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| Spc__
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| TheOracle'sCookie
User ID: 75477895 United States01/30/2018 04:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Feel for ya, kiddo. Alcoholic/addict family members are toxic for your heart. The sooner you distance and allow them to "reach their bottom" (as they say in A.A.)...the sooner they can find their way to self preservation. Go to your local Alanon before you demand he exit, as you will have some skill-set to be able to cut through the chaos and maybe even do an "intervention" for him. If you care about this person I really believe this will help you do what you need to do for your own sanity--as well as be guilt-free for demanding personal borders. Good luck to you.  O'sCookie "Know ONE thing absolutely...and you will UNDERSTAND everything. Walt Whitman "Leaves of Grass" "...Buckle up buttercups cuz this shit is going to go biblical." GLP'er Thread: Update Pg14 2 Trees of Genesis! Alien Covenant Ridley Scott's new Movie: Carries Message on DNA and Ark of the Covenant! Video Thread: Updated: The Radcliffe WAVE Discovered along Milky Way's Dark Rift! Is this LaViolette's Super Wave? Thread: "Founder of Analytical Psychology," Carl Jung Called "Disturbed" Due to His "Red Book!" Video Thread: Greatest Secret of the United States, Causes of the Ice Age and Nova, Thread: 2-23-2020 pg. 8 Big Update: The DAVINCI EQUINOX CODE: Ancient Equinox temples were WARNINGS not "celebrations" of the sun." Thread: Disney's TV Series "LOST" MARATHON! Numbers/Script Match Future News! 2018-2020 Target Years. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 75422234 United States01/30/2018 04:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My older brother has lived with me for 2 years. He drinks every night and sleeps all day. I let it slide that he doesn't pay bills or babysit or do anything around the house. Quoting: Spc__ Today a woman he's been talking to messaged me about how I needed to find my own place to live and take care of my own kids because I'm taking advantage of him. He's been telling her that this is his house (it isn't) and he does all the work (he doesn't) and takes care of the kids all day every day (he doesn't). I'm not sure what to do. I am infuriated but he has nowhere else to go. He's 45 years old without a job, doesn't know how to cook for himself. I haven't told my husband about the messages because I know he won't stand for it. Last night he got so drunk he lost his phone and cigarettes. He woke me up, basically calling me a thief, along with a slew of other insulting things that didn't make any sense. I don't think I can let him live here anymore. you should kick d50 out |
| Spc__
(OP) User ID: 76014135 United States01/30/2018 04:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Feel for ya, kiddo. Quoting: TheOracle'sCookie Alcoholic/addict family members are toxic for your heart. The sooner you distance and allow them to "reach their bottom" (as they say in A.A.)...the sooner they can find their way to self preservation. Go to your local Alanon before you demand he exit, as you will have some skill-set to be able to cut through the chaos and maybe even do an "intervention" for him. If you care about this person I really believe this will help you do what you need to do for your own sanity--as well as be guilt-free for demanding personal borders. Good luck to you. O'sCookie Thanks. My main concern is that if I kick him out he will move in with My parents, who cannot deal with his issues or afford him. He had a crap hand at life but over the past two years I've realized he was more responsible for that than I previously thought. "Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth." |
| Spc__
(OP) User ID: 76014135 United States01/30/2018 04:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My older brother has lived with me for 2 years. He drinks every night and sleeps all day. I let it slide that he doesn't pay bills or babysit or do anything around the house. Quoting: Spc__ Today a woman he's been talking to messaged me about how I needed to find my own place to live and take care of my own kids because I'm taking advantage of him. He's been telling her that this is his house (it isn't) and he does all the work (he doesn't) and takes care of the kids all day every day (he doesn't). I'm not sure what to do. I am infuriated but he has nowhere else to go. He's 45 years old without a job, doesn't know how to cook for himself. I haven't told my husband about the messages because I know he won't stand for it. Last night he got so drunk he lost his phone and cigarettes. He woke me up, basically calling me a thief, along with a slew of other insulting things that didn't make any sense. I don't think I can let him live here anymore. you should kick d50 out  "Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth." |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 76188548  Australia01/30/2018 04:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My older brother has lived with me for 2 years. He drinks every night and sleeps all day. I let it slide that he doesn't pay bills or babysit or do anything around the house. Quoting: Spc__ Today a woman he's been talking to messaged me about how I needed to find my own place to live and take care of my own kids because I'm taking advantage of him. He's been telling her that this is his house (it isn't) and he does all the work (he doesn't) and takes care of the kids all day every day (he doesn't). I'm not sure what to do. I am infuriated but he has nowhere else to go. He's 45 years old without a job, doesn't know how to cook for himself. I haven't told my husband about the messages because I know he won't stand for it. Last night he got so drunk he lost his phone and cigarettes. He woke me up, basically calling me a thief, along with a slew of other insulting things that didn't make any sense. I don't think I can let him live here anymore. Agreed. And tell that woman you agree something needs to change, & briefly explain the real situation. |
