MARRIED MEN: Do you give your wife your ATM card?

Only married women low starred me.

"What kind of a question is that to ask? Of course a married couple should share everything including financial details, tee hee!"
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Yes, we have a trusting relationship. She didn't want to be on my account until all my divorce and child support was done. Even then, I talked her to do so.

We are both retired in our mid 50's and live off my pension.

But, be careful and maybe keep a separate account.

I had a separate account with my ex and transferred funds to pay bills, but she hacked into it and took all my money.

At any rate, cover your ass just incase.

Maybe set up another account you both share and keep yours.

tell that thing to unban me from chat.

Joint account. Everything goes in.
the only way it works...you are a committed couple.right?

When my buddy got married he explained to me the origin of the word husband, with the symbolic ring .. house band

Anyway

I just said, the ring goes on the ATM finger

They tend to spend until the house looks like a hoarders house.

Hashtag prayers

Pins for each other's phone? Lots of men and women are confused about privacy and secrecy. Privacy is what you get when you go to the toilet. Secrecy, in a marriage is not allowed. neither partner can have a Secret life beyond the marriage and telephone texting and such is not allowed to be Secret. When one partner or the other demands secrecy in their phone use and with other people outside the marriage, it's time to talk to a lawyer. This is a major Red Flag. Don't feel bad or shy for examining her phone. Men can't have Best female friends, and women can't have Best Male friends. Full Stop.
Because of the rampant cheating in today's relationships, I really wouldn't recommend anyone get married. Just live together if you love each other. If you get married, don't forget the prenups.
Good luck, white Boy. But WHY get married? Why bring the State into your relationship with your woman? The Laws are stacked against you in favor of the woman.

PS. Don't go to bed mad. Make up for whatever the problem was before turning off the light.

Last Edited by Bennder on 06/04/2023 10:13 PM

Aaaahahaha . Good luck dude , you will do whatever she says
immediately.

females will take your shit and slink off at the first opportunity of something better

I’m married and what’s mine is mine
She keeps her money she earns

If I let her touch my cash I’d be broke.

I don't get the shoe thing with women...still learning about that, but can't grasp it.

If you can't trust your spouse with all things, then don't bother to get married.

You need someone will stand back to back with you against all the problems this world can dish out.

If you become ill or injured you need a great spouse that can handle all of your accounts while you're laid up.

My spouse and I have our names on every credit card and account and we know each other's pins even into our banking and retirement accounts.

If you have any doubts in your choice of mate, then don't get hitched to them, also ...

Most importantly!
Don't be an ass during your marriage, like cheating, nights out, doing crap behind their backs or give them any reason to want to sabotage all your accounts.
If you're going to be an ass, don't get married.

I have all his passwords and I am the manager of all his finances.

I made more money than him for most of our relationship, so I had no goal of getting his money.
Now we have kids, so I have no plan to destroy his finances which would effect our kids.

this...

Cash? Lol. No need.

You're the man, brother.

Nope. Separate everything. When she leaves, I guarantee you she will take 100%, and that to her is "fair".

You don't have to prove anything to her.

It's only 'joint' until she decides to leave, then it's "her account and her money".

I am on marriage number 2. In my first marriage we only had a joint bank account. It was fine. Divorce was amicable and after 21 years of being divorced, we are still good friends.

Now, with hubby #2, we share NOTHING. I own a house. He owns a house. I own my cars. He owns his car. Everything is separate. I had a business and was making bank and was not about to comingle my money.

He is about 5 years from retiring. I have a large inheritance coming. We will be set for retirement but I will still not have any joint accounts.

That's just me.

Nope. We have separate accounts.

Till death do you part.

Lol, no. It's not that serious of a marriage, eh?

No.

She has her own card, linked to the same joint bank account.

Because, you see, we're a team. Neither of us spends significant money without talking to the other. In fact, she won't spend much on her own, or even after we've discussed it and agreed - a few years back, we needed to replace our clothes washer and dryer. We went shopping, picked out a few that met our needs, and came home to decide which ones to actually buy.

We decided, and I told her to go by the store the next day and pay for the, so they could be delivered. She wouldn't do it, even though it was just $1000. She said she just couldn't go spend that much money on her own. I told her it was OK, we'd been through all the options, made a decision, and she could definitely go pay for them. Still, she just wouldn't.

We've been together more than 30 years, and married nearly as long. We work together, not independently.

I'm set for retirement through a trust fund $1.8 mill+. I own a home, she doesn't. I own my 2 vehicles, we have no kids. I'm young, in my mid 30's so is she, but she doesn't have anything.

I love her to death, and want her to be okay if something happens.

IS she thrifty, practical, not impulsive, and or frugal? If she if not frugal and has any two of these other tendencies then keep your accounts separate. Transfer money to her if needed if she doesn't have her own income source.

Married once before any assets, he smoked crack and lost his value x1000, so I paid all the bills and bailed.(yeah I'm a shit wife if you're a druggie)
Married again, prenupt, all passwords & finances remained separate.