A new acquaintance tells me I "talk too loudly" Has anyone been told this? What to do?

He has told me this at least 3 times since I met him a month ago or so, so it must be important to him!

DID YOU TRY TALKING MORE QUIETLY???

I looked up online why people talk too loud.
And tried, for a moment or two, to talk less loud when around him.

No real effort otherwise.

(lol at "drama!")

Voices Carry~

No , but I was told I have rape face once lol

Ask your subconscious during your next meditation why you talk so loudly.
What is your daily intent?
What drives you?
Do you exchange info and does it flow freely or do you talk "at" people?
Do you eat clean and refrain from Western medicine or do you take prescription drugs and eat fake food and addicted to sugar? Leeky gut?
Do you spend a lot of time online? Surrounded by toxic people and toxic EMF waves?

Your electric system is off.
You probably do talk to loud.
Clean yourself. Do a systems check. Do a cleanse. It's a self awareness thing too ;)

eek! what constructive criticism!

Have your hearing checked. It's common for those with hearing loss to raise their voices.

It does happen to me; I get "dampened" a lot. Very uptight people have been raised to keep their voices down. Any exuberance freaks them out.


After you check your hearing, if nothing is wrong, then start hanging out with NON "shushers" who won't stamp on you.

Last Edited by whatthehellll? on 05/03/2016 02:56 AM

Hmmmmm

Yeah I read online that it can annoy other people, and trigger PTSD in people (because they were yelled at or talked loudly to as a child, etc etc)

Thanks.
I have a dynamic personality and listen to very hard rock music. I'm sure I have some level of hearing decay.

This is the first person who really communicated it to me.

Good idea on stepping up my game of health and awareness!

He wants too turn you into a low talker

It could be their hearing - or yours.

People who are losing their hearing can be sensitive to anything above their range.

Or maybe your hearing is going, and you didn't realize it.

get a really puffy shirt and ask him in a very low voice to wear it on teevee!!!

you are fine,

give the sensitive listener

some earplugs.

I'm a loud music guy - attend live loud rock concerts regularly. So I probably have some hearing loss, however I'm also a non-afraid dynamic person, so talk loudly out of habit.

Yep it must be something in this person's upbringing to be freaked by exuberance. (good way of putting it).

Also talking loud is a result, of ADHd / ADD or just being raised up in a loud talking family. Or bad hearing. Or a large voice box.

I have the large voice box, and habit of talking to loud. I've not realized that it may bug some....very interesting.

Maybe they are intimidated by my powerful presence.

Definitely. I wonder why?

He is younger than me by 10-15 years, so his hearing and eyesight should be sharper than mine.

And I'm a loud music guy, so.... hmm

Brilliant! Why didn't I think of this?

I get told that all the time.

I usually shrug and then reply that I'm the youngest of a large family, my dad was hard of hearing most of my life, my mom is partially deaf and my husband won't wear his hearing aids and it's just habit.

If I talk in my normal tone of voice, including the pitch and volume, most people can't hear me. I hit that perfect level that it's hard to hear, even for those with decent hearing.

At this point, I talk loud. I always have.

I's not about being scared of exuberance...it's about not having your eardrums split or having strangers three tables away overhearing your intimate conversation.

Some people much too loud for the context...it becomes very tiresome after awhile.

Yeah I read online to not take others' opinions on this very thing too seriously. It is after all, an opinion.

But I feel like playing with it, because his opinion probably matches others to a degree, and it is a fun social experiment.

I'd like to see if he complements me if I can manage to fake lower speaking around him for a while. It's a test to a degree.

Here's an idea:

Yeah I have had relatives since I was a little kid who talked loudly, mainly to be a source of entertainment and to have a fun personality. I'm sure that rubbed off onto me.

Very interesting.

It would be easy to tell him not to worry about it.
I'm sure I'm more powerful in my lack of ego and mental powers - it'd be like shooting puppies in a barrel.

So I listen, act like I care, and experiment.

THIS is the reason to take the whole thing seriously.

What if I'm annoying many people and don't even know it?

It is good to research, observe, and experiment when you hear feedback about yourself like this, in my opinion. To a reasonable degree that is.

Heheh Easy to do but then I'd have no friends.
It's an option if he bitches about many more things Lol

You said you appreciate honesty so I will be honest with you now.

Of course this is a personal observation/opinion but I have noticed that many others share it.

A fun, vibrant personality is one thing but "loud" is quite another and you don't need "loud" to be fun. In fact after the laughs are over, the "loud" is often considered obnoxious. There's a time for everything...including turning down the volume.

I agree with that...I prefer blunt feedback to people tiptoeing around the issue.

As you can tell from my post, I am agitated by loud talkers. I know plenty of them and love them...and for the most part I can handle it. But when you're tired, when you just want to relax or if you're discussing a sensitive subject the last thing you want is your friend "shouting" in your ear.

Context is everything. Maybe ask some others their opinions...others being people who can actually hear you in real life, not us internet peeps.

Hello beloved friend. It's nice to meet people who are honest; it is refreshing and feels right. As in all things, there is the danger when honesty not applied rightly causes harm. In this case, you are in no danger of harm, and you could take this as an opportunity to strengthen your spirit.

It's quite possible that your new acquaintance is listening to the spirit of True Person, or spirit of Real Talk. The slavery and discipline they impose would force them to point out the faults they perceive in others, who are not loyal to those spirits. Your friend might even serve the Holy Spirit of Father Most High, and be genuinely interested in your highest good. The wasted energy of accepting discipline from two masters might cause a lapse in their judgment.

As I said before, this would be a wonderful opportunity to strengthen your spirit, as spirit disciplines flesh. You feel a little guilty about the volume of your voice; does it feel right to you to keep it at that volume? If yes, you're being true to what you know is true. Do you feel it's right for an acquaintance to discipline you? If there is any kind of defensive reaction, be aware that you may be under the slavery of a contrary spirit, spirit of True Woman, spirit of True Mother, or spirit of True anything, who are all subject to the spirit of Pride. The guilt you are feeling maybe from accepting unnecessary discipline, and your energy should really be reserved for the Holy Spirit of Father Most High. If you would deny power the spirit of Pride within yourself, and reserve it for the Holy Spirit of Father Most High, stronger than Pride by virtue of humility, all these unnecessary and wrong guilty feelings would melt away. It's not easy, but who wants to be a slave rather than a beloved child who is gently guided. I rely on your common sense to feel any wrongness in what I say, and any untruth that that would imply.

Yeah it is a wake up call, as long as it's not exaggerated by the guy complaining.
I've not had other complaints about it, but people are wusses about revealing truths like that usually.
Thanks.