For those that have been abused, relief comes when your abuser dies | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 80755399 United States 08/17/2021 05:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For those that have been abused, relief comes when your abuser dies. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69005635 I cannot not tell you the relief I feel just finding out on a search that finally after 50 years my mother has died. I was abused physical, sexually, mentally and emotionally by my family through out my childhood and have a physical disability from neglect. My mother tried to kill me twice; once with knives the other time strangling me. Needless to say, you sleep with one eye open and never trust again. I have not seen my family, none of them in 30 years. I spent that time, healing myself and imposing my own witness protection program to hide from them, which is very difficult when they hire private investigators to find you. Its been a long tough and very lonely road. But I knew since I was a child that I was different than them, they cannot see how mean and evil they were/are. My mother told me multiple times that when I got older that if I didn't let her see her grandchildren or take care of her she would haunt me. "Well I AM WAITING BITCH! I am right here, come and get me!" See she was darkness, I am light and the light shall remain righteous and true. This is probably the best thing that has happened in years for me. Just waiting for the other 2 to die, guess the pandemic does have a silver lining. Today I am celebrating me, and I will thank my abusive family for this : "Thank you for making me brave and face things that no one should, through this experience I am a survivor. I went that extra mile to help innocent men, women and children. Now I am a warrior and I will fight to protect them. Glad I am nothing like You." What a shame. I could tell you you could have tried to love them and be extra kind and they would change, but it would have made no difference. You need to know this is the image of your family and honor the image if it is Godly. As far as the attitudes go, all that negativity is an evil spirit puppeting their image. Your real Mother's soul was never in her, it was just her image. Be at peace my love, be at peace. It's not your fault, never was. Get comfortable now and sleep. You have been through much. |
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FightForGod!
User ID: 80146778 United States 08/17/2021 06:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are overcome with evil. It is time to forgive those who have trespassed against you just as you hope the Father will one day forgive you. Stop living your life in the bondage of past hurts as you are ruining your future. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 ESV Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, |
26Degrees
User ID: 80385541 United States 08/17/2021 06:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For those that have been abused, relief comes when your abuser dies. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69005635 I cannot not tell you the relief I feel just finding out on a search that finally after 50 years my mother has died. I was abused physical, sexually, mentally and emotionally by my family through out my childhood and have a physical disability from neglect. My mother tried to kill me twice; once with knives the other time strangling me. Needless to say, you sleep with one eye open and never trust again. I have not seen my family, none of them in 30 years. I spent that time, healing myself and imposing my own witness protection program to hide from them, which is very difficult when they hire private investigators to find you. Its been a long tough and very lonely road. But I knew since I was a child that I was different than them, they cannot see how mean and evil they were/are. My mother told me multiple times that when I got older that if I didn't let her see her grandchildren or take care of her she would haunt me. "Well I AM WAITING BITCH! I am right here, come and get me!" See she was darkness, I am light and the light shall remain righteous and true. This is probably the best thing that has happened in years for me. Just waiting for the other 2 to die, guess the pandemic does have a silver lining. Today I am celebrating me, and I will thank my abusive family for this : "Thank you for making me brave and face things that no one should, through this experience I am a survivor. I went that extra mile to help innocent men, women and children. Now I am a warrior and I will fight to protect them. Glad I am nothing like You." WOW. How ironic and timely....even to the word "haunt". My mother even stated she didn't know if she was an angel or a witch. Prayers for your comfort now 🙏 and your continued recovery. It was a long wait. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 69005635 Canada 08/17/2021 06:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Quoting: Anonymous Coward 79242383 Thank you. I believe it made me stronger and more compassionate in helping others. I could have more understanding for those drawn to me that were abused. I will tell you what I told them: a hurt is a hurt. No ones pain is greater than someone else's, doesn't matter if it happens once or a hundred times it still hurts the same. People that have been abused would say well it only happened a couple of times, not over years like you. So that is what I would tell them. It still hurts no matter how many times. |
26Degrees
