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| Holldoll
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| aqmah
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| Holldoll
(OP) User ID: 35666578 United States03/19/2013 03:19 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've been In The Same Shoes For Ten Years And Can't Figure Out How To Fix It. I Dont Feel Like I Belong Here. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 36198255 Yes exactly, It's a feeling of not belonging. I've tried churches, playgrounds, and even went to a bar for the first time in my life just last year. None of them felt right. I went to a concert for the first time in my life as well, and while it was fun, I felt like I was in a dream. |
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| Face Palmer
User ID: 1149868  Germany03/19/2013 03:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What do you expect from going out with other people? What do you really need/want to achieve? Its probably something other people can't help you with, so you hunt the wrong target. "The world will soon wake up to the reality that everyone is broke and can collect nothing from the bankrupt, who are owed unlimited amounts by the insolvent, who are attempting to make late payments on a bank holiday in the wrong country, with an unacceptable currency, against defaulted collateral, of which nobody is sure who holds title." Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity. The woman who is not pursued sets up the doctrine that pursuit is offensive to her sex, and wants to make it a felony. No genuinely attractive woman has any such desire. - H.L. Mencken, In Defense Of Women |
| Venus Goddess
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| Artaius San
User ID: 24893080 Germany03/19/2013 03:27 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You´re a lovely soul. You just have to let go of try to get a hold on people, that simply don´t resonate with you. Most people nowadays are so deep in the state of hypnosis, they´re unable to question anything... even lesser the chance, they understand the true nature of things. It´s a process, as far as I´ve learned it. You try to make contact and find good friends, you realize, who cannot be your friends. This serves the one purpose, that you become aware of who you want as a friend.. Then those people can come into your life, I´ve seen this many times. Unfortunately likeminded people are scattered pretty evenly all over the place, here you´ll find some easily, I hope you find some neart to you soon. Realizing your topics in life is the first step, though it´s painful. Healing is painful most of the times at first. See, what I did there, I replaced the "n" in lonely with a "v".  Last Edited by A r c on 03/19/2013 03:27 AM There will come a time when you believe everything ends. This will be the beginning [Louis L'Amour] ~ A r c t u r u s |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 36453648  New Zealand03/19/2013 03:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | you have just described my life...I have also lost myself in motherhood over the last ten years and found it almost immpossible to connect with the women around me, playgroup small talk just aint me.. but I have been left reeling since november when my partner told me he was leaving me, apparently it was too much for him I didn't have an outside life- he outgrew me. Now I am studying to be a natural health practitioner and getting out and remembering who I used to be, which was scary but so worth it. you should do a course in something that interests you and that maybe you could turn into a carreer in time. you can be the best mum in the world, but your children, especially daughters need to see their mothers achieving for themselves. |
| LaniJane
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| Holldoll
(OP) User ID: 35666578 United States03/19/2013 03:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I lost a good chunk of my older friends when I started having children, I've grown passed that now. It's trying to make new friends that seems to be the issue. I am agoraphobic, as hard as that's been for me to accept. When in public places, it feels like my throat is going to close, and we went to the zoo the other day, which was HUGE for me. I stayed all day. It was a huge feat, especially while I was not medicated. The whole time, I'm seeing people acting like drones, like barbarians, and all while seeing the animals do the same thing. I suppose when I am around people, I want more intellectual conversation, I want deep thoughts so my mind will explode and I'll feel alive. You all are right though, every single one in some way or another. Expecting less, hmm, you're right. I used to make people smile , when things felt..well..simple. Sometimes people don't want heavy conversation. Sometimes they want to act like barbarians, drones, or even wild animals. I should learn to smile and be happy, and expect nothing. With time, maybe I'll learn to be lighter of heart. |
| Holldoll
