Father: has anyone else got to a point where they want to tell there father to fuck off

That's a sweet memory. I'm sorry about your dad.

My dad doesn't have a terminal disease. He has Parkinson's (for 13 years) and major back issues that have gotten to the point where he falls all the time, and can barely walk or even stand. There are days when he can't move at all. If he falls or he is in bed and can't move, he could be like that for an entire day.

I went with him to a neurosurgeon a week ago, and his words to my dad were that his back "is a mess." My dad had back surgery 3 years ago and it did nothing. This doctor told him that with my dad's age, the Parkinson's and rigidity, the surgery would be be much longer up his spine, the recovery would be longer and there was NO guarantee that it would improve his life. I asked the doctor if physical therapy would help my dad, and he basically laughed.We left there feeling like there was no hope for my dad.

A few months ago, when he was in one of those paralyzed states, the way his right arm was positioned cut off the blood flow. He now has very little use of his dominant arm/hand and has to rely on his left arm which was the bad one. He can't really feed himself right now.

He is also supposed to be going for brain surgery which could help with his Parkinson's, but I'm pretty sure they won't do it if my dad is this malnourished.

I've been trying to explain to him that if he eats and drinks water, he may start to feel a little better. I think the difficulty walking and the falls and weakness have a lot to do with his legs just literally being bones. I've also told him that he has to be healthy and strong for the brain surgery which I really do believe can help my dad.

My plan is to call my mom every day, starting first thing in the morning, to make sure that he is eating. I can't give up.

Thank you for the advice and sharing your experiences.

Oh yea you got a boomer dad too? It’s not the best. I suppose I should be thankful I didn’t get beat. Next time he starts talking stupid shit just change the subject to how much of a badass he is and ask about something you know he’ll have a story for.

Stick a big black dildo in his ass. He’ll stop bothering you.

My dad and I bumped heads hard when I was a teenager (I'm 56). I never expected him to agree with me, I just wanted to be able to say my piece and have him hear me out.

He always shouted me down. He really was an overbearing, egotistical jerk.

We were never really close after that. I moved out at 18 and then moved 500+ miles away a couple of years later.

He and my mom came up a few times to visit, but he hadn't changed. He still acted like royalty and expected everyone to wait on him hand and foot.

Not happening in my house.

He passed away about 18 months ago at age 90. His last months were pretty rough. I went down to So Cal for his memorial service, but honestly, I felt nothing.

Im no young kid im 37 year old man, i love respect my father but, am very much tired of his shit.
Bringing up old shit just to prove a point ect...
im one to forget about bullshit and move on.



My kid smacked me in the face on vacation in Hawaii so in return i man handled him made him cry, and then later told him why i did that. But I didn’t apologize to my son ( no reason).

My father had the audacity to bring that up like I did something wrong (btw I brought him with us)im a weekend dad.

My got the shit kicked out of me on a regular basis by the old man, on the phone tonight when he brought all this up, i had to tell him to shut the fuck up and dont talk about my son.

I hear you. I moved 600 miles away. I gave it my all for many years, the times we visited each other, to no avail but more pain and angst. I had to cut him off completely for many years for self-preservation, but tried again after a family emergency. He was worse than before. I haven't spoken to him at all in at least 5 years now. He is still living (last I heard), but I assume that I too won't feel much when he passes.

My mom has really bad back issues, and also just got some bad news a few days ago. She did not want to eat. Well, I got a protein powder and blended it with ice cream and some ice. She loved it, and got the protein she badly needed. I hope maybe that can help.

I'm sorry about the bad news.

I did buy him a tub of protein power about a month or so ago, but unfortunately it didn't help. I called my parents a bunch of times today to hear what my dad had eaten, and I'm just gonna keep doing that.

Hes is shock? Stop beating him up with your emotional.shi* or he will die of misery?? Its NOT about YOU for God's sake?

If its even true and you want to explore comfort options you can send me an email address but you are making your wish for him most important. Think about that? Stop badgering and just say you are sorry, you just dont want him to go and you are a wreck because you feel like you are letting him down and failing to help him.

Hes got news that can set them back, make them sick? Take gentle care of him and give him a few days.

Sometimes they do die to escape their relatives because they are exhausted trying to please people. Quit...being mean to him emotionally because hes depressed and not doing what you want.

Remedies abound but you have become wrecked yourself and need to find you a little spot of some grace and rest it all a minute. I did not read all this? But if i have any ideas that will help i will help? But i cant answer pms and the chomos of deathrael hide my email from members so you will not have help. But most all gays are broken, shi**y and mean....now add tribe...but get some air, take a breath and get a good sleep in if nothing else.

Its very hard. Lets see if your efforts so far can pan out better? Best to you

Hes is shock? Stop beating him up with your emotional.shi* or he will die of misery?? Its NOT about YOU for God's sake?

If its even true and you want to explore comfort options you can send me an email address but you are making your wish for him most important. Think about that? Stop badgering and just say you are sorry, you just dont want him to go and you are a wreck because you feel like you are letting him down and failing to help him.