User ID: 80385541 United States 08/17/2021 06:17 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So you are living your entire life waiting for those who have hurt you to die so you can finally be happy? Quoting: FightForGod! You are overcome with evil. It is time to forgive those who have trespassed against you just as you hope the Father will one day forgive you. Stop living your life in the bondage of past hurts as you are ruining your future. Uh you have got that wrong there. Trespasses doesn't rise to the level of repeated torture. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 69005635 Canada 08/17/2021 06:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So you are living your entire life waiting for those who have hurt you to die so you can finally be happy? Quoting: FightForGod! You are overcome with evil. It is time to forgive those who have trespassed against you just as you hope the Father will one day forgive you. Stop living your life in the bondage of past hurts as you are ruining your future. Uh you have got that wrong there. Trespasses doesn't rise to the level of repeated torture. Thank you and God doesn't forgive those that take the mark of the beast, so yes repeated torture is not a simple trespass. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 72197802 United States 08/17/2021 06:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For those that have been abused, relief comes when your abuser dies. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69005635 I cannot not tell you the relief I feel just finding out on a search that finally after 50 years my mother has died. I was abused physical, sexually, mentally and emotionally by my family through out my childhood and have a physical disability from neglect. My mother tried to kill me twice; once with knives the other time strangling me. Needless to say, you sleep with one eye open and never trust again. I have not seen my family, none of them in 30 years. I spent that time, healing myself and imposing my own witness protection program to hide from them, which is very difficult when they hire private investigators to find you. Its been a long tough and very lonely road. But I knew since I was a child that I was different than them, they cannot see how mean and evil they were/are. My mother told me multiple times that when I got older that if I didn't let her see her grandchildren or take care of her she would haunt me. "Well I AM WAITING BITCH! I am right here, come and get me!" See she was darkness, I am light and the light shall remain righteous and true. This is probably the best thing that has happened in years for me. Just waiting for the other 2 to die, guess the pandemic does have a silver lining. Today I am celebrating me, and I will thank my abusive family for this : "Thank you for making me brave and face things that no one should, through this experience I am a survivor. I went that extra mile to help innocent men, women and children. Now I am a warrior and I will fight to protect them. Glad I am nothing like You." I can relate to this though there was no relief. Some people are evil and nothing you do will change that if there are demons. Thanks for the post, OP. I hope you can forget about the evil you had to endure. I cannot. |
JoJo1973
User ID: 77019696 United States 08/17/2021 06:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, I had a father like your mother. When he died in 2013, I felt - finally - free. I told the Universe I never want to hear from him like some people say happens to them when a family member dies. I would piss on his grave only he is buried on a military base. Damn. Never feel guilty about what happened to you. These people had a CHOICE in the way they raised and treated you. If you ever thought it was your fault (which is normal for abused children), remember it was not. I changed the cycle of abuse with my own children. They are fully functional and loved individuals and are successful in life. Take care of yourself now OP. You are not alone in your feelings. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 69005635 Canada 08/17/2021 06:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For those that have been abused, relief comes when your abuser dies. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69005635 I cannot not tell you the relief I feel just finding out on a search that finally after 50 years my mother has died. I was abused physical, sexually, mentally and emotionally by my family through out my childhood and have a physical disability from neglect. My mother tried to kill me twice; once with knives the other time strangling me. Needless to say, you sleep with one eye open and never trust again. I have not seen my family, none of them in 30 years. I spent that time, healing myself and imposing my own witness protection program to hide from them, which is very difficult when they hire private investigators to find you. Its been a long tough and very lonely road. But I knew since I was a child that I was different than them, they cannot see how mean and evil they were/are. My mother told me multiple times that when I got older that if I didn't let her see her grandchildren or take care of her she would haunt me. "Well I AM WAITING BITCH! I am right here, come and get me!" See she was darkness, I am light and the light shall remain righteous and true. This is probably the best thing that has happened in years for me. Just waiting for the other 2 to die, guess the pandemic does have a silver lining. Today I am celebrating me, and I will thank my abusive family for this : "Thank you for making me brave and face things that no one should, through this experience I am a survivor. I went that extra mile to help innocent men, women and children. Now I am a warrior and I will fight to protect them. Glad I am nothing like You." I can relate to this though there was no relief. Some people are evil and nothing you do will change that if there are demons. Thanks for the post, OP. I hope you can forget about the evil you had to endure. I cannot. Sorry you had no relief. We cannot never forget. Just move forward even baby steps. |
TlvmmCpoft
