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Anonymous Coward User ID: 76527948 United States 04/29/2018 08:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I paid off my wife's student loans - then she filed for divorce after two years of marriage Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26356609 Apr 29, 2018 10:36 a.m. ET Dear Moneyist, Before I married my wife two years ago, she had huge amounts of debt to her name, including large amounts of student loans. After we married, we diligently almost paid everything off, helped by my salary being three times that of my wife. She recently asked for a divorce, saying she was taking the house and my retirement. My question is: Does the fact we paid off her debts she held before get spread evenly? Had I not paid all of her debts our net worth would be near the same with a better outcome for me. We've only been married a few years, and frankly I can't help feeling taken advantage of. The only advice I can find discusses whose responsibility the student loans would be, but now it just seems that she got me to pay all of her debts, and got some new stuff, while I threw away years of my life. Please tell me there's hope. Squeezed in Fort Worth [link to www.marketwatch.com (secure)] |
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User ID: 76351847 Canada 04/29/2018 08:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | . Last Edited by 5.0% on 05/09/2018 04:03 AM To Watch Is To Be Prepared Not Just During The Bad Times But In The Good Times As Well A Good Watchman Never Lets His Or Her Guard Down Never Gives Occasion To The Enemy. Can't Shoot a Gun, Bait a Hook, Bake or Cook, You City Bitch! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 70347919 United States 04/29/2018 08:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I paid off my wife's student loans - then she filed for divorce after two years of marriage Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26356609 Apr 29, 2018 10:36 a.m. ET Dear Moneyist, Before I married my wife two years ago, she had huge amounts of debt to her name, including large amounts of student loans. After we married, we diligently almost paid everything off, helped by my salary being three times that of my wife. She recently asked for a divorce, saying she was taking the house and my retirement. My question is: Does the fact we paid off her debts she held before get spread evenly? Had I not paid all of her debts our net worth would be near the same with a better outcome for me. We've only been married a few years, and frankly I can't help feeling taken advantage of. The only advice I can find discusses whose responsibility the student loans would be, but now it just seems that she got me to pay all of her debts, and got some new stuff, while I threw away years of my life. Please tell me there's hope. Squeezed in Fort Worth [link to www.marketwatch.com (secure)] LOL if i was a female i would do that shit too. If your brain is wired like that then your are a female |
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DuckNCover
User ID: 76496256 United States 04/29/2018 09:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | A similar thing happened to me, but it wasn't student debt. My wife had an emergency appendix operation. We had no medical so I charged it. $7000 in medical bills, not including anesthesia. As a good husband, I paid it. A few months later she filed for divorce. Luckily I put it on a credit card and I filed for bankruptcy. Only had to pay a fraction of the bill, but left my credit score in a very bad way. That was 15 years ago and have learned from my mistakes.... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 76341124 United States 04/29/2018 09:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If there's leeway in the law to allow it, a judge might seriously order her to repay him some of that money, because she's being so coldblooded about it. Men can do OK in divorce courts, but they have to be cold about it like their soon-to-be-ex is. If men lose the love, they can outdo the women because they're better strategic thinkers. Women have only their ruthlessness. |
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User ID: 43575835 United States 04/29/2018 09:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You have my deepest sympathy. Same thing happened to my son - twice. The new woman in his life already has her loans paid off and a Ph.D.. Does NOT want to get married. Smart. The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is. Winston Churchill Daily Updates Thread: ASS IS IN THE WRINGER - Rolling Updates from 11/16/20 to present (Page 316) |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 20666949 United States 04/29/2018 09:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I cant say they don't have a point. Without consequences this is what happens, because women have questionable morals at best. Without consequences, It turns into pure selfish greed, the worst part about it is that the government is enabling women to do it. Tear it all down and replace everything. |
DuckNCover
User ID: 76496256 United States 04/29/2018 09:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If there's leeway in the law to allow it, a judge might seriously order her to repay him some of that money, because she's being so coldblooded about it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 76341124 Men can do OK in divorce courts, but they have to be cold about it like their soon-to-be-ex is. If men lose the love, they can outdo the women because they're better strategic thinkers. Women have only their ruthlessness. This is true, I won my divorce case. Wife owed me money, yet you can't get blood from a stone... |
