I learned a lesson. In real time last night. Don’t judge those who love you.

Forgiving your father and then letting go (as well as forgiving yourself) is the path to healing and wholeness. God has given you a precious prompting, a nudging if you will, of making amends and healing any rifts, even the subtle, hidden ones.

God's grace is ALL in this. Your Dad is still with you. This is a gift. You have an opportunity to bridge any gaps leading to wholeness for both of you.

Praise God that your Dad came through the surgery with flying colors. It was encouraging and delightful to hear about his passion for his team. He's a fighter. It's a blessing to have a father with such spunk. The things that you were judging him for? Lift each and ev'ry one of them to God and pray that God grants you the grace to forgive and let go, and that He grants you the wisdom and discernment regarding revealing any of it to your father.

None of us are perfect. The more we realize that, the more we can be gracious to our fellow non-perfect and flawed human beings.

God knows your heart, and if you listen real hard, when it's really still and quiet, you might just hear Him rejoicing over you with singing.

Praying for your Dad, and all the family, and you too.

Keep on keepin' on.

That applies to loving parents only.

what's that mean? "loving parents"? Is a parent loving when they give correction? or is a parent loving when they smother the child with hissy kissies 24 hours a day?

I have judged my father many times. Both in life and death. He could be the nicest man you’ve ever met and then a mean fucker.

Never figured him out.

It doesn’t just have to be parents

Don’t take for granted those who love you:

That can be other family, longtime friends, new friends , boyfriend or girlfriend, wife or husband. God.

——————————

Try to stay positive and encouraged

You are loved. Greatly. Even if you can’t sense it. I’m telling you, you are loved. And you deserve to be happy and have joy.

The best remedy is to take the mindset, I won’t let his world destroy me, and I will overcome by the strength of the Lord.

Don’t let sadness or doubt consume your mind

Be strong.

Lots of love to you ac!

*I won’t let this world destroy me

Don’t let the world keep you from having peace

Have peace. Live for peace. Offer peace.

Thank you.

I benefited greatly from reading your reply.

Thank you for your prayers and your compassion!

My Dad is already texting me about baseball lol

Hahaaaaa that's DELIGHTFUL that your Dad is texting you about baseball!!! LOVE it!!! May God pour out His blessings and His joy and His delight and healing onto both of you and all the family in a concrete and visible way.

It's been a delightful blessing to read your posts about your Dad, and to see how God is mooooooving in all of this in each of your lives.

God bless each of you. Praying!!

I agree. I had a horrible father. I hope he's burning in hell forever. Unfortunately I don't believe in heaven or hell, but can only hope he's suffering.

But don't be fooled into believing some fucking narcissist or sociopath parent fucking loves you. They don't.

I said it doesn’t just have to be your mom or dad.

Friends new or old , love you

Wife or husband ,

Girlfriend or boyfriend,

God

————————

I send you lots of love

Try to stay encouraged

You are so loved and held!

Lots of love and happiness to you friend.

I’m sorry you had these experiences

God is the ultimate parent . Trust him . He loves you and wants you to have joy and peace

The world tries to bring us chaos and turmoil.

Don’t let it bring you down

Stay strong and stay encouraged

I'm for sure pissing on my father-in-laws grave.

Sending you love. Thank you for sharing this part of your soul journey.

“Do you not know that you shall judge angels?”

Righteous judgement is encouraged. Judge rightly. I judge others. I judge myself, as well, and probably much harsher than I judge others.

Any Christian that does not practice righteous judgement is faithless, and the enemy of God.

Truth.

We get power over dem normies. Can do whatever we want almost.

Perks of believing.

That’s the main key. Righteous judgement.

My judgement was not righteous

That’s what I believe.

And your right the Bible does say we shall judge angels and it also says the Saints will judge the earth .

But after what I just experienced. I’m not judging my family.

And I’m not a saint.

My Dad needs love and comfort and encouragement. Not judgement.

My son and I have been on the outs lately. We're not hating on one another, I just had to take an extended break. He judges me, and I just got fed up with it. I was feeling like a second class citizen.

My mom was in Ian, and while I was worried sick about her, I thought about my son. I thought about how it's going to hurt him when I go, despite he tells me it's not. This thought pricked at my skin, even.

I am giving him a call this evening, to see if we can get together for a meal. I'm not dying anytime soon that I know of, but we never know....and I want to make sure my son knows I love him.

Thank you for the thread, lovey....

Thank you!

May God also pour out his blessings and his joy and his delight and his healing for you and your family too!

Hi CosmicGypsy!

Hope you are staying encouraged and have a happy outlook even if it’s difficult sometimes.

I do ask God to bless you and be there for you

Glad you are trying to see your son!

This whole situation is just making me evaluate life and what really matters

Very wise words....... humans are not perfect. Truth and love are the cornerstones of peace and harmony. Truth is one of the most important gifts one could give to themselves and others. It is through truth that understanding and forgiveness can be achieved while developing the human spirit as it matures. It frees one from the bondage of lies or misunderstandings, and strengthens the pathway of love

What if I love nobody, and nobody loves me?

This makes judging quit easy, and I keep a clear conscious.

A win with the bonus for me,,

Pray for the strength to maintain the commitment after the feelings inevitably fade. Several experiences have revealed to me how transient emotions can be, even in sacred situations.

You are very loved.

I know it’s difficult to see sometimes, or believe that you are loved

But you are loved

And you need to just breathe and realize this and embrace you are loved

Hope you are having a good day and try to stay positive

You are so right. I understand what you are saying.

I’m really glad you posted this

Thank you!

Last Edited by Seekingtruthandhonor on 10/05/2022 12:16 AM

My pop was a BAD alcoholic after losing his job driving truck for 30 years. He bad a bad decision and drank some whiskey the night before he went out and got a DUI in ARK with a .01. truck drivers have strict DUI not like normal ppl. ACTION/LANE has zero tolerence and even tho he had high commendantions they fired him because he would agree to get into rehab. 10 years unemployed he was drinking at the end of his life 2 GALLONS of Jim Beam a day. We buried him on st pattys day ( the irony) in 2008. I neglected to go over to the house to see him since mom moved out through abuse because the utter shitshow I knew I would be walking into- walking naked in the front yard.. letting ppl steal stuff right under his nose passed out. this was 5 days before hand, and they said he had been dead for at least 4. I feel bad cuz now I never got to say I love him on lsat time, and 2 I possibly could have saved his life longer just by showing up, and I regret it to this day. I even picked him up at a gas station one night drunk out of his mind and gave him a ride home cuz truck had died, and he offered me money not even recognizing me as his son. That hurt me more than anything else, but when I got my DUI back then the same lawyer that was family friend and showed me a DUI he got that we didnt even know about- he blew .45!!!!!! that was how far he was gone- you guys dont know .40 is lethal to normal humans.

RIP Larry you SoB, but ill always still love you

That must have really hurt. Him not realizing you were his son when you gave him a ride home. I’m sorry you had to experience that kind of emotion.

You must be very strong in your soul and mind.

Dealing with alcoholics can be difficult

God bless you