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User ID: 76158953  Canada01/30/2018 04:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My older brother has lived with me for 2 years. He drinks every night and sleeps all day. I let it slide that he doesn't pay bills or babysit or do anything around the house. Quoting: Spc__ Today a woman he's been talking to messaged me about how I needed to find my own place to live and take care of my own kids because I'm taking advantage of him. He's been telling her that this is his house (it isn't) and he does all the work (he doesn't) and takes care of the kids all day every day (he doesn't). I'm not sure what to do. I am infuriated but he has nowhere else to go. He's 45 years old without a job, doesn't know how to cook for himself. I haven't told my husband about the messages because I know he won't stand for it. Last night he got so drunk he lost his phone and cigarettes. He woke me up, basically calling me a thief, along with a slew of other insulting things that didn't make any sense. I don't think I can let him live here anymore. Sounds Difficult To Watch Is To Be Prepared Not Just During The Bad Times But In The Good Times As Well A Good Watchman Never Lets His Or Her Guard Down Never Gives Occasion To The Enemy. Can't Shoot a Gun, Bait a Hook, Bake or Cook, You City Bitch! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73634152 United States01/30/2018 04:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For the sake of your children, show your brother The door. What's more important to you ? Your children's healthy and safe upbringing or continuing to enable your brother He has to hit rock bottom before he changes. Do it now while he has someone else in his life that can take th burden. Your kids and relationship with your husband are your number one priority. If you don't , then you will be taking advantage of your brother . My younger brother was exactly the same but only a few years younger. He finally got his shit together in life at age 43, after my parents kicked him out |
| Angryhomo
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| Alivenz
User ID: 76076651  New Zealand01/30/2018 04:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Where is he getting the money to buy alcohol and cigarettes every night? If he can afford those, he can afford to contribute to the household bills. And I agree with the other poster that you should set the 'misled' woman straight about what's actually going on. It sounds like your brother is living in a fantasy land, and I'm sorry, but you're enabling him. Good luck OP! Alivenz |
| Spc__
(OP) User ID: 76014135 United States01/30/2018 04:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Where is he getting the money to buy alcohol and cigarettes every night? Quoting: Alivenz If he can afford those, he can afford to contribute to the household bills. And I agree with the other poster that you should set the 'misled' woman straight about what's actually going on. It sounds like your brother is living in a fantasy land, and I'm sorry, but you're enabling him. Good luck OP! He gets them from the women he talks to, after my husband and I have settled into our area of the house for the night. He lives on our back porch so he has his own door. I can't figure out what woman wouldn't be able to put two and two together...if he's asking them for money for stuff, it seems it would be obvious he has no money. "Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth." |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1298243  Netherlands01/30/2018 05:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Where is he getting the money to buy alcohol and cigarettes every night? Quoting: Alivenz If he can afford those, he can afford to contribute to the household bills. And I agree with the other poster that you should set the 'misled' woman straight about what's actually going on. It sounds like your brother is living in a fantasy land, and I'm sorry, but you're enabling him. Good luck OP! He gets them from the women he talks to, after my husband and I have settled into our area of the house for the night. He lives on our back porch so he has his own door. I can't figure out what woman wouldn't be able to put two and two together...if he's asking them for money for stuff, it seems it would be obvious he has no money. well you believed his shit for years, so why shouldn,t she? as far as she knows you are the sponge/leech its all about what he tells her. you should kick him out, and talk to your parents about it. that you can,t live like this,and they can,t either. let them read the messages she send you as proof. your not responsible for other peoples lives if it ruins your own and your husbands and children. the reason he doesn,t need a job is because you take care of his every needs. no job no responsibilites no need for a job so spend his time drinking and doing what he wants. and your an idiot for letting him get away with that(bluntly speaking). kick him out, either het gets his act together and sobers up or someday you get a message that he has drunk himself into an early grave. you are responsible for your family,s life not his. |
| rockstar101
User ID: 39914443 United States01/30/2018 05:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How does he get the alcohol if he has no job? When the one great scorer comes to write against your name, he writes not that you won or lost but how you played the game. The stance and stare of a wolf you find yourself alone with will tell you that he is prepared to treat you as you would treat him. Whether that comforts or frightens you, he has told you all you need know about both. |
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| ChrisVet