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User ID: 76351847 Canada 04/29/2018 09:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I paid off my wife's student loans - then she filed for divorce after two years of marriage Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26356609 Apr 29, 2018 10:36 a.m. ET Dear Moneyist, Before I married my wife two years ago, she had huge amounts of debt to her name, including large amounts of student loans. After we married, we diligently almost paid everything off, helped by my salary being three times that of my wife. She recently asked for a divorce, saying she was taking the house and my retirement. My question is: Does the fact we paid off her debts she held before get spread evenly? Had I not paid all of her debts our net worth would be near the same with a better outcome for me. We've only been married a few years, and frankly I can't help feeling taken advantage of. The only advice I can find discusses whose responsibility the student loans would be, but now it just seems that she got me to pay all of her debts, and got some new stuff, while I threw away years of my life. Please tell me there's hope. Squeezed in Fort Worth [link to www.marketwatch.com (secure)] LOL if i was a female i would do that shit too. If your brain is wired like that then your are a female ;) To Watch Is To Be Prepared Not Just During The Bad Times But In The Good Times As Well A Good Watchman Never Lets His Or Her Guard Down Never Gives Occasion To The Enemy. Can't Shoot a Gun, Bait a Hook, Bake or Cook, You City Bitch! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 76341124 United States 04/29/2018 09:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If there's leeway in the law to allow it, a judge might seriously order her to repay him some of that money, because she's being so coldblooded about it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 76341124 Men can do OK in divorce courts, but they have to be cold about it like their soon-to-be-ex is. If men lose the love, they can outdo the women because they're better strategic thinkers. Women have only their ruthlessness. This is true, I won my divorce case. Wife owed me money, yet you can't get blood from a stone... Congrats! Be persistent in enforcing that judgment. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 76432271 United States 04/29/2018 09:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This is why there’s a large men’s movement (that you cannot name here) that has formed. Women will destroy any society that has become gynocentric. They destroyed Rome. They will destroy western civilization too. Check out The Rational Male. |
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You ain't seen nothing yet! User ID: 76507625 United States 04/29/2018 09:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | That's just like a woman. ^ I've started using their demeaning phrase in generalities like I have heard them say for years now. Kamala Harris is not a Natural Born Citizen. She's illegally running. Used by the Founders... Book I of The Law of Nations, Chapter XIX, § 212 (Joseph Chitty numbering) – “Citizens and natives” reads: 'The citizens are the members of the civil society; bound to this society by certain duties, and subject to its authority, they equally participate in its advantages. The natives, or natural-born citizens, are those born in the country, of parents who are citizens. As the society cannot exist and perpetuate itself otherwise than by the children of the citizens, those children naturally follow the condition of their fathers, and succeed to all their rights.' 1758 Emerich de Vattel Oh' What the Hell, do I look like I want to die in some nursing home one day... America must have 4 new Constitutional Amendments... 1. Drug Tests and Mental Evaluations on all politicians and judges randomly five times per year. 2. Term Limits for Federal politicians and judges. 3. Mental and health standards for Supreme Court Justices and retirement age set. 4. A 'Star Chamber' of elected Natural Born Citizens (no attorney's) to ivestigate, try, and prosecute the politicians and government employee's as they see fit. Mandatory death penalty by public hanging is the merciful sentence for pedos and their associates. Democrats are a WMD, literally. Let Justice Be Done Though The Heavens Fall. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 73590308 United States 04/29/2018 09:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I paid off my wife's student loans - then she filed for divorce after two years of marriage Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26356609 Apr 29, 2018 10:36 a.m. ET Dear Moneyist, Before I married my wife two years ago, she had huge amounts of debt to her name, including large amounts of student loans. After we married, we diligently almost paid everything off, helped by my salary being three times that of my wife. She recently asked for a divorce, saying she was taking the house and my retirement. My question is: Does the fact we paid off her debts she held before get spread evenly? Had I not paid all of her debts our net worth would be near the same with a better outcome for me. We've only been married a few years, and frankly I can't help feeling taken advantage of. The only advice I can find discusses whose responsibility the student loans would be, but now it just seems that she got me to pay all of her debts, and got some new stuff, while I threw away years of my life. Please tell me there's hope. Squeezed in Fort Worth [link to www.marketwatch.com (secure)] LOL if i was a female i would do that shit too. If your brain is wired like that then your are a female This person is Canadian, so this explains everything. |
