Correct, I should have been quietly saving up to leave.

Instead I was praying and hoping for the best because I really loved him and appreciated him so much.
But that person is nowhere to be seen.
And as I stated before, he twists all our good memories and acts like I'm worthless.

Afraid I already alluded to possibly leaving when he said his shrink made him see that perhaps he should get "someone on his level" who is more educated and career oriented.

I piped up that she shouldn't tell him how to think and that he knew I wasn't a career gal like his Mom long ago.

I am pretty bright even though I didn't go to college.

I like being a housewife and doing web design on the side.

His words stung and were unfair, so I asked him if I should just leave soon.

That was a few weeks ago and yes he's gotten much worse screaming. And it's quite clever and diabolic I dare say.

It's just creepy that his shrink has such a pedigree.
I'm tempted to post the name of her dad and see what I'm missinf from the rabbithole.

But I am thinking I will just come back to this thread AFTER i'm somewhere far awya that's safe, peaceful, and have more perspective.

Thanks for your input.