(OP) User ID: 35666578 United States03/19/2013 03:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | you have just described my life...I have also lost myself in motherhood over the last ten years and found it almost immpossible to connect with the women around me, playgroup small talk just aint me.. but I have been left reeling since november when my partner told me he was leaving me, apparently it was too much for him I didn't have an outside life- he outgrew me. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 36453648 Now I am studying to be a natural health practitioner and getting out and remembering who I used to be, which was scary but so worth it. you should do a course in something that interests you and that maybe you could turn into a carreer in time. you can be the best mum in the world, but your children, especially daughters need to see their mothers achieving for themselves. That is my strength. Thank you! I've mulled the ideas over in my mind so many times. Hearing this makes it feel better, just knowing i'm not alone. That someone can achieve more than just motherhood. I don't know why I make myself feel so guilty for wanting something for myself, even if it's just an online course. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 3843875  Australia03/19/2013 04:14 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | you have just described my life...I have also lost myself in motherhood over the last ten years and found it almost immpossible to connect with the women around me, playgroup small talk just aint me.. but I have been left reeling since november when my partner told me he was leaving me, apparently it was too much for him I didn't have an outside life- he outgrew me. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 36453648 Now I am studying to be a natural health practitioner and getting out and remembering who I used to be, which was scary but so worth it. you should do a course in something that interests you and that maybe you could turn into a carreer in time. you can be the best mum in the world, but your children, especially daughters need to see their mothers achieving for themselves. That is my strength. Thank you! I've mulled the ideas over in my mind so many times. Hearing this makes it feel better, just knowing i'm not alone. That someone can achieve more than just motherhood. I don't know why I make myself feel so guilty for wanting something for myself, even if it's just an online course. I grew up in a 'family' with no affection, no bonding, no mentoring, I remember 'mum' telling me when I was about 8, that she would do the food, the cleaning and the clean clothes, but not to bother her with my needs for affection because she didn't have it to give. It might as well have been an institution (I found out my mother had been an orphan with no experience of family life, when I was about 30, plus she was at some levels a sociopath). In teen years I made friends with a Catholic family with the over protective, over interested widowed mother who neglected her own interests and her own future for the sake of an unhealthy level of mother bonding. Both scenarios are the extreme ends of the scale, it's better to be in the middle. You care, but not too much, you love but not too much. You don't sacrifice your life for children, it will not save you. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 2328655 United States03/19/2013 04:15 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I agree, i am now alone in my house with my two boys grown.And divorced, i dabbled in the online dating thing, but it really hard to connect with men of the same mind.It was a hard transition, but now I feel comfortable with the quiet. Bless you for the time you take with you're children. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 36478015 United Kingdom03/19/2013 04:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I agree, i am now alone in my house with my two boys grown.And divorced, i dabbled in the online dating thing, but it really hard to connect with men of the same mind.It was a hard transition, but now I feel comfortable with the quiet. Bless you for the time you take with you're children. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 2328655 I like aliens. Show me your tits. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29910226  France03/19/2013 04:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | At what point are the highs and lows of life too much for one person to handle? I ask this, because I'm recently off all my medication and I find myself over thinking things I haven't thought of in a while. Not necessarily bad things, but things I never really addressed in the first place, those things that the medicine covered up. I had a smile on my face the whole time, but the problems never changed, they were never fixed and here I am years later still facing the same issues. I didn't fix them, I prolonged them. Perhaps now I'll be stronger facing them than before?? Quoting: Holldoll For example, I've been a stay at home mom now for 12 years of my life. I'm only just now realizing that I'm lonely. My husband is a great guy, he's wonderful..but he's my only adult friend. Going out is a struggle for me, since as a child my mother was gone all the time, I made a promise to myself and my children that I would always be the kind of mom that was there for them. I've held true to them, but at what cost, and I think to myself..my own sanity is worth it for them to have great childhoods they don't have to 'recover' from. I don't want them to ever look back and say, "my mom was selfish". I don't know, maybe I'm over thinking it. Maybe I should just relax, and try to meet people. Even another mom would be nice, someone that I could talk to. Mostly the problem is that I don't feel normal around other moms, they don't see things the way I do. I've tried joining parenting websites/social networking and it always ends the same..with me looking around and feeling like I just don't understand the minds of these women either. There is only one soul that's ever gotten me, and that's my