I watched my friend die today.*****update*****

I'm heartbroken.

6 years ago I took a job away from friends and family. I came several hours away from everyone and everything I'd ever known.

I set up home in a new place not knowing a soul. I came for work. I just couldn't find anything where I was.

This man worked at the new place. 25 years older than me. Immediately we became friends. We laughed, we drank, we ate together. He is married and welcomed me into his family. I spent many nights at his home with his wife. Spent every Father's Day with him.

Not a holiday that passed did he not invite me over, knowing I'd be sitting home.

He was my friend. My true friend.

On Saturday he was put in ICU for organ failure. Yesterday his heart stopped. He had brain damage because of it. Today, his wife asked me to be there while they pulled the plug.

What a heart wrenching thing to witness.

My heart is in shambles.

Please pray for Merrill (Chico)

I loved that man and my heart is broken.

Thank you GLP.


****UPDATE******10/4/2018

So, I made this thread almost a year ago when my best friend died. It's been a long year without him and I've missed him terribly.
Many nights I just cried, unable to accept his loss.

Things had been fine and I felt like I was moving on.Yet
unable to discuss his passing openly though, without choking up. Moving along, none the less.

That was until about two weeks ago. It was about a week before my birthday. I had gone to bed for the night. I felt an overwhelming loss for him and cried. Saying out loud how much I miss him.

The next day at work, a butterfly landed on my shoe. The next few days I came into contact with 5 butterflies. Either landing on me or within my reach. It was now my birthday and I'm at my daughters house. We're sitting outside talking and another butterfly lands between us on the table. I tell her that's 5 butterflies that have come close to me in only a few days.
She asked who had passed I had been thinking about. I tell her I cried a few days ago because I missed Chico.
She tells me not to worry, Chico is trying to tell me with the butterflies, he was close by.
I didn't think much about what she said, but it was nice to hear anyway.

This is the part that really hit home though...

Chico and I worked together. Every year in October our company sponsored a charity golf tournament. This was his highlight. He lived for this tournament and looked forward to it every year. He and I would do it together. Always a big deal for him.

So here it was a week after my butterfly stuff and the tournament is here. I'm dreading it. I don't want to do it without him. This was HIS event.
So, I decided on a whim to buy an extra ticket for his wife to go since this event meant so much to him.
She was delighted to go. She knew he loved it too.

There were probably 300+ people there. As soon as she sat next to me she said "I know Chico is here, he would never miss this". I agreed.
During the dinner they were passing out 50/50 cash tickets. For $20 you got 30 tickets all different numbers. They pull your ticket number, you win.

Don't you know, they call the number and Chico's sweet wife won! I jump up and yell, thank you, Chico!

She collects her cash and is crying saying she knew Chico made that happen.

We go home and a few hours later I get a call from her crying again. I asked what was wrong, through tears she told me, the ticket number she won with, was Chico's exact birthdate.

My Dear friend Chico, is trying very hard it seems, to let's us know he loves us and has not really left us. My friend Chico, I can't wait to see you again

Anybody have a similar experience?

Last Edited by Departing Azila_Again on 10/05/2018 06:57 PM