User ID: 76168561 Canada01/30/2018 05:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My older brother has lived with me for 2 years. He drinks every night and sleeps all day. I let it slide that he doesn't pay bills or babysit or do anything around the house. Quoting: Spc__ Today a woman he's been talking to messaged me about how I needed to find my own place to live and take care of my own kids because I'm taking advantage of him. He's been telling her that this is his house (it isn't) and he does all the work (he doesn't) and takes care of the kids all day every day (he doesn't). I'm not sure what to do. I am infuriated but he has nowhere else to go. He's 45 years old without a job, doesn't know how to cook for himself. I haven't told my husband about the messages because I know he won't stand for it. Last night he got so drunk he lost his phone and cigarettes. He woke me up, basically calling me a thief, along with a slew of other insulting things that didn't make any sense. I don't think I can let him live here anymore. He's exhibiting sociopath traits. My 2nd eldest brother is a full blown sociopath. Keep far far away. [link to www.sociopathicstyle.com (secure)] "Do the Shit out of what you Love" |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72602043 Netherlands01/30/2018 05:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Alpacalips
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73317728  United Kingdom01/30/2018 05:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hes got to hit rock bottom and want to get help, otherwise he is sadly a lost cause at the moment. He wil lie and manipulate anyone he can to rationalise what he is doing. I know from experience, i personally hit rock bottom over christmas, have ended up in hospotal twice since and have seen how my selfish actions are destroying my loved ones. I have been to see my local alcohol support group today, and will hopefully be starting an in patient detox within the month. Not because i have too, but because ive finally realised i WANT too. Not just for myself but for those who mean a lot to me as well. I wish you and your brother all the best and i hope he realises before he leaves it as late as i did and nearly winds up dead. |
| Corkygreenstate
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 76190936 Australia01/30/2018 05:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My 50 year old brother is a raving alcoholic and (mostly)ex junkie. He now longer has the comprehension he used to have and gets into huge arguments over silly things. He lives with his GF who is a bigger alcoholic and is violent towards him While I have a spare room and a caravan, he is not welcome to use them for more than a weekend and even a weekend would be too much. He cannot live with our Mother cos we wont let him. He has to sort his own life out, its not up to us. He was such great fun as a kid...we did everything together. But that was a lifetime ago and I dont want to be a part of what is happening to him now. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 75995360 United States01/30/2018 05:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My older brother has lived with me for 2 years. He drinks every night and sleeps all day. I let it slide that he doesn't pay bills or babysit or do anything around the house. Quoting: Spc__ Today a woman he's been talking to messaged me about how I needed to find my own place to live and take care of my own kids because I'm taking advantage of him. He's been telling her that this is his house (it isn't) and he does all the work (he doesn't) and takes care of the kids all day every day (he doesn't). I'm not sure what to do. I am infuriated but he has nowhere else to go. He's 45 years old without a job, doesn't know how to cook for himself. I haven't told my husband about the messages because I know he won't stand for it. Last night he got so drunk he lost his phone and cigarettes. He woke me up, basically calling me a thief, along with a slew of other insulting things that didn't make any sense. I don't think I can let him live here anymore. Agreed. And tell that woman you agree something needs to change, & briefly explain the real situation. Cock block the poor drunk? You sir are a real piece of shit! Talk your brother up, maybe she will let him move in. |
| TruthSeeker_2018
User ID: 75819339 United States01/30/2018 05:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My older brother has lived with me for 2 years. He drinks every night and sleeps all day. I let it slide that he doesn't pay bills or babysit or do anything around the house. Quoting: Spc__ Today a woman he's been talking to messaged me about how I needed to find my own place to live and take care of my own kids because I'm taking advantage of him. He's been telling her that this is his house (it isn't) and he does all the work (he doesn't) and takes care of the kids all day every day (he doesn't). I'm not sure what to do. I am infuriated but he has nowhere else to go. He's 45 years old without a job, doesn't know how to cook for himself. I haven't told my husband about the messages because I know he won't stand for it. Last night he got so drunk he lost his phone and cigarettes. He woke me up, basically calling me a thief, along with a slew of other insulting things that didn't make any sense. I don't think I can let him live here anymore. you should kick d50 out   Make pain a friend and you will have a friend for life. ~ Robert R. McCammon “Make friends with pain, and you will never be alone.~Ken Chlouber |
| BRYinTX
User ID: 61595971 United States01/30/2018 05:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Rehab or throw is drunk ass out. I have had the same problem in the past. Son wouldn't do rehab so out the door. He's now in prison for a few years. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71038999 did the same with my stepson. tried to help him get on his feet for years but he would do nothing to help himself. called the cops one night when he went too far and he's been on his own since. lived in the woods for a while and now he's in jail. kicking them to the curb is all a family member can do anymore because you can't have them committed for treatment unless they go voluntarily. even then they can walk out anytime after a few days. even the courts can't make them stay if they have committed no crime. it's not illegal to be an alcoholic or crazy, unfortunately. |