User ID: 80733612 Spain 08/17/2021 06:36 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What about when they never die? I was adopted into a family that lives to over 100. It's rare that anyone in my actual (genetic) family lives to be old enough to even see their first wrinkle. It's pretty much the reality-based equivalent to being owned by vampires. Last Edited by TlvmmCpoft on 08/17/2021 06:37 AM I don't know what lies they told you, but I can promise they were lies. There's a fine line between training, trauma, and torture. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 69005635 Canada 08/17/2021 06:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, I had a father like your mother. Quoting: JoJo1973 When he died in 2013, I felt - finally - free. I told the Universe I never want to hear from him like some people say happens to them when a family member dies. I would piss on his grave only he is buried on a military base. Damn. Never feel guilty about what happened to you. These people had a CHOICE in the way they raised and treated you. If you ever thought it was your fault (which is normal for abused children), remember it was not. I changed the cycle of abuse with my own children. They are fully functional and loved individuals and are successful in life. Take care of yourself now OP. You are not alone in your feelings. Thank you for sharing your experience it helps others. We are not alone. |
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oniongrass
User ID: 80365283 United States 08/17/2021 06:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For those that have been abused, relief comes when your abuser dies. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69005635 I cannot not tell you the relief I feel just finding out on a search that finally after 50 years my mother has died. I was abused physical, sexually, mentally and emotionally by my family through out my childhood and have a physical disability from neglect. My mother tried to kill me twice; once with knives the other time strangling me. Needless to say, you sleep with one eye open and never trust again. I have not seen my family, none of them in 30 years. I spent that time, healing myself and imposing my own witness protection program to hide from them, which is very difficult when they hire private investigators to find you. Its been a long tough and very lonely road. But I knew since I was a child that I was different than them, they cannot see how mean and evil they were/are. My mother told me multiple times that when I got older that if I didn't let her see her grandchildren or take care of her she would haunt me. "Well I AM WAITING BITCH! I am right here, come and get me!" See she was darkness, I am light and the light shall remain righteous and true. This is probably the best thing that has happened in years for me. Just waiting for the other 2 to die, guess the pandemic does have a silver lining. Today I am celebrating me, and I will thank my abusive family for this : "Thank you for making me brave and face things that no one should, through this experience I am a survivor. I went that extra mile to help innocent men, women and children. Now I am a warrior and I will fight to protect them. Glad I am nothing like You." She said you would have to take care of her as she was abusing you? That is quite twisted. . DON'T VAX, PROPHYLAX! ____________ There is no anger in Me: If one offers Me thorns and thistles, I will march to battle against him, And set all of them on fire. But if he holds fast to My refuge, He makes Me his friend; He makes Me his friend. (Isaiah 27:4-5) |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 69005635 Canada 08/17/2021 06:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 79242383 Netherlands 08/17/2021 08:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, I had a father like your mother. Quoting: JoJo1973 When he died in 2013, I felt - finally - free. I told the Universe I never want to hear from him like some people say happens to them when a family member dies. I would piss on his grave only he is buried on a military base. Damn. Never feel guilty about what happened to you. These people had a CHOICE in the way they raised and treated you. If you ever thought it was your fault (which is normal for abused children), remember it was not. I changed the cycle of abuse with my own children. They are fully functional and loved individuals and are successful in life. Take care of yourself now OP. You are not alone in your feelings. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 79242383 Netherlands 08/17/2021 08:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, I had a father like your mother. Quoting: JoJo1973 When he died in 2013, I felt - finally - free. I told the Universe I never want to hear from him like some people say happens to them when a family member dies. I would piss on his grave only he is buried on a military base. Damn. Never feel guilty about what happened to you. These people had a CHOICE in the way they raised and treated you. If you ever thought it was your fault (which is normal for abused children), remember it was not. I changed the cycle of abuse with my own children. They are fully functional and loved individuals and are successful in life. Take care of yourself now OP. You are not alone in your feelings. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 79210303 Netherlands 08/17/2021 08:17 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So you are living your entire life waiting for those who have hurt you to die so you can finally be happy? Quoting: FightForGod! You are overcome with evil. It is time to forgive those who have trespassed against you just as you hope the Father will one day forgive you. Stop living your life in the bondage of past hurts as you are ruining your future. Don’t judge the OP. |