Hes got news that can set them back, make them sick? Take gentle care of him and give him a few days.

Sometimes they do die to escape their relatives because they are exhausted trying to please people. Quit...being mean to him emotionally because hes depressed and not doing what you want.

Remedies abound but you have become wrecked yourself and need to find you a little spot of some grace and rest it all a minute. I did not read all this? But if i have any ideas that will help i will help? But i cant answer pms and the chomos of deathrael hide my email from members so you will not have help. But most all gays are broken, shi**y and mean....now add tribe...but get some air, take a breath and get a good sleep in if nothing else.

Its very hard. Lets see if your efforts so far can pan out better? Best to you

My mom has really bad back issues, and also just got some bad news a few days ago. She did not want to eat. Well, I got a protein powder and blended it with ice cream and some ice. She loved it, and got the protein she badly needed. I hope maybe that can help.

im sorry to hear this girls. I don't know if it will help, but from my experience and stories from my friends, that generation/age group can be a little.......stubborn.

my mom didn't tell me she had cancer until four years into it. I gave her my apartment and tried to be helpful but at that point it was too late. She smoked right until the end, these habits and lifestyles are really hard to change..i wish she had told me sooner so we could have done the research and found out what to do. I am very grateful though, that she came back to Jesus and I really believe she went to a better place. Im not trying to proselytise but having God in my life really helped with the whole thing..

my prayers are with you.

Omg That's awful. I do not that a lot of older people get stubborn with age. I also know that a lot of them just blindly trust doctors, are afraid to ask questions, etc.

I'm sorry for your loss.



I just feel like my dad has given up on the fight. When I talk to him, he is extremely out of it most of the time. I think it's because he's so weak.

My mom called this morning to tell me that she called an ambulance again. She found him in their garage this morning (which is off limits to him because there's too much stuff he could fall on and get hurt). We don't know if he consciously went in there or if he was hallucinating (which his Parkinson's meds cause). His walker was by the door, so I'm thinking he was aware of what he was doing. It's all just a big mess.

Thank you for the prayers. I do believe in God and I pray, but the stress is pretty much unbearable.

that's completely heartbreaking. My mom didn't want to use conventional methods for her cancer, nor are the doctors allowed to recommend natural solutions to diseases. I find the whole thing frustrating. Perhaps there is a better alternative that wouldn't make ur dad hallucinate but they are not allowed to speak of it becasuse of $$$.

Stay strong. Even though there are terrible things in the world God will redeem the world. And im not trying to tell u what to do, but don't forget to take care of yourself!! ur probably getting phone calls like that at work and its probably really hard.... but u gotta remember don't be to hard on yourself, get rest and eat well.......



He will swallow up death in victory; and the Lord GOD will wipe away tears from off all faces; and the rebuke of his people shall he take away from off all the earth: for the LORD hath spoken it."

Isaiah 25:8, KJV

"For the Lamb which is in the midst of the throne shall feed them, and shall lead them unto living fountains of waters: and God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes.

Revelation 7:17, KJV



"And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.

Revelation 21:4, KJV

Honor thy father and mother that thy days may be long on the Earth.

5th commandment. And comes with a promise for longevity if you abide by this

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kids hit out of frustration....in communication ?
IF you permit your child to slap you around under any circumstances, you are truly a fool.

Im no young kid im 37 year old man, i love respect my father but, am very much tired of his shit.
Bringing up old shit just to prove a point ect...
im one to forget about bullshit and move on.



My kid smacked me in the face on vacation in Hawaii so in return i man handled him made him cry, and then later told him why i did that. But I didn’t apologize to my son ( no reason).

My father had the audacity to bring that up like I did something wrong (btw I brought him with us)im a weekend dad.

My got the shit kicked out of me on a regular basis by the old man, on the phone tonight when he brought all this up, i had to tell him to shut the fuck up and dont talk about my son.

Im no young kid im 37 year old man, i love respect my father but, am very much tired of his shit.
Bringing up old shit just to prove a point ect...
im one to forget about bullshit and move on.



My kid smacked me in the face on vacation in Hawaii so in return i man handled him made him cry, and then later told him why i did that. But I didn’t apologize to my son ( no reason).

My father had the audacity to bring that up like I did something wrong (btw I brought him with us)im a weekend dad.

My got the shit kicked out of me on a regular basis by the old man, on the phone tonight when he brought all this up, i had to tell him to shut the fuck up and dont talk about my son.

My best friend of 37 years is starving himself to death.
I resolved to let him die how and when he wants.
Its not my wish for him

He's been my real life angel. Honestly hes saved me at least 100 times

Hes the closest to a husband ive had

I feel selfish wanting him to live in pain just so i dont have to face this world alone

Are you a parent?
Y3s, kids hit, they shit their pants and can't spell too.

has anyone else got to a point where they want to tell there

some times you gotta put people in there

My mom told me he had asked her several times 'Why can't I just die?'

As I stated earlier, my dad and I were not close. But I am with you, I don't want to end up in that situation.

I have told my wife that if I ever get in that condition, just put a bullet in me and throw me on the burn pile.