Wife's Father suddenly living with us until his death . I'm Losing it !

^ Man Hater

Well said.

funny, all the black residents of the nursing homes I worked in must have used shoe polish.

Last Edited by beeches on 09/18/2023 07:45 AM

Imagine how you will feel at 86.

It only gets worse (injuries).

You don't watch TV so get rid of it. Or store it for now.

And put him in assisted living. He has an income. You can find a place that will charge him accordingly. Your wife has to understand that this would be a better living situation for her father. No cigarette smoke. Three meals a day. Activities. Arrangement to get him to health care providers. Shopping trips. Lots of benefits.

He wants to be taken care of, so send him some place where they are paid to do that.

Sounds like you are living in hell. I have dealt with inlaws that would never leave. Finally got them out of the house and I am never going back to that. I will leave first.

And maybe if they put their elderly parents in assisted living they might have a better quality of life instead of being trapped in their children's homes.

It's not the life I would want to live. I will never let myself be chained to a woman who feels the need to bring her extended family and then take care of them the rest of their lives. My father is dealing with this with his girlfriend but he keeps her on a tight leash and makes sure she can't dictate things like she would like to. She's taking care of her 90-year-old mother and 42-year-old son who just sits around all day and smokes.

Women don't understand natural selection which is why they vote for leftist socialist utopians forms of government that will crash and burn if actually attempted to be implemented. You don't take care of your child who's in his 40s and expect him to be autonomous and independent as a person and a valuable contributor to society. A person who does this doesn't understand natural selection.

Good for other cultures I guess. I guess I'm a narcissist. You do make a very good point though the way America does it is actually the exception and not the norm from an evolutionary perspective. Normally multiple generations of families live together. However I've lived this way long enough I'm not going to change and become chained to a situation I want nothing to do with.

Coming to GLP for serious advice from the drone here is going to be hard... I have zero tolerance for this kind of thing. Ultimative may have to be given Him or me. Find a place get it all ready. She will have to be back to a wall. He will destroy all that is good libs are poison even the old ones. YOUR kids and you should all sit her down and have a family meeting. Im sorry your in this struggle. Look for that lesson then you'll be released from this.

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No, some of us do understand this.

The OP states he is an adoptee. I am also. It hardens us. If your family can give you away you are less invested in whatever family you may have today.

I too had an abusive man raise me. When he went into a nursing home I was all done with him. I found I was dishing out the same abuse that I experienced as a child from him. I do not want to be that person so the sensible course was to go my own way.

I stopped because I felt like I was in a Jerry Springer show...

yep. Family support goes only so far.

Blacks keep their old at home to steal their meager SS checks.

NO OTHER REASON THAN THAT. JUST THE CHEK.

Have you ever known, even 1 blak, who exercised kindness or compassion? No you have not. And neither have I.
They keep them at home to steal the check.

yeah, like this, butmake sure, hes paying for the samll trailer, and , , the elec and water hookups., , septic, arrangments, rvs. , man poster only has a 2 bedroom singlewide, ,, no waay for , permanent, others., , and if , the wifes father said, he will hhelp pay, for anything and makes 3 thou. a month ss, then, needs to be a real sit down plan, between wife and you first., , grace of god youn will need it, , , family members are the hardest to reach, , , , maybe a good if can find one, used small, rv. but even with that, , the roofs, must be inspected, , 3 diff kinds, made of, sometimes, if your blessed you can recaot them with cheap 5 gallon, plastic rubber coats, thats for tpo roofs only, , and theres 3 different kinds roof on rvs, and some small single wides., plus whos gonna hook up electric box?, are you rural?, if so, the expense, of your elec coop. to install, one, what about water?, , what about septic?, see?, , oh and , do you you have cold winters, or mostly all summer temps yr round?, maybe can he go to a local nursing home?, , , hes already in the system, , , take care. insane, when , even loved ones, try to , without thinking, , put people who cannot afford, to take others in, just cannot, , not well off, and , already struggling themselves, , , i know, , diff. situation, ,, , wife need to , get clearer, vision and all possible ways., but, , this situation, is unnatainable., god bless

something like this, hes already in the system,

Put him on a bus to Miami like Ratso in Urban Cowboy. Tell him to go be a beach bum.

Many of us will be old some day, kindness will g a long way OP.

You are in good shape to plead poverty so the nursing home option is your best out.

If his SSI monthly pay is his only income and if it is a lot, then he should contribute all but 10% to pay the rent & other household bills. Any extra you save for your inheritance.

He will balk, of course.

Then, when you finally get tired of being home-cucked you call Onslow County (?) Social Services and anonymously report that you suspect elder abuse. They will gladly bring him before a judge, assign him a guardian ad litem to take his money, & find him a bed in the cheapest pasture or nursing home available anywhere in Nc. You may be temporarily prevented from speaking with him.

He will be upset about the sudden move but will soften after he discovers sex with a different girl friend every night. Probably the same one, only their short-term memory prevents them from realizing it. If your lucky it will be close enough for wifey to visit on Sundays but too far to travel everyday.

The first choice you endure for the next few days to years collecting hus money into a retirement fund for yourselves.

The second choice you are permanently rid of the problem.

Or you could find a nice retirement home that accepts his SSI.
Look em up, call, ask questions, visit, move asap.

Save up and send him on a vacation while you vacation yourself. Best bet try to get him to sign up on tour groups on tour buses.

Didn’t read it all but it sounds like if you ask chat GTP to make a stereotypical white trash story.

I did gather that you drink too much. You’re fat you smoke you don’t have a drivers license and you live in a trailer park in a hillbilly hell. What a life.

Best thing you can do at this point in your life is beg all your descendants not to reproduce.

I made it 1/3 through and you didn't make a single point or progress the story.

Cope harder.

never understood you retards who hang out on message boards dismissing everything longer than a fucking fortune cookie

Not reading your pity blog.
We all have it tough these days and we don’t want to hear from you.
You know what you need to do so just do it you big baby.

call your pastor. make an appointment asap.
Say it is urgent you need to save your marriage.

Make sure the pastor knows the options you are contemplating as well as the bible verse
and maybe he has some options of his own.
Make sure that you go to the pastor together with your wife who seems to be religious and will take kindly to the suggestions coming from him
Also, you might want to mention the too little sex thing

Sounds like your wife is getting pounded by the old man while you are at work.

Good luck I ain't reading that shit

Good luck. Sounds like the healthiest solution for all.

Be a fuckin man and tell your wife how it is. Mine wouldn't dream of trying some shit like this. Out of respect for me.