home, she doesn't. I own my 2 vehicles, we have no kids. I'm young, in my mid 30's so is she, but she doesn't have anything. Quoting: White Boy Rick I love her to death, and want her to be okay if something happens. Then make it so she can stay in your home w an allowance until she dies. Until children come, that will work. After children, make her an equal in inheritance, most peeps do. |
White Boy Rick
(OP) User ID: 85372940 United States 06/04/2023 11:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm set for retirement through a trust fund $1.8 mill+. I own a home, she doesn't. I own my 2 vehicles, we have no kids. I'm young, in my mid 30's so is she, but she doesn't have anything. Quoting: White Boy Rick I love her to death, and want her to be okay if something happens. Then make it so she can stay in your home w an allowance until she dies. Until children come, that will work. After children, make her an equal in inheritance, most peeps do. You're a lovely one.... White Boy Rick |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 82673951 United States 06/04/2023 11:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Married once before any assets, he smoked crack and lost his value x1000, so I paid all the bills and bailed.(yeah I'm a shit wife if you're a druggie) Quoting: pool Married again, prenupt, all passwords & finances remained separate. Why get married then if everything is separate? What purpose does your marriage serve? |
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CigarTigher
User ID: 84114775 United States 06/04/2023 11:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm a stay at home mom and my husband sends money to me once a week for groceries. I only spend the money on food. Baby is breastfed and he is taken care of. I do save my money to buy stuff for husband. We have separate accounts for now, but we plan on combining. When is the wedding? Congratulations to you! Last Edited by CigarTigher on 06/04/2023 11:19 PM |
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White Boy Rick
(OP) User ID: 85372940 United States 06/04/2023 11:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm a stay at home mom and my husband sends money to me once a week for groceries. I only spend the money on food. Baby is breastfed and he is taken care of. I do save my money to buy stuff for husband. Quoting: CigarTigher We have separate accounts for now, but we plan on combining. When is the wedding? Congratulations to you! Thanks, sweetheart. No date yet, and she's pm'sing right now. I understand how that can be. We're both 34, I'd like her to be the "one". Like I said earlier, I'm pretty set with funds, so no worries on that front. What's your hub do? Is he military? White Boy Rick |
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SqueakyOne
User ID: 80538358 United States 06/04/2023 11:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Marry for the joy. If there is no joy, it is pointless. Marriage is all about dividing by zero. The only way to divide by zero is to understand that 2 = 1. True! That would go under personality, imo. I would add love and gratitude to joy if we are adding to the list |
pool nli User ID: 85181792 United States 06/04/2023 11:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why get married then if everything is separate? What purpose does your marriage serve? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 82673951 I presume you're serious about teaching yourself the many different ways of loving someone. We loved each other, worked together, created a family, combined ideals, never overlapped in our duties and our children and their stability were paramount. Our marriage served as an unbreakable bond to each other and the "spiritual entity" of family. |
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Son of a Gunny
User ID: 9522184 United States 06/04/2023 11:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | getting married soon. Quoting: White Boy Rick Does she know all your PINs? What about your brokerage and retirement accounts - does she know all the online passwords (or where you keep them)? Jus asking for curiosity's sake. Been happily married for 18yrs and NEVER had a joint bank account and we’ve never had a fight about $ |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 82673951 United States 06/04/2023 11:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why get married then if everything is separate? What purpose does your marriage serve? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 82673951 I presume you're serious about teaching yourself the many different ways of loving someone. We loved each other, worked together, created a family, combined ideals, never overlapped in our duties and our children and their stability were paramount. Our marriage served as an unbreakable bond to each other and the "spiritual entity" of family. So obviously all of your money and accounts is combined, correct? |
White Boy Rick
(OP) User ID: 84964441 United States 06/04/2023 11:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | getting married soon. Quoting: White Boy Rick Does she know all your PINs? What about your brokerage and retirement accounts - does she know all the online passwords (or where you keep them)? Jus asking for curiosity's sake. Been happily married for 18yrs and NEVER had a joint bank account and we’ve never had a fight about $ perfect couple. White Boy Rick |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78274705 Canada 06/04/2023 11:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | getting married soon. Quoting: White Boy Rick Does she know all your PINs? What about your brokerage and retirement accounts - does she know all the online passwords (or where you keep them)? Jus asking for curiosity's sake. WE both make money. I make more. She uses my credit card ( authorized user ) for combined family expenses home, kids etc. She uses her income for kids extracurricular activities and her own personal needs. |
SewDucky
User ID: 85521754 United States 06/05/2023 12:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We both share everything. I'm so bad about bringing my phone, I use his and have all my a counts to email and my business on it...but he has all his on mine. We are so comingled there is no way to separate anything but I have always done the finances so we have what we have because I makes sure we have enough money to take opportunities. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 85906002 United States 06/05/2023 12:57 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | getting married soon. Quoting: White Boy Rick Does she know all your PINs? What about your brokerage and retirement accounts - does she know all the online passwords (or where you keep them)? Jus asking for curiosity's sake. Pins for each other's phone? Lots of men and women are confused about privacy and secrecy. Privacy is what you get when you go to the toilet. Secrecy, in a marriage is not allowed. neither partner can have a Secret life beyond the marriage and telephone texting and such is not allowed to be Secret. When one partner or the other demands secrecy in their phone use and with other people outside the marriage, it's time to talk to a lawyer. This is a major Red Flag. Don't feel bad or shy for examining her phone. Men can't have Best female friends, and women can't have Best Male friends. Full Stop. Because of the rampant cheating in today's relationships, I really wouldn't recommend anyone get married. Just live together if you love each other. If you get married, don't forget the prenups. Good luck, white Boy. But WHY get married? Why bring the State into your relationship with your woman? The Laws are stacked against you in favor of the woman. PS. Don't go to bed mad. Make up for whatever the problem was before turning off the light. .. Men always whine about being taken financially!! There are plenty of honest women married to a man that not only cheats, but steals everything, has the wife remove name from his vehicle & then STOPS spouse support after only a few months. Self employment, lies & no bank deposits made it possible! No man is worth anymore of my time. I made his business highly profitable & put my best 25 years into & he left me with nothing. Hell is real & the liars, cheaters, violent, promiscuous, ignorant & arrogant will perish!! . |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 85906002 United States 06/05/2023 12:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | getting married soon. Quoting: White Boy Rick Does she know all your PINs? What about your brokerage and retirement accounts - does she know all the online passwords (or where you keep them)? Jus asking for curiosity's sake. Been happily married for 18yrs and NEVER had a joint bank account and we’ve never had a fight about $ . No joint bank account is bizarre! . |
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A Jackson
User ID: 80925742 United States 06/05/2023 01:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I give my wife everything. Smoke me a kipper, I’ll be back for breakfast. If you do not take an interest in the affairs of your government, then you are doomed to live under the rule of fools. — Plato “AI is kind of a fancy thing, first of all it’s two letters. It means artificial intelligence.” Kamala Harris VPOTUS |
VegasRick
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White Boy Rick
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