husband. Maybe I'm just incredibly lucky to have found my one true soul mate. I just don't want to burden him with my sorrows. I'm lonely, and I don't want to tell him that I need more adult social interaction. Maybe, someone here can give me some advice on how to tell him this. Also, we don't live near family anymore and when we did, I was still hesitant to let them watch the children. The children are the most precious things to me, and they've only been away from me maybe 2 times a year. I could very well get a nanny or a babysitter, but I am just frightened because no one could ever love my children more than me. Fuck you lady. I live alone. No friends. Haven't been on a date in 11 years. Love of my life is married to a guy who I wouldn't let wash my car. I DON'T have my health, have panic attacks every other day, haven't been out to a restaurant with anyone, to the movies - anywhere - for over a decade. Lost my job 3 years ago along with all my few work friends. Family only talks to me once a month (I assume to check and see whether or not I'm dead). Spent the best years of my life alone, in an apartment with 2 rooms sleeping alone on a couch fully clothed. I'm 35 and I fucking cry twice a week minimum and that's just the tip of my misery iceberg. For Christ's sake I went an entire fucking week last month and didn't speak to a single person - not an email, not a phone call, not even junk mail. A whole goddamned week. And you're upset because you don't have somebody to go bowling with? Your husband needs to punch you in your selfish fucking face cunt. Life needs to do to you what it's done to me you selfish, ungrateful asshole. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 36478015 United Kingdom03/19/2013 04:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | At what point are the highs and lows of life too much for one person to handle? I ask this, because I'm recently off all my medication and I find myself over thinking things I haven't thought of in a while. Not necessarily bad things, but things I never really addressed in the first place, those things that the medicine covered up. I had a smile on my face the whole time, but the problems never changed, they were never fixed and here I am years later still facing the same issues. I didn't fix them, I prolonged them. Perhaps now I'll be stronger facing them than before?? Quoting: Holldoll For example, I've been a stay at home mom now for 12 years of my life. I'm only just now realizing that I'm lonely. My husband is a great guy, he's wonderful..but he's my only adult friend. Going out is a struggle for me, since as a child my mother was gone all the time, I made a promise to myself and my children that I would always be the kind of mom that was there for them. I've held true to them, but at what cost, and I think to myself..my own sanity is worth it for them to have great childhoods they don't have to 'recover' from. I don't want them to ever look back and say, "my mom was selfish". I don't know, maybe I'm over thinking it. Maybe I should just relax, and try to meet people. Even another mom would be nice, someone that I could talk to. Mostly the problem is that I don't feel normal around other moms, they don't see things the way I do. I've tried joining parenting websites/social networking and it always ends the same..with me looking around and feeling like I just don't understand the minds of these women either. There is only one soul that's ever gotten me, and that's my husband. Maybe I'm just incredibly lucky to have found my one true soul mate. I just don't want to burden him with my sorrows. I'm lonely, and I don't want to tell him that I need more adult social interaction. Maybe, someone here can give me some advice on how to tell him this. Also, we don't live near family anymore and when we did, I was still hesitant to let them watch the children. The children are the most precious things to me, and they've only been away from me maybe 2 times a year. I could very well get a nanny or a babysitter, but I am just frightened because no one could ever love my children more than me. Fuck you lady. I live alone. No friends. Haven't been on a date in 11 years. Love of my life is married to a guy who I wouldn't let wash my car. I DON'T have my health, have panic attacks every other day, haven't been out to a restaurant with anyone, to the movies - anywhere - for over a decade. Lost my job 3 years ago along with all my few work friends. Family only talks to me once a month (I assume to check and see whether or not I'm dead). Spent the best years of my life alone, in an apartment with 2 rooms sleeping alone on a couch fully clothed. I'm 35 and I fucking cry twice a week minimum and that's just the tip of my misery iceberg. For Christ's sake I went an entire fucking week last month and didn't speak to a single person - not an email, not a phone call, not even junk mail. A whole goddamned week. And you're upset because you don't have somebody to go bowling with? Your husband needs to punch you in your selfish fucking face cunt. Life needs to do to you what it's done to me you selfish, ungrateful asshole. I'm starting to see why you're single. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 9014106 Australia03/19/2013 04:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Meditate. Tune in to God's Love and Energy which is Everywhere. There are souls everywhere too, which are influenced by your thoughts and actions - be conscious of the greater whole that you are an intrinsic part of. No need to tell your husband 'you feel his company is inadequate', tell him you would like some female friends, or you feel life would be better having more friends. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 36480647 United Kingdom03/19/2013 04:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 3843875 Australia03/19/2013 04:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Fuck you lady. I live alone. No friends. Haven't been on a date in 11 years. Love of my life is married to a guy who I wouldn't let wash my car. I DON'T have my health, have panic attacks every other day, haven't been out to a restaurant with anyone, to the movies - anywhere - for over a decade. Lost my job 3 years ago along with all my few work friends. Family only talks to me once a month (I assume to check and see whether or not I'm dead). Spent the best years of my life alone, in an apartment with 2 rooms sleeping alone on a couch fully clothed. I'm 35 and I fucking cry twice a week minimum and that's just the tip of my misery iceberg. For Christ's sake I went an entire fucking week last month and didn't speak to a single person - not an email, not a phone call, not even junk mail. A whole goddamned week. And you're upset because you don't have somebody to go bowling with? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 29910226 Your husband needs to punch you in your selfish fucking face cunt. Life needs to do to you what it's done to me you selfish, ungrateful asshole. ha, yeah can relate, the whole 'normal' middle class thing is it's own hell though, maybe this lady needs to realise that. It's such a blinkered existence. This is why family worshipping is a heresy, it will not save you because it's a heresy, no wonder OP found it lacking. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 24951761 France03/19/2013 04:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | At what point are the highs and lows of life too much for one person to handle? I ask this, because I'm recently off all my medication and I find myself over thinking things I haven't thought of in a while. Not necessarily bad things, but things I never really addressed in the first place, those things that the medicine covered up. I had a smile on my face the whole time, but the problems never changed, they were never fixed and here I am years later still facing the same issues. I didn't fix them, I prolonged them. Perhaps now I'll be stronger facing them than before?? Quoting: Holldoll For example, I've been a stay at home mom now for 12 years of my life. I'm only just now realizing that I'm lonely. My husband is a great guy, he's wonderful..but he's my only adult friend. Going out is a struggle for me, since as a child my mother was gone all the time, I made a promise to myself and my children that I would always be the kind of mom that was there for them. I've held true to them, but at what cost, and I think to myself..my own sanity is worth it for them to have great childhoods they don't have to 'recover' from. I don't want them to ever look back and say, "my mom was selfish". I don't know, maybe I'm over thinking it. Maybe I should just relax, and try to meet people. Even another mom would be nice, someone that I could talk to. Mostly the problem is that I don't feel normal around other moms, they don't see things the way I do. I've tried joining parenting websites/social networking and it always ends the same..with me looking around and feeling like I just don't understand the minds of these women either. There is only one soul that's ever gotten me, and that's my husband. Maybe I'm just incredibly lucky to have found my one true soul mate. I just don't want to burden him with my sorrows. I'm lonely, and I don't want to tell him that I need more adult social interaction. Maybe, someone here can give me some advice on how to tell him this. Also, we don't live near family anymore and when we did, I was still hesitant to let them watch the children. The children are the most precious things to me, and they've only been away from me maybe 2 times a year. I could very well get a nanny or a babysitter, but I am just frightened because no one could ever love my children more than me. Fuck you lady. I live alone. No friends. Haven't been on a date in 11 years. Love of my life is married to a guy who I wouldn't let wash my car. I DON'T have my health, have panic attacks every other day, haven't been out to a restaurant with anyone, to the movies - anywhere - for over a decade. Lost my job 3 years ago along with all my few work friends. Family only talks to me once a month (I assume to check and see whether or not I'm dead). Spent the best years of my life alone, in an apartment with 2 rooms sleeping alone on a couch fully clothed. I'm 35 and I fucking cry twice a week minimum and that's just the tip of my misery iceberg. For Christ's sake I went an entire fucking week last month and didn't speak to a single person - not an email, not a phone call, not even junk mail. A whole goddamned week. And you're upset because you don't have somebody to go bowling with? Your husband needs to punch you in your selfish fucking face cunt. Life needs to do to you what it's done to me you selfish, ungrateful asshole. I'm starting to see why you're single. I used to be a nice guy, a team player, Captain Chivalry and everyone's friend. I got kicked, used, shit on, beaten, cheated on and thrown away. I am the polar opposite of who I was my whole life. I am what happens to the 'good guy' when he's all used up. I don't want to be this person but then again I didn't ask for cancer, glaucoma and to be abandoned by everyone and everything I loved. Que Sera, Sera I guess. But hey, thanks for being an anonymous judgmental dick about it anyway. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 36480647 United Kingdom03/19/2013 04:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | At what point are the highs and lows of life too much for one person to handle? I ask this, because I'm recently off all my medication and I find myself over thinking things I haven't thought of in a while. Not necessarily bad things, but things I never really addressed in the first place, those things that the medicine covered up. I had a smile on my face the whole time, but the problems never changed, they were never fixed and here I am years later still facing the same issues. I didn't fix them, I prolonged them. Perhaps now I'll be stronger facing them than before?? Quoting: Holldoll For example, I've been a stay at home mom now for 12 years of my life. I'm only just now realizing that I'm lonely. My husband is a great guy, he's wonderful..but he's my only adult friend. Going out is a struggle for me, since as a child my mother was gone all the time, I made a promise to myself and my children that I would always be the kind of mom that was there for them. I've held true to them, but at what cost, and I think to myself..my own sanity is worth it for them to have great childhoods they don't have to 'recover' from. I don't want them to ever look back and say, "my mom was selfish". I don't know, maybe I'm over thinking it. Maybe I should just relax, and try to meet people. Even another mom would be nice, someone that I could talk to. Mostly the problem is that I don't feel normal around other moms, they don't see things the way I do. I've tried joining parenting websites/social networking and it always ends the same..with me looking around and feeling like I just don't understand the minds of these women either. There is only one soul that's ever gotten me, and that's my husband. Maybe I'm just incredibly lucky to have found my one true soul mate. I just don't want to burden him with my sorrows. I'm lonely, and I don't want to tell him that I need more adult social interaction. Maybe, someone here can give me some advice on how to tell him this. Also, we don't live near family anymore and when we did, I was still hesitant to let them watch the children. The children are the most precious things to me, and they've only been away from me maybe 2 times a year. I could very well get a nanny or a babysitter, but I am just frightened because no one could ever love my children more than me. Fuck you lady. I live alone. No friends. Haven't been on a date in 11 years. Love of my life is married to a guy who I wouldn't let wash my car. I DON'T have my health, have panic attacks every other day, haven't been out to a restaurant with anyone, to the movies - anywhere - for over a decade. Lost my job 3 years ago along with all my few work friends. Family only talks to me once a month (I assume to check and see whether or not I'm dead). Spent the best years of my life alone, in an apartment with 2 rooms sleeping alone on a couch fully clothed. I'm 35 and I fucking cry twice a week minimum and that's just the tip of my misery iceberg. For Christ's sake I went an entire fucking week last month and didn't speak to a single person - not an email, not a phone call, not even junk mail. A whole goddamned week. And you're upset because you don't have somebody to go bowling with? Your husband needs to punch you in your selfish fucking face cunt. Life needs to do to you what it's done to me you selfish, ungrateful asshole. I'm starting to see why you're single. I used to be a nice guy, a team player, Captain Chivalry and everyone's friend. I got kicked, used, shit on, beaten, cheated on and thrown away. I am the polar opposite of who I was my whole life. I am what happens to the 'good guy' when he's all used up. I don't want to be this person but then again I didn't ask for cancer, glaucoma and to be abandoned by everyone and everything I loved. Que Sera, Sera I guess. But hey, thanks for being an anonymous judgmental dick about it anyway. being rude does nt mean uve changed intrinsically. We cant al be little flowers like you H. |
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| Nocturnus
User ID: 10703360 United States03/19/2013 04:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | At what point are the highs and lows of life too much for one person to handle? I ask this, because I'm recently off all my medication and I find myself over thinking things I haven't thought of in a while. Not necessarily bad things, but things I never really addressed in the first place, those things that the medicine covered up. I had a smile on my face the whole time, but the problems never changed, they were never fixed and here I am years later still facing the same issues. I didn't fix them, I prolonged them. Perhaps now I'll be stronger facing them than before?? Quoting: Holldoll For example, I've been a stay at home mom now for 12 years of my life. I'm only just now realizing that I'm lonely. My husband is a great guy, he's wonderful..but he's my only adult friend. Going out is a struggle for me, since as a child my mother was gone all the time, I made a promise to myself and my children that I would always be the kind of mom that was there for them. I've held true to them, but at what cost, and I think to myself..my own sanity is worth it for them to have great childhoods they don't have to 'recover' from. I don't want them to ever look back and say, "my mom was selfish". I don't know, maybe I'm over thinking it. Maybe I