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User ID: 76351847 Canada 04/29/2018 09:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I paid off my wife's student loans - then she filed for divorce after two years of marriage Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26356609 Apr 29, 2018 10:36 a.m. ET Dear Moneyist, Before I married my wife two years ago, she had huge amounts of debt to her name, including large amounts of student loans. After we married, we diligently almost paid everything off, helped by my salary being three times that of my wife. She recently asked for a divorce, saying she was taking the house and my retirement. My question is: Does the fact we paid off her debts she held before get spread evenly? Had I not paid all of her debts our net worth would be near the same with a better outcome for me. We've only been married a few years, and frankly I can't help feeling taken advantage of. The only advice I can find discusses whose responsibility the student loans would be, but now it just seems that she got me to pay all of her debts, and got some new stuff, while I threw away years of my life. Please tell me there's hope. Squeezed in Fort Worth [link to www.marketwatch.com (secure)] LOL if i was a female i would do that shit too. If your brain is wired like that then your are a female This person is Canadian, so this explains everything. LOL! To Watch Is To Be Prepared Not Just During The Bad Times But In The Good Times As Well A Good Watchman Never Lets His Or Her Guard Down Never Gives Occasion To The Enemy. Can't Shoot a Gun, Bait a Hook, Bake or Cook, You City Bitch! |
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Wondering Mind
User ID: 73265267 United States 04/29/2018 10:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, a person needs to buy or be signed over unto them their home prior to any marriage, to keep it from being included in any divorce as being something obtained or bought while being a married couple. Prior assets or money before marriage that was not gained after marriage, it can be banked or invested as an assurance it is kept personal and yours alone, you can even attach a designated person of your family such as a child as being theirs in any event you pass away, or other situation or incompetency occurs. You can have the deed made up to also include a stipulation the property and home goes to the kin you list before your ever married. If you sale your home after getting married and buy another while married it is a joint obtained asset. You could be married for nothing more than to take your home and everything in your bank accounts, other assets. They would definitely want you to buy a home after the both of you got married, even if by pushing you to sell the one you have to do it, only to get around the pre-married stipulations when they sock it to you. Men do this to women as well, both of them comb the obituaries for widows and slither about to catch them while they are in that life changing event, to fleece them. Parents will pile up high student loans and postpone any marriage of their daughter, until they take it as far as they can then transfer that out and onto the husband and wife as well, most of the time it winds up the husband is paying the lions share of it. That being after he was set up for it before they even got married. If you freely spend or gift then it's gone for good and not to be regained. Most of the time the marriage has to be at least 10 years to get any part of the spouses retirement, 20 years is full amount depends on what type of retirement it is. Take care of your self before you get married cons are plentiful. Last Edited by Wondering Mind on 04/29/2018 10:26 PM The most precious things are the simple things in life, always present in the simplest of minds. |
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User ID: 73938027 United States 04/29/2018 10:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I paid off my wife's student loans - then she filed for divorce after two years of marriage Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26356609 Apr 29, 2018 10:36 a.m. ET Dear Moneyist, Before I married my wife two years ago, she had huge amounts of debt to her name, including large amounts of student loans. After we married, we diligently almost paid everything off, helped by my salary being three times that of my wife. She recently asked for a divorce, saying she was taking the house and my retirement. My question is: Does the fact we paid off her debts she held before get spread evenly? Had I not paid all of her debts our net worth would be near the same with a better outcome for me. We've only been married a few years, and frankly I can't help feeling taken advantage of. The only advice I can find discusses whose responsibility the student loans would be, but now it just seems that she got me to pay all of her debts, and got some new stuff, while I threw away years of my life. Please tell me there's hope. Squeezed in Fort Worth [link to www.marketwatch.com (secure)] LOL if i was a female i would do that shit too. God gave women a built in credit card for a reason many have learned how to use it Buyer beware Last Edited by I'm From TEXAS y'all on 04/29/2018 10:35 PM Abolish ICE! They took our slaves once, don't let it happen again -- Vote Democrat (I need a good signature line...help??) |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 76402616 Canada 04/29/2018 10:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not sure but what about Stack v Dowden 2007 and James v kernot 2011. Although they are UK cases, the might work in Canada. You need to provide evidence that you didn’t have the intention to share by keeping your finances separate. |
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