Why Women Have Totally Unrealistic Standards for Men, Dating, and Marriage

Depending on the age of the woman and what part of the country they were raised - brings about the expectations of a man they are seeking.

Young women want a hottie. In the 30s they want the hottie with money.

What traditional women find in many men is - a guy that plays video games, doesn’t know how to do anything at all - can’t fish, hunt, shoot, protect her, repair cars, work on the home or yard, has no hobbies other then pizza, beer and movies and video games, doesn’t cycle, hike, swim or do much of anything.

Yet they expect someone to look like a porn star and act like one too, and for that pleasure the woman gets to work outside the home and pay 50% of the bills, all while taking care of the home and children.

Men need to fall into traditional roles at a young age if they expect to find a quality woman. They themselves need to be traditional men.

Work hard, your family is the focus, love your wife like no other, you won’t find a good wife dancing on the bar during the weekend - a quality wife will be out doing normal hobbies or at church or volunteering somewhere or cycling or whatnot.

He needs to work hard, full time provide for everyone so she can take the traditional role of caring for the family, kids, home and her man and not have to work away from home. (You know the prerequisite of foreign brides).

Stop expecting her to carry 50% of the financial burden on top of the expectation of the children and household and looking like a cover model.

Be grown up enough before you marry to understand if a human being is growing in your wife’s body, it is going to change her body forever and ever , stretchmarks, saggy skin, deflated boobs. So there better be true love to keep you together and not looks.

After spending so much times stateside and overseas with military you see the same song again and again.

Men marry foreign women, they never expect her to work outside the home. They give her literally anything she needs and wants while she takes care of the house, kids and him. And if the foreign wife does work, that is typically because her family has then been brought over by the husband and they either start a business or they care for the kids. I’ve seen it over and over where the American wives were not given that luxury. They were always expected to work and pay 50% of the household on top of outside work.

Men have the same problems that they say women do - men expect a hot looking woman. They might be short, balding, out of shape and totally introverted, bad teeth but still expect a woman that looks like a model. When they could have a great life with a nice woman that looked like they do - but instead they simply get a Filipino wife and everyone knows why without even having to verbalize it...

There is enough blame to go around and can’t rest squarely on the
shoulders of women.

There are still plenty of women around that are looking for men not based on looks or money. But you have to find them in other places aside from a dating app or Saturday night club crawl. Try getting out in nature on weekends, going to whatever church function, volunteering, whatever the hobby is that you should get into.

I have 3 daughters, I have been married to their mother for 25 years, I'm a simple country boy and my standards are God, Family and friends. 2 of my girls are married to county boys with strong family instincts. tjey will do well.

My only advice on their wedding day was the words exactly..


Keep his belly full and his balls empty, make him ache to want to come home and see you. Try to look nice for him because we are visual creatures. Don't complain because he's gone working. Be a good mother.

Hoping some ladies chime in on a serious note.

To me anyway this is an area parents used to teach their kids but these days are divided by the feminist movement to -NOT- be that way.

More specifically I am curious if mothers today are teaching their girls to find a man -AFTER- 30, if at all. Seems to be what the millenials are doing - waiting until 30+ to seek out a real marriage.

Of course there are those who hook a guy to get prego and ass-rape his life so they have 'income' to look successful as a single mother, but that is not what this thread is about.