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Caught someone breaking into my house Wednesday night - Crazy shit
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up at 2 a.m. with nephew?
how old is the kid? lol
Quoting: MissCleo hahaha twenty-four. Not contributing to the delinquency of a minor  lol. Have you talked to the wife and kids about how they feel? Boundaries are so important. And the fact that you protected your boundaries is noble but they still will feel violated. Talk it out to avoid PTSD, nightmares, insecurity, gossip, rumors, panic... We have talked about it at great length. You guys are really the first people I have talked this openly with about it. I've put my shit to the side to make sure they can express their feelings without feeling like mine mean more because I'm the one who had to do it. Everyone keeps asking how I'm doing, and my answer is "My family is fine, so I'm fine I suppose." I'll work it out on my own (or with the help of you guys) but they need someone strong to tell them they aren't weak for feeling that way, so I'm just in listening mode. The thing about kids is that they bury the feelings because they are currently safe, and then get triggered when their boundaries are breeched again, maybe years down the road. So keeping the topic alive is tricky. I wouldn't want to make a big deal out of it but I check in with my kid regularly just to make sure there are no lingering doubts and she is feeling secure and empowered when she is alone. When the opportunity arises I always tell her to check her perimeters and that's like our codeword to be on alert.
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