should just relax, and try to meet people. Even another mom would be nice, someone that I could talk to. Mostly the problem is that I don't feel normal around other moms, they don't see things the way I do. I've tried joining parenting websites/social networking and it always ends the same..with me looking around and feeling like I just don't understand the minds of these women either. There is only one soul that's ever gotten me, and that's my husband. Maybe I'm just incredibly lucky to have found my one true soul mate. I just don't want to burden him with my sorrows. I'm lonely, and I don't want to tell him that I need more adult social interaction. Maybe, someone here can give me some advice on how to tell him this. Also, we don't live near family anymore and when we did, I was still hesitant to let them watch the children. The children are the most precious things to me, and they've only been away from me maybe 2 times a year. I could very well get a nanny or a babysitter, but I am just frightened because no one could ever love my children more than me. GET OFF FACEBOOK. |
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User ID: 1149868 Germany03/19/2013 04:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Also: KEEP YOUR DEPRESSING MARRIAGE TO YOURSELF  "The world will soon wake up to the reality that everyone is broke and can collect nothing from the bankrupt, who are owed unlimited amounts by the insolvent, who are attempting to make late payments on a bank holiday in the wrong country, with an unacceptable currency, against defaulted collateral, of which nobody is sure who holds title." Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity. The woman who is not pursued sets up the doctrine that pursuit is offensive to her sex, and wants to make it a felony. No genuinely attractive woman has any such desire. - H.L. Mencken, In Defense Of Women |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 22771847  Tanzania03/19/2013 04:55 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | At what point are the highs and lows of life too much for one person to handle? I ask this, because I'm recently off all my medication and I find myself over thinking things I haven't thought of in a while. Not necessarily bad things, but things I never really addressed in the first place, those things that the medicine covered up. I had a smile on my face the whole time, but the problems never changed, they were never fixed and here I am years later still facing the same issues. I didn't fix them, I prolonged them. Perhaps now I'll be stronger facing them than before?? Quoting: Holldoll For example, I've been a stay at home mom now for 12 years of my life. I'm only just now realizing that I'm lonely. My husband is a great guy, he's wonderful..but he's my only adult friend. Going out is a struggle for me, since as a child my mother was gone all the time, I made a promise to myself and my children that I would always be the kind of mom that was there for them. I've held true to them, but at what cost, and I think to myself..my own sanity is worth it for them to have great childhoods they don't have to 'recover' from. I don't want them to ever look back and say, "my mom was selfish". I don't know, maybe I'm over thinking it. Maybe I should just relax, and try to meet people. Even another mom would be nice, someone that I could talk to. Mostly the problem is that I don't feel normal around other moms, they don't see things the way I do. I've tried joining parenting websites/social networking and it always ends the same..with me looking around and feeling like I just don't understand the minds of these women either. There is only one soul that's ever gotten me, and that's my husband. Maybe I'm just incredibly lucky to have found my one true soul mate. I just don't want to burden him with my sorrows. I'm lonely, and I don't want to tell him that I need more adult social interaction. Maybe, someone here can give me some advice on how to tell him this. Also, we don't live near family anymore and when we did, I was still hesitant to let them watch the children. The children are the most precious things to me, and they've only been away from me maybe 2 times a year. I could very well get a nanny or a babysitter, but I am just frightened because no one could ever love my children more than me. Seek Jesus Christ and you shall never feel alone.  Psalm 91 " He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust. Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence. He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler. Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day; Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday. A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee. Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked. Because thou hast made the Lord, which is my refuge, even the most High, thy habitation; There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling. For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways. They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone. Thou shalt tread upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet. Because he hath set his love upon me, therefore will I deliver him: I will set him on high, because he hath known my name. He shall call upon me, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him. With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation." |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 30128220  Portugal03/19/2013 04:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
You're never alone here, holldoll :).